What It's REALLY Like Being A Tall Girl | Why It's Such An Isolating Experience

[00:00:00] Truthfully, Being Tall Can Be An Isolating Experience. I Mean Its Very Rare To Have A Moment Where You Can Just Feel Like Everyone Else. Whenever You Walk Into A Room You Immediately Get Noticed And Get Stares, People Feel The Need To Make Comments About Your Height, You See That Cute Fit Your Friends Are Wearing, Yeah You Can't Wear That Because Its Not Long Enough. Experiences Like These Do Add Up Over Time Causing Us To Constantly Feel Like The Odd One Out, Like The World Treats Us Differently Because Of Something We Can't Control.

[00:00:28] After A While We Kind Of Start To Wonder If There Is A Place Out There For Us Or Anyone Who Could Just Understand Or Relate Or Just Literally, I Don't Know, Just Treat Us Like Normal Human Beings. Today I Will Be Breaking Down Why Many Of Us Tall Women Feel Almost Like This Silent Loneliness And Why We Shouldn't Downplay This Or Pretend Like It Doesn't Affect Us. So Let's Get Into It. Good Morning Everybody You Are Currently Listening To A Tall Girls Podcast Hosted By A Tall Girl Named

[00:00:58] India. I Hope Everyone Who's Tuning In Today Is Doing Super Fantastic Before I Get Into This Episode I Do Want To Say Make Sure You Follow Me On My Socials At A Tall Girls Podcast On Instagram, TikTok, And Pinterest So That You Can Stay Up To Date On All Of The Latest Podcast Episodes And Catch A Glimpse Of My Everyday Life. Also Feel Free To Leave Me A Review And Let Me Know How Tall You Are. I'm Genuinely Curious. I Also Have A Monthly Newsletter Make Sure You Subscribe To That Every Single Thing That I Just Mentioned Is Going To Be Linked In The Description. Was That Intro A Bit Dramatic? Honestly No, Because

[00:01:28] High School Me, Middle School Me, Was Feeling

[00:01:58] As A Girl, As A Girl, As A Woman Has Its Moments. Like Obviously It Was Way Worse When I Was Younger. But Even Now As An Adult, Even Though I'm Like A Five-Year-Old Adult. Yes, I Say That Five-Year-Old Adult. But Even As An Adult It Has Its Moments. Just As An Example, Let's Listen To This Clip. As Soon As You Go In A Grocery Store As A Tall Woman, Everyone Looks At You, Double Take, You Know, Which Is Fine. Like We're All Used To That At This Point. What Becomes Really Exhausting And Annoying Is When I'm Just Trying To Look At The Frozen Fruit And A Group Of People

[00:02:28] First One Person Walks, Sees Me, And Their Eyes Like Wident. And I'm Like Yep, I'm Really Tall And I Just Kind Of Like Look Away. And Then Their Friend Walks Up And They Grab Their Friend And It's Like, Now You're Like, Okay, They Grab Their Friend And They're Like, So Tall, So Tall. And Like, I Would Be Lucky If That Happened To Me Once A Day. But Unfortunately, It Happens At Least Two Or Three Times In Every Single Store That I Go To. And At That Point, I Think Too It's Hard Because I Would Rather Have Somebody Come

[00:02:58] Come Up To Me And Ask Me All The Questions. Yes, I Played Volleyball. No, I Didn't Play Basketball. I'm Not Physical Enough For That. My Parents Are 6'5 And 5'10. I Don't Have Any Siblings. I, Yes, The Dating Pool Is Hard. Like, I Would So Much Rather Sit There And Have That Conversation. And Maybe That's Just Because I Do Enjoy Talking To People Because Believe It Or Not, I Actually Am Normal. But It's Hard When You Feel Like Everyone's Talking About You And It's Actually True. Because Everybody Can Relate To The Feeling Of Being Talked About.

[00:03:27] And It's Uncomfortable And It's Uncomfortable And You Get Self-Conscious. But Imagine That Every Single Day, Every Single Person You Pass In Every Single Social Situation Or If You're Literally Just Waiting In Line At The Grocery Store. But Yeah, As I Said A Little Bit Earlier, This Kind Of Highlights The Idea That, You Know, Sometimes We Feel Like Outliers. We Feel Like The Odd Ones Out. And It Really Goes To Show That Being Tall Can Truly Affect You Socially, Like In Your Social Life, In Social Situations.

[00:03:55] Especially Just In The General Public. Like In Just The Regular Public Area. I'm Talking Like Public Transit, Libraries, Coffee Shops, Malls, Grocery Stores, Etc. And You Know, People's Eyes Are Almost Always On You. Especially When You First Enter The Room. And Listen, It's Normal. It's Nothing Crazy Because I Don't Know, People's Eyes Tend To Gravitate To Like Things Or People Like Moving In Their Line Of Vision. And When That Person First Walks In.

[00:04:26] Yes, The Eyes Are Going To Be On Them. Or Even Just A Tall Person Because You Know We're More Noticeable. And I Feel Like That's Normal. But Just A Glance Or Just A Look, Fine. There Are People Who Stare As You Continue Walking. Stare You Down Low Key. And Even Sometimes Visibly Talk About You While They're Staring At You And Pointing At You. It's Yeah, It's That Bad. And Honestly, This Reminds Me Of This Time Where We Went To Tall Girl Brunch, Period. We Love Tall Girl Brunch. And It Was Me, Whitney Solange.

[00:04:56] And This Involves Solange Specifically. By The Way, She's At Glamazon Underscore Eleven On The Social Media Platforms, Period. Go Check Her Out. Love Her. And We Were Going To The Train Station And She Was Wearing Heels. And Just For Context, She Is 6'2 Without Heels, Without Shoes. So With The Heels, She Was Probably About 6'4 Or Whatever. So We're Standing In The Subway Waiting For The Train, Just Vibing Or Whatever.

[00:05:23] And You Know, I Am Pretty Hyper Aware Of My Surroundings. That's Just How I Am. And You Know, I Typically Like You Know, I'm Focusing On The Conversation Of Course. But I Typically Look Around Fairly Often. And Something That I Notice Is That There Were A Lot Of People Staring At Her. You Know, To Me That, To Me, I Guess To Me Being Around Her, It Wasn't Like Anything Insane Or Anything Because I Don't Know, I Guess I'm Tall And I Was Just With Another Tall Girl. Plus I've Also Met All Of Them Before, I Met Her Before.

[00:05:52] So I Was Kind Of Used To It, I Don't Know, Whatever. But There Were People Staring Her, I'm Talking Staring Her Down, Like There Were Short Ladies That Were Standing Like Probably A Couple Feet Away From Us. And I'm Telling You, One Of The Home Girls Was Looking Solange Up And Down. And I'm Like, Oh? But This Is Just One Instance That Happened To One Tall Woman. Like Imagine How Many Other Instances One Tall Woman Has Like This Or How Many Instances Combined That Other Tall Women Have Had. You Know What I Mean?

[00:06:22] And I Feel Like That Could Be Very Uncomfortable Especially If You Have Social Anxiety. I Think Being Tall And Having Social Anxiety Is Probably One Of The Worst Combinations You Can Have. That Anxiety Already Makes You Feel Like All Eyes Are On You. But Then On Top Of That Your Height Is Basically Screaming, Hey! Look At Me! Having Anxiety And Being Tall Does Not Go Together. It Is Stupid. It Is A Horrible Combination. Like Who Made That Up? When You're Anxious The Last Thing You Want To Do Is Stand Out. You Want To Blend In. You Want To Go Unnoticed.

[00:06:52] You Want People To Forget That You Exist. That You're Alive. That You're Even There. But When You're Tall You Don't Really Like Blend In. And Then Everybody Loves To Point It Out. You're So Tall. Like Dude You're Not Helping. It Is So Awkward. Already Being Like A Tall Girl Is Pretty Awkward. Because You Feel Like A Giant Next To Everybody Else. Like All The Girls Are Normally Pretty Short. For The Most Part I'm Always Like The Tallest Girl Like In Whatever Group I'm In. And I'm Not Even Like Six Feet Tall. I'm Just 5'8". And It's Not Just That I'm Tall But A Lot Of The Girls Are Super Short. Like Not Normal Short But Like Below Average.

[00:07:23] It's So Awkward. And Then On Top Of That You Have The Random Strangers That Have The Audacity. The Courage. The Boldness To Ask You Or Say The Dumbest Things. And Then The Jokes. Ugh. The Jokes. Can We Please Stop Making Stupid Jokes About Tall Women And Their Height? It's Not Funny. It's Not Cute. You're Not Funny. You're Not Cute. And I'm Talking About The People Making The Stupid Jokes. Not Necessarily You. But Like The Lakers Called They Want Their Center Back. Like Shut Up.

[00:07:52] I Think All The Jokes Against Tall Women Are Not Funny. And They're Actually Quite Insulting. And They're Not Ways Of Flirting. But Ways Of Continuously Making Fun Of Our Height. But Like The Constant Comments. The Stupid Jokes. The Stares. The Pointing. The Visibly Talking About You. And Saying Stuff About You. And So Forth. It Adds Up Over Time. And It Can It Can Be Pretty It Can Be Pretty Intense. You Know It Can Make You Feel Bad. And But These Are Like Strangers. They You Can Ignore Them. You'll Likely Never See Them Again.

[00:08:19] You Know It Just Hits Different When Those Things Come From Friends. Quote Unquote Friends. Or People That You're Close To. Even Family Members. Because Family Members Are Notorious About Making Comments About Your Body. Okay Not Even Just Your Height. Just Your Body In General. And Every Other Aspect Of Your Life. But Whatever. And You Know That's Something That I Personally Really Struggled With When I Was Younger. More So The Friends Part Rather Than The Family Part. Because You Know I Felt Like Because I Felt Like That One Tall Friend. That One Tall Girl In The Friend Group.

[00:08:47] Everywhere We Went I Was The Tallest One. I Stuck Out Like A Sore Thumb. I Looked Like I Could Be The Friend Group's Mom Or Older Sibling. Because To Be Honest Like Even Though I Was Tall Like I Visibly Looked Young. But You Know Because You're Taller People Just Assume That You're Older. So I Would Probably Say More So Older Sibling Older Sister Than The Mother Part. But Still I Was That Much Taller Than Them. But Like Their Comments Really Stung.

[00:09:15] Because I'm Pretty Sure You Know That Younger People, Kids, Especially Middle Schoolers, Like They Have No Filter. They Are The Rudest Human Beings Ever. Okay And You Know They Would Say A Lot Of Things That Just Made Me Feel Like I Looked Stupid. I Looked Goofy. Especially Because They Like To Call Me Lanky Or Goofy Or Goof Or Doofus. Also Got The Turn Doof Or Doofus From Family Members Too Which Is Pretty Outrageous. But Whatever.

[00:09:46] But Also Especially Comments About My Clothes. Because You Know I'm Not Like A Big Clothing Person. Not Really A Big Fashion Person. I'm Not Really Like That's Just I'm Just Not Really Into That To Be Quite Honest. And That's Perfectly Fine. Part Of It I Feel Like Stemped From When I Was Younger. Because You Know My Friends Were Able To Wear The Glittery Stuff. The Glittery Dresses And The Little Skirts And The Hot Pink Shirts And All That Stuff From Justice. Justice Was The Thing Back In The Day. Back In The Day As If That Was Like 30 Years Ago.

[00:10:14] Anyways But Justice Was The Thing During My Middle School Time. And All The Girls Would Be Able To Wear Those Clothes And Look Super Fly In It And Whatever. And I Was Just There Like In My JCPenny Clothes That You Know 30 Year Old 40 Year Old Moms Would Wear. Not To Say That There's Anything Wrong With That. But I Was Told Several Times That I Dress Like A Grandma. Quite Literally. And If You Told Me That Now I'D Be Like I Don'T Care. You Don'T Buy My Clothes. Shut Up.

[00:10:42] But I Mean I Feel Like As You Get Older You Just Place Less Judgment On People Because You Know We All Know Each Other's Situations. Anyways I'm Going Off On A Tangent. But Back Then When They Would Tell Me That I Would Dress Like A Grandma Several Times I Felt Really Bad. But That's The Only Thing That Was Able To Fit Me At That Time Because I Was Tall For My Age. I Couldn'T Shop In The Same Sections As Them. And You Know Those Types Of Comments Especially With My Clothes Among Other Things Just Got A Little Bit Worse As I Got Into High School.

[00:11:11] But Then On Top Of That As I Got Closer To High School The Situation With The Boys. Ugh. Boys. Ugh. I Mean Okay. Let Me Stop. Let Me Stop. But You Know What I Mean. You Know What I Mean. Okay. Especially Like In High School Time Where It Was Often I Wouldn't Say Necessarily Known But It Just Went Around That Like But It Was Kind Of Known Kind Of In The Back Of Your Head That's Like Oh Guys Don't Want Girls Who Are Taller Than Them Like That's Just The Whole Notion At Around That Age At The Younger Age.

[00:11:41] So You Know Being Tall. Being Taller Than Most Of The Guys At My School I Already Felt Like Insecure About My Height From The Previous Years But Then On Top Of That I Was Like Oh My Gosh Like I Have This Crush And He's Not Gonna Like Me Because I'm Taller Than Him And He's Gonna Think I'm Too Tall And He's Gonna Think Of Me As One Of The Guys And Da Da Da Da Da Da. Honestly I'm So Glad That I Was Not Allowed To Date In High School Because That Was A Time.

[00:12:09] I Know Now That The Focus Should Not Have Been That But You Know That Was My Thought As A Tall Teenager As A Tall Teenage Girl But I Mean It Is What It Is Dating As A Tall Girl Is A Very Interesting Situation. Interesting Type Of Thing You Just Gotta Find You Know Somebody Who Is Into That And Is Into You And Doesn't Really Care About Height. You Just Gotta Be Aware Of The Fake Ones That Pretend They're Into Your Height But Aren't Actually. Yes There Are Fake Ones Out There.

[00:12:35] Apparently There Are Guys Out There Who Claim That They're Into Tall Women Or Just Try To Make It Seem Like The Height Isn't A Big Issue And Then Go And Try To Forbid Their Tall Girlfriends From Wearing Heels. Oh Do You Hear That That's An Insecurity Alert. Tall Women Don't Make You Feel Short You Make Yourself Feel Short. That's Something Internal That You Need To Work On. You're The Same Person That You Were When We Walked Up. We're Just Taller Than You. It's Okay. Woo Woo Woo Woo. Woo Woo Woo.

[00:13:05] And Yes This Is A Furrow Furrow Thing. Just Take A Listen To This Clip. How Tall Are You? 5'11". Would You Ever Date Someone Shorter Than You? I Did One Time. How Tall Were They? 5'7". Damn. Yeah But He Like Kind Of Had A God Complex. The 5'7 Dude Had A God Complex? Yeah He Could Never Wear Cute Shoes. He Wouldn't Let Me Wear My Heels. He Wouldn't Let You Wear Heels Like Ever? Like What About Like A Formal Attire? Sneakers. Sneakers And Clippers. Kind Of Ruins. Do You Still Talk To Him? No I Go To Them.

[00:13:34] But Yeah Just Being Perceived As A Tall Woman Can Be Extremely Exhausting. It Can Be Extremely Draining. You Almost Always Have Some Type Of Label On You. Whether It's Masculine, Intimidating, Aggressive. Some People Assuming That You're Trans. No Tee No Shade If You Are. But Why Is That An Assumption For Many Tall Women? I Don't Know. Potential Athlete Model. This That The Other. It's Just So Much. And You Know It Can Get Pretty Exhausting.

[00:14:02] Especially When It Feels Like You're Constantly Fighting For Yourself. You Have To Constantly Defend Yourself Or Just Put A Shield Up Against The Judgment And The Mistreatment And The Microaggressions And The Stairs And So Forth And So On. And You Know Society Teaches Us From A Young Age That I'm Glad Things Are Changing Now But We Still Do Have A Ways To Go. A Long Way To Go. But Society Teaches Us That You Know In Order To Be Accepted And To Even Be Attractive Seen As Attractive As A Woman

[00:14:31] You Have To Be Smaller. You Have To Be Petite And We Already Go Against That You Know Because Of Our Height Because Naturally We're Tall So We're Already Comparing Our Height To Our Peers. We're Already Feeling Self Conscious About It. We Already Feel Bad About It And So Forth. We're Seeing The Shorter Girls On Social Media And The Adorable Outfits That We Can Never Wear. We're Constantly Sticking Out In The Crowd. We Get Unwanted Attention And These Experiences Do Add Up Over Time.

[00:14:58] It's Easy To Feel Like We Don't Belong Anywhere Especially Among Other Women. It's Easy To Feel Like The On One Out. To Feel Like No One Gets Us. No One Understands Us. And We'll Always Just Be That One Tall Girl In The Back Of The Photo That's Dressed In A Basic Fit Because Clothes Aren't Long Enough For Us. Or That Girl Who Gets Rejected Because Of Our Height. Because We're Too Tall. Our Partner, Our Potential Partner Sees Us As Too Tall For Them And They Don't Want To Be With

[00:15:27] Someone Who Is Taller Than Them. Or That One Girl Who Gets Made Fun Of Because Of Her Height. Truthfully, Being A Tall Woman Can Just Be A Very Isolating Experience When It Feels Like Nobody Else Can Relate To You. When It Feels Like The People Around You Are Significantly Shorter Than You Around The Same Height And You're Just That One Significantly Taller Person Compared To Them. And You Know It Really Does Get To You Over Time Because You Know When You Hear These Comments

[00:15:55] When You Get These Stares Constantly And So Forth You Already Feel Bad About Your Height In General But Then When People Other People External Factor Start You Know Kind Of Not Only Projecting Their Insecurities On To You Because Truthfully Some People Have Insecurities And Project That On To You To Make You Feel Like You're The Problem When Really They Have The Problem But When People Are Projecting Their Insecurities On To You Or Just Making Comments Asking Questions The Same Questions Over And Over Just From Different People And So Forth And So On That

[00:16:26] That Is Just Such A Draining Thing To Experience And It Can Feel Like So Much And It Feels Like Dang Like Is It Really That Bad? Like Is There Really Something Wrong With Me? For So Many Different People To Be Acting This Way Towards Me Simply Because Of My Height Like Dang Like Leave Me Alone You Know What I Mean? So Just As I Said In The Beginning Of This Episode That You Know Like This Is Not To Complain Or Anything

[00:16:54] About Being Tall Being A Tall Woman And Stuff Like That Because I Think That Being A Tall Woman Can Be An Amazing Thing But I Just Wanted To Say To The Tall Girlies Like If If You Feel This Way You're Not Alone At All We've All Been Through It We're All Still Going Through It And We're All Probably Still Going To Be Going Through It Years Down The Line But There Is A Whole Tall Girl Community Out There Waiting For You With Open Arms I'm Here For You You Got A Tall Girls Podcast We're All In This Together What's The Song?

[00:17:24] We're All In This Together We're Going To Band Together And We're Going To Get Through This Together All The Tips All The Tricks All The Hacks All The Rants All The Complaints Everything We're Going To We Got To Stick Together And We're Going To Do This Period Here If You Want To Participate In These Polls And Have Your Opinions Heard On These Episodes Make Sure You Follow Me On Instagram At A Tall Girls Podcast But I Did Ask You Guys In A Poll Do You Feel Like There's

[00:17:53] A Real Community For Tall Women 47% Of You Guys Said Yep A Strong One Too And 53% Of You Guys Said No Being Tall Feels A Bit Isolating Okay Like The 53% Saying That Being Tall Feels Isolating That Kind Of Validates The Whole Thing Of This Episode How It Can Feel Isolating How It Can Feel Lonely Just Feeling Like Nobody Understands Nobody Can Relate People Downplaying Our Emotions Our Feelings

[00:18:23] Our Experiences Even But Dang Like I Thought I Thought More People Were Going To Say That There's A Strong Tall Girl Community Out Here Like I Don't Know Maybe Because I've Been Involved With This Podcast So I've Been Actively At It For Almost Four Years Now About Four Years Now So Like I See It But Maybe Some Of You Guys Just Aren't Super Aware Of It Maybe We Need To Be More Vocal About That But That's Very Interesting

[00:18:52] I Didn't Think That More People Would Say That Being Tall Feels A Bit Isolating Isolating Let Me Know Let Me Know Let Me Know Your Thoughts About This In The Comments Or Even In A In A DM Anyways We're Going To End This Episode On A Question What Is The Dumbest Thing That Anybody Has Ever Said To You Because You're A Tall Girl And No I'm Not Talking About The Oh My Gosh You're So Tall Do You Play Sports Like Why Don't You Play No I'm Talking About Something So Horrible That It Literally Keeps You Up At Night The Comment

[00:19:22] Oh My Gosh You're So Tall Like You Make Me Feel So Tiny Like Literally No Something About That Comment Nauseates Me And I Don't Even Know Why So Yeah Let Me Know What You Let Me Know If You Agree With That In The Comments Let Me Know What's The Dumbest Thing You've Heard In The Comments Let's Talk About It Let's Chat About It Let's Trauma Bond Over It That Was Such A Weird Thing To Say But As I Said Before I'm Going To Keep Saying This Episode Is Not To Look For Sympathy Or Pity Or

[00:19:52] Complain Or Anything Like That Because They're Going To Be Out There They're Like It's Not That Deep And Oh Like I Would Absolutely Love To Have Your Head The Amount Of People Who Commented And Have It Really Shows That They Have Not Listened To The Episode At All Number One This Is Meant For Tall Girls If You're Not A Tall Girl You Can't Relate Why Are You Making Such A Comment Number One And Number Two It Does Have An Effect On Us And Our Self Esteem Especially When You're Growing And Developing And You Just

[00:20:22] Feel So Different And You Just Don't Know You Just Don't Know Yourself You Don't Know How To Be You Like Confidence Develops Over Time And You Just Don't Know How To Navigate It Your Body Is Changing Your Mind Is Changing Constantly And You Know Even Adults Are Like Saying

[00:20:36] These Things But this episode is not to get sympathy or anything of that sort. It's simply just trying to make sure that, you know, any tall girl listening to this right now, any tall woman listening to this right now, they just like, just to help them

[00:21:06] understand like, hey, you're not the only one. You're not alone. And your experiences are valid and your feelings are valid. So yeah, just putting words to a feeling that many of us have been carrying silently. So thank you so much for tuning into this episode. I really appreciate it. And I appreciate you. As always, feel free to hit me up on my socials at a tall girl's podcast. They're all going to be linked below. And let me know what you thought about this episode and just your thoughts, even your experiences. Let's share our tall girl experiences.

[00:21:34] What's like the dumb jokes that you've heard? What have people said about you? What are instances where, you know, you felt really uncomfortable with your height, especially in public, all that good stuff. Let's share them. And, you know, just really, let's just talk about it. Let's have a chat. And yeah, I really appreciate you guys. And I'm so glad if you listened to the end of this episode. And I'm so glad if you've been here since the first days of this podcast.

[00:22:02] And even if you're just joining us, like I really, truly do appreciate you listening and just tuning in and sharing your thoughts and experiences. And yeah, until, until I hear from y'all, I'll catch y'all in the next one. Good night and goodbye.