Are Tall Women Male-Centered? | How Our Dating Experiences Shape Future Ones

It's that time of year, y'all. The weather's getting warmer. Everybody's going to be outside more, and that means more dating, whether casual dating or more serious and looking for something long term. Many tall women have had their fair share of dating experiences, lots of positive ones and also some struggles. Many tell women talk about how their dates admire them and love the fact that they're tall, while others struggle with heighte fishing or men lying about being taller than they actually are, people telling them good luck with finding a husband because no man wants a woman taller than him, and even competing with short women for tall men. And I use the term competing very loosely here. Don't really like the idea of competing for a man, but whatever, you know, that actually reminds you that scene from High School Musical Too, I believe where Sharpey was basically trying to quote unquote compete with Gabriella for Troy, and she was like, you're just mad that I want and Gabriella was like, what's the prize Troy? Ooh she ate with that line, She ate with that line. Anyways, back to today's episode, we're just going to discuss some tall girl dating topics such as tall women's insecurities around dating male centered tall women, and even answering the question do tall men even like tall women? So, without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who is tuning in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say, make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast and Instagram to take talk and picture so that you can stay up to date on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave me review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a Montly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description. I hope everybody is doing super super great today. As I said earlier, we're going to be talking about dating, you know, as a tall woman. Several topics around that, mainly because a lot of these are it's like differ different topics, but they're also just good for TikTok videos or like shorter videos, if that makes sense. So I kind of figured that maybe we could just combine those topics, maybe like two or three, into just one longer episode. Now to introduce the topic of dating as a tall woman. I'm not going to get too into it because I'm sure we all get the gist, but overall, dating seems to be a mixed experience for tall women. Some deal with insecurities or being setishized, or their dates even lying about their height, while others have said that they have had no major problems. Would love to know where you fall on that spectrum. Anyways, let's listen to a few stories. I've had some people ask what it's like dating as a super tall woman. For reference, I'm six foot five. I think the presumption is that it's impossible for us to find men who want to date us. In my experience, that hasn't proven to be true. However, the issues arise when men are interested to know me physically, but not anything beyond that. I think a lot of men are interested in the novelty of being with a taller woman because it's taboo, it's not normal, and it's something new. There are some red flags that kind of indicate this to me. For example, if a guy's telling me, oh, I told my friends about you, I told them you're six foot five, and that's the only thing they've cared to mention, it's kind of a little red flag. Personally, I've dated from five to four all the way up to six'. NINE i don't discriminate against the short, king So i'd say the biggest struggle with dating is a tall woman is trying not to be. FETISHIZED i guess. One of the most annoying QUESTIONS i get asked the tall girl is if it's hard to, Date and the answer is, no it's not hard to date as a tall. Woman like stop asking me, That, like what is the presumption that is that? Hard, Like i'm six, Two i'm not that. TALL i don't Think i'm that. TALL i Know i'm. Tall than most, women but you can go out and find some men who are six two and. TALLER i think there are some factors that play into me having a good day in life as a tall. Woman. ONE i live In New York. City there's all types of people. Here there are so many people here. TOO i have a pretty good social, life social presence online AND i have a good social life in real. Life it gives me more opportunities to meet, people and more people. Just know about. You so people know about, you just meet more. People and the. Third, HONESTLY i would say that as a tall, WOMAN i take care of myself LIKE i work. Out you, know as a tall, woman your body is a. Temple if you have a, body you need to use that to your, utmost your utmost advantage. Point your body is your advantage. POINT i don't even mean that in a sexual, way like how you carry, yourself how you walk in a, room how you wear, clothes how you take care of your. Body that is what's really important as a tall, woman AND i feel like because of, THAT i don't have that many issues. DATING i think a very common issue that many tell women bring up when it comes to dating is feeling as though they look intimidating because of their, height and that being a reason why people don't approach, them WHICH i mean is kind of. VALID i, mean, honestly approaching anybody new is scary in and of. Itself you, know people commonly fear. Rejection but then on top of, that someone who may be visibly larger than the person who wants to approach. Them some people get scared or intimidated by that BECAUSE i don't, know they're probably not secure within. Themselves they're probably not secure within their, height and so who honestly knows what goes through their mind when, Thinking, oh she's intimidating because she's, tall like let's let's not go up to. Her BUT i, MEAN i personally think that it's because they're not really secure within themselves or secure within their, heigh and they're, thinking, oh like she's, scary like she's probably gonna be mean or gonna reject me Because i'm like. Sut and that last part is actually an interesting perspective THAT i found On. REDDIT i honestly figured THAT i would. Share but there was this, Guy i'm assuming he's a shorter guy On reddit who commented under like a dating post or whatever under one of the tall forum, things and he basically, said a woman being tall has never once discouraged me from wanting to talk to. Her, however the fear of being rejected for being too short for her, has and that really goes to show that it doesn't really have anything to do with, you or it doesn't have to do with the fact that there's something quote unquote wrong with, you that's the better way to phrase. It and it has more to do with the fact that maybe there's insecurity around their height and they don't want to approach it or risk. It but then on top of, that they also don't know where you stand on, that because a lot of taller women do say that they want someone who's taller than them or at least as tall as, Them so maybe they're like functioning under that notion as. Well but, truthfully you never know until you actually go up to that. Person so, yeah dealing with those. Assumptions but also you, know there have been tall women who have been rejected because of their hid, saying, oh like you're, pretty you're just, taller you're taller than, me or they just prefer their partners to not be. Taller and then there are those saying that tall women aren't feminine enough or attractive enough and just have a lot of rude things to. Say but then on the other side of, things there are people there are men who say that tall women are, everything tallomen are, all that tall women are. Superior as they like to, say let's listen to this, opinion. The best trend to come out of this year is tall women get in? Love, like how is it only just clock to you guys now that tall women are, Superior because every TIME i walk into a room or at a venue AND i see a tall, Girl i'm automatically looking like they have aura to me or they don't have to be necessarily, attractive but they catch my attention more than the most attractive. Going and it's like the fact that people are only just realizing this. Now it's like your mind's have been in The. Guda, bro all those guys calling women center, back saying that they need to guard the back. Post it's, like, bro these women are the, great it's the, superior. But we also have to be extremely careful Where, yeah they can think that our height is, attractive but is it at the point where they're basically, overfetishizing over sexualizing? Us you? KNOW i think in the one of the clips THAT i played, earlier there was this six' five women who has spoken, about, how yeah like sometimes she is like fetishized because of HER high a LOT of I think i spoke about this term called macrophilia or even like what is a death by snooz snow where people are like literally sexually sexually or whatever into that into women being significantly larger, than them and that is definitely one of the many red flags that you kind of have to look. OUT for, i mean if that's what, you're into go. For it but if that's not what, you're into if that's not what you're, looking for then that's definitely a red flag that you should look. Out for, and then speaking of, red flags what are some red flags tall women should look out for? When dating please feel free to share. Them now kind of, SWITCHING gears i also want to talk about how the dating experiences definitely impact tall women more so the. Negative ones the positive ones, are great and it's definitely great to have those to kind of like help you learn more, about yourself learn more about what, you want, help you, you know set, your standards but also find good partners who treat you well and view you as a human being instead of. An OBJECT but i feel like the negative ones definitely impact us negatively, of course in a way that kind of shapes our dating experiences for. The, worst, yes essentially because they do play a role on our mindset and. Our behaviors for. Future dating they basically shape our future, dating experiences but also how we show up and how we think and the things we say and do during those. Future experiences because think, about it the, saying, that oh, we're pretty but we're, too tall or we're tall and they don't want a, tall person or tall women aren't, feminine enough or let's say or maybe have like a tall and, athletic build or, you know them trying to masculinize us because of our bodies and. So forth things like that can even like the, intimidating, Thing right things like that can make us more aware of how we're perceived. Other PEOPLE and i, don't know the first thing that comes to my mind is kind of like the, scarcity MINDSET but i don't think that's necessarily the. Correct, term Essentially what i'm trying to say is that because we have had a lot of negative, dating experiences we, feel like oh, my gosh like we may never find like somebody who wants to be with me because of my height or everybody or all MEN or i mean talking about heterosexual, relationships here all men are gonna think this way about me and they're not gonna want Me because, i'm tall, and this that and the third and this can kind of affect how we present ourselves, in dates leading to some women feeling as though they need to quote unquote perform for the, male gaze if that. Makes, sense Okay what i'm trying to say here is that apparently sometime women come across as. MALE centered i honestly think that phrases, like oh you're never going to find a husband being, that tall or a man doesn't want a woman who's taller than him can't play a role in this because they influence how we see ourselves and how we show up. WHEN dating i honestly found three TikTok videos, on THIS but i don't think they really cover the Point that i'm trying. To make but, You know i'm just gonna play. Them, anyways okay this is just my. Tall confession if you are male centered and you're a really, tall woman or you're just very tall, in general you know that just it will never look good. On you Know what, I'm saying you will somewhat get the short end of. The stick and you want me to keep it a being. With you want me to. Be honest YOU know i said that taller women should not be. Male centered you already know what we go through, coming up, you know in, high school in, middle school being taller. Than everybody you already kind of get. My. Gifts okay the REASON why i said you should not be male centered if you're an extremely, tall, woman, well first sorter women can get away with it because can't nobody, see them no, shade okay and plus you don't want to come off it's just looking. Very Desperate like, i'm saying the bigger, you are the more people can, see you you Know what. I'm, saying, so yes it's gonna cause more of an effects if you catch as a. Tall woman the reason why you don't want to be male centered, is one, you know tall women are already self conscious of their height as it. Is already, and two you know people are always, ready to, you know tear you down because you may be taller than. The norm and then you, know three, you know being, male center you just. Look desperate you Know what, I'm saying you look desperate, as fuck and that never it never looks good, on you. You know so that's why it's important to pour into yourself and to have. That confidence, but ANYWAYS as, i said before those comments, about oh how are you gonna find a husband being? That tall, or, oh no man wants a woman, tall him this that and. The third. Those things, THE issue i think the big issue with that is a lot of those things are said to us when, we're young like starting, at, eleven, Twelve thirteen and, you know that's kind of a thing with all when men kind of, saying, like oh this trait is not what a, man likes or this isn't what a, man likes and this that and. The third and because those things are instilled in us at a very, young age it can lead to us becoming extremely male centered the older. We get and it's kind of similar here with the tall, women aspect, like yeah like those things in general can play, a role but then adding on top, of, that oh a man wants a woman who's more feminine and a man wants a woman in a shorter how are you gonna find? Out husband being? That tall isn't dating hard for you because, you're tall, this that and. The third hearing those for years and years, and years especially starting out when, you're younger you're just thinking, to yourself oh, my Gosh like i'm never going to find a Man because, i'm tall because of, my HEIGHT because i, look masculine because they're not gonna Think that i'm, feminine enough and this can ultimately lead to them being. Male centered and being male centered essentially refers to a mindset or behavior that prioritizes, men's perspectives needs and valid above. All else so what does this? Look like instead of ASKING. Do i like? This PERSON do i like this man sitting in front of me or next to me, or wherever you're more so thinking HOW am i coming across to? This guy does he? Like me HOW can i get him to? Like me maybe prioritizing his comfort or ego by slouching or trying to appear smaller or downplaying your height or. Your confidence maybe if you want to wear heels or you like, wearing heels maybe not wearing heels on that particular date or on those dates because you don't want to appear taller or bigger, than him because you don't know how he's going to feel. About that adjusting your personality or talking in a higher pitched voice to try to appear more feminine over sexualizing yourself or, your height or even trying to bring down other tall women and, be like, oh haha like she's just super tall and she looks, like this or she's that she's. So intimidating i'm just Glad that i'm not as tall as her. At this that and the third basically trying to bring down other tall women in front of this guy to make it, seem like, Oh like i'm not like all. Tall girls like whatever it. MAY be i hope that's making. Some sense also arguing with short women over, tall men or quote unquote trying to compete with short women for a. Tall man and of course that brings up the question do tell men even like? Tall women this question comes up very often in conversations, around dating and it's honestly a hard question to answer because some do and. SOME don't, i mean it's just a. Preference thing you should also be, asking yourself do you even like the tall guy who caught? YOUR eye i just think, that overall tall women have become way more sensitive to, male perception well, all perception but in terms, of dating male or heterosexual dating have become more sensitive to male perception because of, you know the things that we're told growing up and even some of the negative dating experiences which lead, them to, you know be a bit more male centered and care more about when men think about their height and how they can adjust themselves to sue that, guy's ego just in case you don't. Even know that's also the. Other thing you may not even know if he has an issue with your height. Or not and even if he does have an issue with, your height hit, the road jack and don't come back like you're going to. Be tall that's something that you. Can't change if you have an issue, with it that's. Your problem and there are so, many men there are so many people out there who love tall women and who love their height and don't say an issue in it and look for other qualities. In them and THAT'S all i have. To say, but anyways THAT'S all i have. For today thank you so much for. TUNING in i really, appreciate IT and i appreciate you. Of course. That's always feel free to hit me up out my socials and let me know what you thought about. This episode what do you think about tall women potentially be well some tall women being male centered and what causes that in terms of the things we hear growing up and the negative. Dating experiences what do you think what are your dating experiences like as a? Tall woman are? They? Good? BAD both a little bit of both, the bad it's to. Both worlds, but, yeah also what do you think about? THE whole i. Don't KNOW should i do an episode? ON that. I might i might cover that the topic of tall women quote unquote competing with short women for, tall men like, it's RIDICULOUS but i you, Know, WHAT yeah i might do an episode. On that but what do you think about that? As well share, your thoughts. Share experiences definitely want to. Hear it this could potentially be a. SHORTER episode i, don't Know but i'm in Final so i'm trying my best here to keep. Everything going, so yeah share, your thoughts share, your experiences. Comments dms my dms are Always open and UNTIL then i will catch you guys and the. Next one good night, and goodbye