THIS Is Why People Are So Mean to Tall Women?? | The Stereotype That Ruins It For Us

I'm sure you've heard of many of the tull girl stereotypes. We have masculine, intimidating athlete, amazon or Amazonian or whatever. And there's one that isn't really spoken about a lot, or at least I haven't spoken about it a lot, and it's the strong stereotype. Yes, physically, mentally and emotionally strong. Were there any times where someone has asked you to help carry something heavy and they say, oh, you're big and strong, or when you're facing struggles someone may say, oh, you can handle it, right. Those are just a few examples of the strong stereotype. So today we're going to dive deeper into that and how this affects how people speak to and act towards us. So let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girl's podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. Hope everyone who's sitting in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast and Instagram, TikTok and picture so that you can stay out the time on all of the latest podcast episodes. And catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave me review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description. I hope you all are doing great. I just want to give a quick little reminder to the tall girlies listening right now that you guys are awesome. Okay, quick little story time. If you didn't know, I'm going to guard school and there was some welcome reception that I attended, and there was this lady who works there who came up to our table and was just talking to a few of us, and after we introduced ourselves, she straight up said, oh my gosh, I love because there were a couple tall girls standing at that table, or I should say, a couple girls who were taller than her standing at that table. She's like, oh my gosh, you guys are tall. Like I absolutely loved Tall Girls. I was like, period, queen. I don't know. I feel like that would have been a good segway to be like, by the way, a Tall Girls podcast, but I didn't. I don't know. She was just talking about how she loves, you know, tall people, and how she's short, etc. But I just want to say that there are people out there who absolutely love and adore and admire us tall girlies. So I thought that was adorable and figured that I would bring that up on this podcast. All right, now that that's out the way, let's talk about these strong stereotype question for the tall girlies. I recently saw a video that was titled tall girls aren't treated feminine or I guess in a feminine way. What are your thoughts on this? Do you agree with this? While you figure that out or common or whatever. I'm going to play a clip from the video. I wanted to make a video talking about general biases that women who are plus sized, tall, black, and just big in general get. I am five eleven, I've always been plus sized, and I've always been tall my entire life. People view you like like you're not. You're supposed to be able to handle the things that come to you because of your height, because of your weight, because of your your race, et cetera. You're supposed to always be somebody shoulder to cry on, the person to call for advice, the person who listens to everyone else's problems, all of that. It's exhausting. Frankly, it's very exhausting. But I've experienced this particularly with like males, like male friends, male whatever, coworkers, male whatever, just males just in general. And you get treated in a way where it's almost like you are too big to be a victim of anything, whether it be violence, whether it be I don't know, harassment, bullying, et cetera, et cetera. That isn't real. Just because someone has. An outward appearance of a certain way does not make them less feminine, It does not make them less intelligent, It doesn't make them, you know, less of anything. Like Sometimes a person who has been violated is the victim, and it's unfortunate that people do not view us as that. And I find it very interesting that she mentioned that a lot of these experiences occurred from men, or men were involved in a lot of the experiences that she's had, And with that, it kind of seems like it rolls over into the dating world. Maybe, I don't know. Let's listen to this example. Let's talk about dating while being a tall woman. For reference, I'm five point ten number one. Many think i'd be wanting to wrestle. Yes, I'm tall, but I don't want to wrestle. You may thinking I want to play, like play them in basketball. I don't want to play basketball with you, like go play basketball with your homies. I don't want to play basketball with you eighty men that are shorter and have little man syndrome, Like there's little man syndrome, but then there's like, you're a tall woman, so he got little man little man syndrome. But it's not only men, Okay. On Reddit, it seems like there are a lot of experiences with men, women, old, young children, et cetera. Yeah, the tall girlhos on Reddit are talking about how people and strangers have made passive aggressive comments to them, call them rude names, gave them mean looks. Et cetera. So these are just some examples of aggressive behaviors towards tall women. And I've spoken about this in another episode where I discussed how people and adults even may have higher expectations of younger tall people or tall children because they're often seen as or perceived as older because of their height because usually taller people are old. You know, I mean, I guess that this is pretty straightforward yeah, so they may be given more responsibility for their age, or they may be expected to act more mature or do more things that you know older adults would do, or even receive harsher criticism. Now, why is this the case? Why do some people act more aggressively towards tall women? Why are they expected to handle struggles and aggression more easily or aggressive behavior more easily. This is kind of where we go into the strong stereotype. It seems like there are people who treat tall women a bit harsher because height is often viewed as masculine. So to them, the taller you are or the more height you have, the more you should be able to handle. Now, let's hear more about this height equaling masculinity type of experience. The first time I was ever called manly or masculine was when I was ten years old. One time I went to the movies with my dad and my mom and an uncle, and then we went to get Chinese food, and I had an uncle tell me, wow, Ayisha, you're just like your dad. You look just like a man. I was ten. I have never in my life been called a man. I had never in my life been told something so unwarranted by someone that I was supposed to be inspired by or look up to. And I still remember how it made me feel when he told me that. I remember bursting out into tears, crying, and my mom talked to him. My mom talked to him, and he eventually apologized. And now that I'm older and make social media content, I've gone viral on Twitter, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and I have been the subject of so much transphobia, so much masculinization of tall women, black women. I have had death threats, I have had disgusting things said about me and my femininity and if I was a girl or a guy, and so many things that Honestly, at this point, I've developed dissociated amnesia to forget the things that have been said to me in order to just feel okay as I am now. But height gets associated with power. So in a society that vis as masculine, dominant and authoritative, when a woman is tall, it kind of disrupts people's idea of what femininity is supposed to look like, because you know, women are quote unicot supposed to be feminine, but tall is masculine, So it's like, huh, Like what's going on here. So because we're tall, people just automatically assume we're strong. That's the association. So because of that, we are, in their eyes, supposed to be able to deal with more struggles and in more harsh hardship and more harshness. Even we should be able to handle quote unquote criticism or rude names or just brust things off. We're expected to be able to handle more, to lead, even, et cetera. So it really isn't necessarily I mean it could be, but it's not always necessarily about being tall. It's just about what being tall or height represents to other people and how they think we should behave because of it, leading to them not necessarily caring about our feelings. And listen, nobody's really obligated to care about our feelings. I mean, you kind of expect loved ones, closer ones to you, friend's family, significant others to care about your feelings, but strangers they're not really obligated to. But I mean, I feel like, as a human being in general, in society, you there's like slight expectation to a certain degree to have some type of respect. For a person. I did run a poll over on Instagram, and I'm gonna do just a quick little plug here. Make sure you follow me on Instagram at a Tall Girls podcast so you can participate in these polls and have your opinions heard on these episodes. But I did run a pole asking you guys, do you think people treat tall women more harshly because of their height? And I will say the answers, the responsors or whatever. It was like, I wouldn't say super duper even, but it was it was pretty close. Forty percent of you guys said yes, twenty seven percent of you guys said not really, and thirty three percent said maybe every once in a while, but obviously the most being yes or every once in a while. So I mean that just goes to show that stuff like this does actually happen, like some of us actually feel this way, and some of us tall women have actually experienced this. So I found it very interesting that it was pretty mixed. But for the most part, tall women feel as though we're treated harshly because of our height, whether it's from time to time or often or whatever it may be. But in their minds it's kind of like, oh if I say this or do this to them or give them a rude look or whatever, They'll be fine. They can brush it off, they can handle it because height is associated with being strong, being masculine, being able to handle harder things. And while we're talking about comments and rude names and stuff, now, as a tall person in general, when people act rudely towards you, or call you mean names or give you backhanded comments, what's your response, like, what's your go to ultimate comeback? Let me know, because I'm trying to take notes now, I kind of want to go back to the man thing that the lady was talking about earlier when she said that a lot of the aggression and the aggressive behaviors and the rudeness comes a lot from men, or male coworkers or just males in general. Listen, I'm not hating on men. I know this is not all men. Okay, I'm just throwing that out there. I'm not hating on men. But there's another layer to this as to why people treat tall Why some people, I should say, treat tall women the way that they do, and with that I mean in an aggressive manner and so forth, And that is insecurity. As we now, height is seen as masculine. So when a woman is let's say, around a man, and that woman is around their height or at the same height as them, or even taller. They're like, a woman taller than me, the same height as me, more masculine. Maybe she looks more masculine because she's taller than me, or maybe they feel like, oh, this woman may have a sense of power over me because she's taller. And by the way, these are insecure men, but they may not know how to process that. They may not know how to name that feeling or why they even feel that way. They may not even know how to seek help for it. So they take it out on the person that makes them feel that way, the people that makes it feel that way, and in that case that's tall women. Instead of admitting to themselves or maybe to other people about their insecurity or uncomfortability, they feel the need to lash out and act aggressively towards them a to maybe make that tall women feel less than so they feel like, oh, I put fear in this person's heart and that makes them feel better, or to make it seem as though, oh they're tough, they're bigger, they're better, they're stronger. Either way, it's kind of like a sick twisted way of making them feel better about their heighter themselves and or making the other person tall woman feel less thand so that they can kind of I don't want to say, kind of get a kick out of that, but Okay, if I feel bad about myself, I'm gonna make that tall woman feel bad about herself. Yeah. Essentially that they'd rather try to scare us or make us feel uncomfortable, or make us feel as though there's something wrong with our height. Listen to this clip really quickly. I'm six feet tall, so I know I'm tall for anyone, but like particularly for a girl today, I'm not gonna walk. This man comes out, taps me on the shoulder and goes, I just want to let you know I think you're too tall. Would you like me to slouch? Would that make you feel like less than asculated? Don't want to walk on my knees? Like what would make you feel comfortable? Like as if I'm walking around here not knowing that I'm tall, Like I woke up one day, I'm like, oh, the ground's really far away. I don't get what it is with people in height, Like no one would ever come up to you and be like, Wow, your hair's really brown. Men. I did want to pull over on Instagram asking you, guys, do you think some men feel threatened by your height? Oh? Wopping ninety percent of people's and oh yeah, I've noticed that, and only ten percent said hmm, not really ninety percent. Okay. I did expect it to be a high number, because a lot of the tall women that follow me on social media are in fact over six feet, are probably over like six one six two, they're like six two six three, six four. There's even one woman who's six' eight who actually hit me up to respond to this survey or pole and she, said it's not a tall girl. Problem if weak men feel, threatened and you, know that's basically the entire. Point they feel threatened because of their. Insecurity that doesn't mean that they have every right to lash out at us or act aggressively towards, us or be rude to us and so forth and so, on but it does go to show, that, hey, like there are some men out there who feel threatened because we're around their hight because we're tall or, maybe and then this kind of serves us to why they act the way they do towards us they should, though we should treat everybody with. RESPECT i will say, that but you, know the pole speaks for. Itself ninety percent of you guys feel like some men feel threatened because of our. Height so very. Interesting tall women deserve respect without being viewed as or called, intimidating to be seen as beautiful without being, sexualized to just exist without being made to feel as though our height is a problem because it's. Not our height is not a. Problem other people's insecurities and, societies views and stereotypes are the. Problem, okay our height shouldn't affect the way other people treat. Us our actions should and our feelings most definitely should not be. Dismissed, okay we may be, tall but we got feelings. Too we are human, beings you, know we have, emotions and we should be treated as women as any other woman would be, treated of, course with respect and all of. That, anyways thank you so so much for tuning. IN i really appreciate, it AND i appreciate you of course as. Always feel free to hear me up on my socials at A Tall Girls podcast and let me know what you thought about this. Episode do you agree that this strong stereotype kind of plays a role into how people treat, us how people see, us how people talk to, us and all of. That i'm genuinely, curious AND i thought that it was very interesting to explore this topic a little bit more BECAUSE i don't THINK i don't. KNOW i don't know if this is necessarily like a, stereotype the strong, Stereotype BUT i Mean i've heard it with like the strong black woman for, Example and, YES i definitely do think that race and skin color and. Etc does play a part in. That BUT i also do think that hype plays a part into it, too, because AS i said, before height equals. Masculinity SO i want to, know do you think that height plays a part in the strong? Stereotype do you think that plays a part in why some people may feel the need to lash out at, us or disrespect, us or be rude to, us or even act aggressively towards. US i want to, Know and if you have any, experiences of, course feel free to share in the comments where you're tuning into this, episode or even just shoot me A dm on my social is going to be linked in the. Description i'm up for a. CONVERSATION i love talking to you, guys of, course when it's respectful and within. Reason but if you want to feel free to hit me up and let me. Know and until Then i'll catch all in the next. One Good night and. Goodbye