Become More Confident In Your Height By Romanticizing It

Good morning everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who is listening today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast, on Instagram, TikTok, and Pinterest, so that you could stay up to date on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. And also feel free to leave me review let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. So this past weekend I went to a fair that was by my house. They had one that was running for about ten days, and of course I had to go on the second to last day because we love waiting till the last minute. But hey, sometimes I forget that I have long legs. When I went to the fair this weekend, I thought I was gonna get on all of the rides, but I was humbly reminded that I in fact can't, and I have the bruises to show for it. But nonetheless, I had a ball. I had a great time on the ride that I did actually get on, which were probably only three or four because I could only fit on three or four of the rides. They were actually pretty fun, considering the fact that I think that the fair was kind of made for kids. I think it was just made for all people. But a lot of the rides were kid rides, or maybe a lot of the rides were short people rides, who knows. But there were a lot of screaming children. Because it wasn't a parking lot of a college that's by my house, there were a lot of screaming children running around. I did get over stimulated at one point because it was just too much going on, and I was telling myself, Yeah, I'm gonna get on the kid rides too, Like you know how sometimes you like to just get on the kid rides. Or maybe that's just me, who knows. I was thinking to myself, Yeah, I'm going to be able to get on the kid rides and all that stuff. But the fact that I could barely fit on three or four of those rides, the big rides that I was able to go on, I don't think that it would have been smart for me to get on any kids rides, because when I went on those three or four rides. You know the little thingy that or just not necessarily the seat belt, but it's kind of like a lever type of thing that goes up and down like keeps you when you're a seat, but it's not necessarily a seatbelt. When the workers would try to put that down, like over me or whatever, I would have to angle my legs in a way that would allow them to push it down, because if I just had my feet flat on the ground, they would not have been able to push it down. And that was honestly a little bit embarrassing. No, it's not embarrassing. I am tall, and being tall is not embarrassing. What was embarrassing is that they could have made those seats a little bit bigger and that lever thingy that keeps you from flying out of the roller coaster a little bit higher. So what's really embarrassing is that they didn't cater to all people. They're discriminating and that's not a vibe. But less, even though I got on very few rides, I did have a lot of fun. So that's a great summer activity for me. Another thing something that has been popping up on my TikTok fyp and even my YouTube feed is this idea of romanticization, especially of alone time, because I've been noticing this past summer that I've been spending a lot of time alone. I've been enjoying a lot of alone time doing things by myself. And number one, that's a little creepy because are y'all stalking me? Do y'all know that I'm doing a lot of these things by myself? So you just want to feed me a bunch of stuff about alone time and romanticizing that. But I think that soon that will especially be a good thing because in a few weeks we're going to be heading into fall and winter, and it just the loneliness hits a little bit different when the weather gets colder, I guess you could say, or at least to me, HiT's a little bit different because it's around Holliday season and everybody's with family and friends and loved ones and essos and this and that and the other. And on top of that, not just being alone or spending time alone during that time period that can be frustrating. Also, it's easier to get into a rut or get out of routine at that point. A big part of that is because of the weather change, it gets colder, the sun is out for less time. So I think that as we get closer to that period, that's when romanticization is probably going to start picking up. So I guess the a'l Goes or whatever are trying to prepare for that moment. And it's even harder to know what the word romanticization even means. Oh my gosh, I'm having a hard time saying that word, but it's harder to know what it means because a lot of us growing up didn't really hear of that word. It wasn't really popular, it wasn't really common, it didn't become popular or a trend. So I think probably after the pen make where you're trying to romanticize the simpler things in life. So of course I decided to google it because why not. Got to use Google to our advantage. So when I googled it. The definition of romanticization is that ability or that action to idealize or make something better than it actually seems. It's like dealing with something or describing something in an idealized or unrealistic action, making something better than it seems, making something more attractive, more appealing than it actually seems, or even thinking about something in a romantic way. And that makes a lot of sense because when I scroll through TikTok or even go on YouTube and see stuff like that, people are more so romanticizing the things that they don't really want to do. So they romanticize going to school or going to work, or romanticizing doing chores around the house, or romanticizing alone time even because some people don't like alone time or or in that moment, don't really want to have alone time, but they still romanticize it anyways because people may not be available at that time and etc. Etc. And I personally see it as living life as though nobody is watching you, doing the things that you want to do, saying the things that you want to say that are within reason. Of course, both of those things pretending like you're being filmed for a reality show or even a movie, just being extra and doing things for the plot. As I like to say, I actually heard somewhere and it was a techtok of course, that it's not necessarily performing something as a task or routine or just another thing to check off her to do list, but it's more so performing that thing as a ritual. So I think she was talking about how she was getting ready or putting makeup on, or doing her hair and stuff like that, and especially if you're a woman, you kind of know this doesn't even have to be for women. This could be for everybody. But getting the process of getting ready can feel a little bit tedious sometimes, especially if you have to do it back to back to back to back every single day when you wake up, you have to take two to three hours to do your hair and your makeup, find the outfit and all that stuff. So it could kind of feel like a chore or a task. But instead of seeing it as a task or seeing it as a chore and just being like, oh my gosh, this is taking so long, my arms hurt, this, that and the other, she was saying, try to try to find ways, find little things to make that process better and enjoyable, and it turns into a ritual that's like, oh my gosh, this is something to improve my looks or to make me feel confident and all that good stuff. And it's like another thing which school you can if you have a long commute. I know I have a long commute, but if you have a long commute, you can listen to a podcast on the way out there to school, or you can put your favorite song or your favorite playlist on. You can take the scenic route and explore new places, discover new places, take pictures of everything, and or even leave just fifteen minutes earlier, just so you can discover a new place and just sit there for a second and really take it all in and appreciate what's around you. Put on a nice outfit, wear a nice shirt or a nice dress or whatever it may be, and allow people to gawk at you because you look in super fly that day. And even just the process of actually being in school and studying and doing homework. You don't necessarily have to sit in your room or sit in the school's library. You can go to a nice little cafe. You can do it outside, you could do it in a park. Just change up the scene or change up that routine a little bit. Find something or some things, few things that can add a little bit of spice to that process that you not necessarily you want to do or that you don't find enjoyable. It's kind of like finding the little things that can make that experience better, that can make it less of a chore, that can make it less of a task and leads you to complain less about it, and you kind of immerse yourself in that experience. You become more present, you become more mindful, leading you to become more appreciative and grateful and happy with the situation or happy with what you're doing, and that can indirectly lead to confidence, because it's just about finding things that make you feel good. And if you make that process or that task a good and enjoyable experience, it makes you feel good, makes you more confident. Am I over analyzing this? No? I'm not over analyzing this is this is the whole psychology with romanticization, at least in my opinion. You can very well have a different opinion. Everybody's entitled to their own opinion, but that's personally how I see romanticization and how that can potentially lead to confidence. And I think in all the tiktoks and the YouTube videos, that's ultimately what they're trying to say. And since here we're all about becoming more confident and loving being tall and loving our height, being more confident in our height, I'm thinking to myself, why don't we just romanticize our height? Does not lead to confidence, and I feel like it kind of could. Why don't we just idealize our height? Why don't we just make it more attractive or more appealing? And it actually seems. But that's also the other thing, because that kind of implies that you see it in a bad way. Don't get me wrong, some people do. I used to because I was so annoyed by it. I was so frustrated. But it's not actually as bad as it seems, or as bad as we're making it, or even as bad as other people are making it. Because keep in mind, these people out here, their comments on our heights, whether you're a tall, short, average, or whatever, they can also make that experience pretty bad. So then bringing that idea of romanticization, can we become more confident in our height by romanticizing it? So what does that mean? I'm just going off the whim here. I'm just coming up with random ideas. I am just taking my own experiences, the ones that I find extremely frustrating or annoying, or the things that I didn't like, and trying to see if I can make that better, and hopefully that can help me, and hopefully that can help you too. So let's take shopping for example. We've all been there. We've all been there. We've all been there. It's not even just about being tall, any height, or any body type in general. We've all been there. We've all struggled to find clothes that actually fit us properly, to fit us well, that hug us in the right places, that are long enough, short enough, whatever it may be, and it could take a long time to find what actually works for you. I know that when I go shopping, I take at least four hours because I got to go through everything. I have to pick up the same thing in like three different sizes because they just make sizing weird. Like a medium at one store is an a medium in another store. I don't like that, and then I have to try it on, and then I have to retry stuff on. It's a whole process. So I think that you can make shopping a whole day type of thing. Just carve out one day or carve out a couple hours in a day just to do that. And what I like to do is I like to look at a map and plant out where I go first and second and third and stuff like that. You can kind of create a list and go to those places, but also take a second to just walk around, see new things, experience new things, especially in the busy areas of the city areas, because if it's a nice day and you're going shopping, they have shows on because some people are doing weird acts like doing soccer tricks in the middle of the street, or they're playing music, or some people even sell food. You can get some food too, you know what I mean. So that's a great way to idealize that process. Or you can put on a podcast or put on your favorite playlist or your favorite song on repeat. I know I do that. I have that one song that I'd be repeating for four hours, and I think that kind of takes your mind off of the frustration of shopping and not necessarily finding what you want because you're partially distracted from that podcast or you're partially distracted from your favorite song, and it can add a little bit of spice or a little bit of flavor to that moment because you are just listening to something that is a favorite for you. Or you could even take pictures or take videos in the fitting room and you can look back and be like, oh, why do I look good at this? Or oh my hair looks good that day, or I could change this up. Let me experiment with that and yata get a yah. Or even if you find something that you like or find something that fits you well, you can buy yourself a tree. You can get a little candy bar, or you can buy yourself, like some good food, or you can buy yourself some good food, or you can go to that museum you've always been wanting to go to, Just something to reward yourself for completing that frustrating task. And I'm going to take a moment to say, here, where what you want to wear. I don't care how tall, I don't care how short you are. Where the heels, wear the short shorts. Where whatever it is you want to wear. Period. It's so much easier when you don't restrict yourself. Another example, everything is short for us. Let's just face it. Desks, sinks, counters, you're constantly hunched over. Your neck starts to hurt, your back starts to hurt, your shoulders start to round and hurt. So something to combat that is by stretching. I personally love to do this, especially once in the morning and once at night, because I feel like it kind of wakes me up in the morning and it calms me down at night, so it helps me sleep easier. You can romanticize that by just taking fifteen minutes, ten fifteen minutes out of your day, put on your favorite song, put on some meditation, put on your YouTube video, and just take some time to move your body, move your back, move your shoulders, and just stretch out all of the kinks and the pains that you feel. And another thing I'm going to go over as the comments, let me ask you something, if people were not commenting on your height, would the experience of being tall be as bad. It's the house of weather up there, or the oh my gosh, you don't play basketball, or the you're so big or you're too tall. It's comments like those that actually make the experience of being tall, or at least eighty percent of it, horrible. And I get it. I've been there. I am still there to this day. The other day, when I was walking in the street, I heard this man yell, oh my gosh, she's so big. She's six foot And I didn't even care to look back at this man because that was not worth my time. But I was thinking to myself, I bet you this man is five too and insecure. I bet you this man is five to and insecure because he is in the street screaming at the top of his lungs that some girl is big because she's six foot and that's horrible. But the thing that I like to think about with that is all celebrities get ridiculous hate comments, you know what I mean. All celebrities get hate comments. So if people are hating on your height and actually going up to you, up to your face and telling you these bad comments, that means that you're a celebrity in their eyes. You are literally a celebrity, because why else would they take time out of their day to go up to you and be like, haha, house the weather up there, or be like haha, you're too tall. If they had better things to do, they would not stop and tell you something as ridiculous that, So you're a celebrity in their eyes simply because they did that period. So essentially, I think that romanticizing being tall, or romanticizing your height in general is just taking the bad things and kind of flipping it into a good way, or doing little things or thinking certain things that make the experience better and less unappealing or less frustrating and less annoying. So I think that those examples were pretty good examples if you ask me. But all in all, I think that it's important to romanticize the things that are annoying or frustrating, because that's how you can get through them, and that's how you can find appreciation in them and be grateful for those things, and eventually you'll start to fall in love with them. And honestly, it's those annoying things or those bad moments that lead into your character development. So I want you to take that mindset into the weekend, into the next week, and into the next month, and into the rest of your life. So in closing, I personally think that romanticizing your height can't lead to confidence as long as you do it correctly. So yeah, I'm gonna end the episode here. Thank you so so much for tuning in. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you as always. Feel free to hit me up on my socials and let me know how are you going to start romanticizing your height? How are you going to start romanticizing your life? Do you have any other tips that I didn't say on this episode? Let me know I'm genuinely curious, and also feel free to leave me a review and let me know what you think of this podcast. Everything is going to be linked to the description and I will catch in the next one. Good night and goodbye.