Why Don’t People Take Tall Women Seriously?

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I want to get right into the topic of this episode, which is kind of about tall women downplaying their presence and how that leads to people not taking us seriously. Today, I'm going to talk about the number one reason why tall women feel the need to shrink themselves, both figuratively and literally, and this particular reason leads us to downplay our height and presence, which ultimately affects how people perceive us. There are a number of ways that tall women downplay their presence, punching over, speaking in a softer or higher pitch voice, avoiding heels, wearing clothes that make them appear shorter. Are you guilty of any of these? I'm actually guilty of one of these. When I was in middle school, I would literally speak with a higher pitch voice. I'm not even kidding, especially if I was talking to a guy I liked. I didn't know why I did that at the time, but now I'm convinced that I did that to appear less intimidating to others. All the cringing moments are coming back. And it was honestly funny to me because when I would participate in class, for the most part, we don't talk about freshman year high school English. But for the most part, I was pretty much a participator like I just I would talk a lot. I talked a lot, and whenever I would speak or participate in class, I would speak in my normal voice. So what did I think I was doing by trying to speak in a higher pitch voice when in general, in normal, when I'm talking in class to the teacher or whatever, I speak differently. I don't know. Don't I can account Okay, I can't account for middle school means actions, but don't question my thought process because I don't even know myself. But anyways, why do we like Why do you tall women feel the need to act a certain way? The answer is when we're femininity, we are trying to act more feminine. Why because society is telling us that we're not. One main reason, one contributing factor is because of our height. Because we're tall, we take up, we have a big presence, we are seen, oftentimes we are heard, all of which tend to be associated with masculinity or being masculine. However, femininity can come in different shapes and sizes, So all women can be feminine. Short women can be feminine. Hell, you don't even have to be a woman to be feminine. Femininity isn't a particular gender or size or body type. Isn't energy that you give off just in society, whether it's through interactions with other people or the media, movies and television shows, or even indirectly in schools, we're taught that being feminine means being small and dainty and frills and wearing pink and all that. But that's not necessarily the case. You can't really define the word femininity. It's not one definition for it, because it's gonna look different for everybody. Everybody is their own unique person. They're gonna have their own unique interpretation of that word. But even to this day, I feel like a lot of us still try to impersonate or emulate this quote unquote feminine image that's put out there in the world that leads us to hunch over or try to make ourselves smaller by now wearing heels or less intimidating, so we speak in a softer tone. You know, this honestly reminds me of a post that I came across on Instagram. I believe I don't know her name. I don't remember her name, but I believe her handle is a foot above the rest. And she posted this video she was wearing this stunning bridesmaide dress. Well, congratulations to the bride number one and number two. If you're listening to this right now, you look absolutely stunning in that dress. But she posted a video that when something along the lines of oh, like when people think that you can't be feminine at six ' two or something along those lines, and her cashts like, people are gonna think what they want to think, they're gonna say they want to say, but that doesn't necessarily mean that it's true. And I agree with that one hundred and ten percent. Just because one person is saying, oh, like, you're not feminine because you're like six two, that's their idea of femininity, and that doesn't necessarily have to be yours. Everybody has different views of these things, and you don't necessarily have to conform to one particular person or one particular group's views. Socially, women are conditioned to be small and to not be seen or heard, and the pressure to downplay our presence is amplified for us tall women who already stand out from the crowd, leading us to make ourselves smaller and constantly shrinking ourselves. Constantly making ourselves smaller comes at a cost. Not only does it play a part in our physical health, but it also chips away at our confidence, affecting our relationships with others and even ourselves. It can be hard to project confidence, command respect, and even be taken seriously and definitely heavy on the relationships with others. It's not even a thing of oh, how people see you in that sense, it's well, it is a little bit of that because that also plays a part in how they treat you, the opportunities that they could potentially want to give you. It could play a part in both your personal and professional life. And it's like even fake confidence to start before it actually becomes real and genuine. Even that can you know kind of I want to say convince people, but kind of like steer people to do things in a way that could be beneficial to you. It's kind of like, if you're not confident in yourself, how do you expect others to be confident in you? This isn't even heighth relative. In order for other people to start taking you seriously, you need to take yourself seriously and stop downplaying your presence. It all comes from within you. Like I kind of said before, it's not even a thing of getting people to like you or want to be around yourself like that. The point is respect, like when you're setting boundaries or standing from your decisions. Yes, they don't have to like you, but they can still respect you. In order for that to happen, you need to have that within yourself. That's respect within yourself, the confidence within yourself, taking yourself seriously so that other people could take you seriously. So I just wanted to talk about you know that one little reason why some people just don't take to Homemen seriously is because we're downplaying ourselves. It's because we're downplaying our height, we're downplaying our presence. We're not confident in it. And because we're not confident in it, other people are not going to be confident in us. Other people are not going to take us seriously, they're not going to respect us. So just digging within and trying to figure out the sole purpose as to why you're downplaying your height, the purpose as to why you're downplaying your presence, one of them, which is a huge one, being femininity potentially, but it's different for everyone. Like I said, I don't necessarily know for sure, but femininity is a big thing in that. But just taking a hard look at yourself and hard look within yourself to determine why you're downplaying your height and downplaying your presence can be the first step to actually solving the main issue here. So I just wanted to bring that to light. Thank you so so much for tuning in. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you as always. Feel free to hit me up on my socials. Let me know what you think about what I said about femininity or you know, us being conditioned into thinking that femininity looks a particular way that being a reason as to why we downplay ourselves and people not taking it seriously, Like what do you think? I kind of want to hear your opinions on this, that I miss anything? Did I not touch on anything? Like, let me know let's have a conversation about it, and I hope you have a good rest of your weekday, month, year, whatever it is for you. Don't forget to sign up for my newsletter. I better put that link in the description. I'm telling you all of my socials are going to be linked in the description to you, so you get click on that and I will catch on the next one. Good night and go bye.