Are People Judging You Based On Your Height? Here's Why and What To Do About It...

[00:00:00] Good morning everybody, you are currently listening to A Tall Girls Podcast hosted by

[00:00:05] a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's tuning in today is doing super fantastic.

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[00:00:27] genuinely curious. Everything is going to be linked in the description. Boy, has it been

[00:00:31] peaceful since graduation. I have been bored for the past week or so, past few days.

[00:00:40] And let me say bored in a good way, okay? Because on a weekly basis, I'm just so used

[00:00:48] to filling up my schedule from the second I wake up to the second I go to sleep.

[00:00:53] And usually once I wake up, there's always something I need to do. I need to either

[00:00:57] go to the gym, I need to start work, I need to clean, I need to cook, I need to

[00:01:01] do something in order to get through my entire day and go to sleep at least

[00:01:07] by like midnight or 1am to get like six or seven hours of sleep to prepare for

[00:01:12] the next day. But now my days are nothing like how they used to be. And when I

[00:01:18] wake up, I can actually like lay in bed and stare at the ceiling. That's insane

[00:01:24] to me. And now my days just consist of going to the gym a few days a week,

[00:01:30] working, going to the park for a walk and to get some sunshine, coming back

[00:01:36] home to work, and that's pretty much it. And I'm here for it. That's why I'm

[00:01:41] saying bored in a good way. I don't feel like I'm gonna lose my mind

[00:01:44] because of all the things that I have to do throughout the day. It's just

[00:01:48] very, very calming. And I'm not gonna lie, this current schedule is a great way

[00:01:52] to save a bunch of money because I'm not going out as much, you know, being

[00:01:58] tempted to buy food while I'm out, being tempted to buy stuff, especially

[00:02:02] because I go to school in the city- well, I went to school in the city.

[00:02:07] And it's hard not to pass by a clothing shop or something and want to

[00:02:11] spend money on something there or just pass by anything. I don't know, I

[00:02:15] just feel like anything in the city that you walk past is gonna tempt you to

[00:02:20] spend money on it. So having this current schedule is saving me a lot of

[00:02:24] money and I'm here for it because I got this trip coming up in a few weeks

[00:02:29] and it's London, it's gonna be expensive so I need to save as much

[00:02:34] money as possible. Just as an example, I bought tickets for something because

[00:02:37] you know I feel like it's a little bit smarter to buy your tickets or

[00:02:42] buy as much as you can of the activities that you're gonna do while you're

[00:02:46] there before you leave to kind of save you that money while you're there so

[00:02:49] you could just focus on buying food and potentially souvenirs. I bought a

[00:02:52] ticket for something the other day, it was like one of the attractions like

[00:02:55] the aquarium, the London Eye, and it cost me 68 pounds and when you look

[00:03:01] at 68 pounds like, oh 68, oh that's not that bad, the conversion rate got

[00:03:05] me. It was 87 US dollars, I was like, oh that's a lot but the website did

[00:03:14] say that it saved me about like 40 to 45 percent on my purchase if I had

[00:03:19] bought it there it probably would have been like twice that so I'm not

[00:03:23] gonna complain about that but yeah after that purchase we're gonna be

[00:03:28] we're gonna be going to the park a lot more to save money and we'll see

[00:03:33] how that goes. Today we are gonna be talking about something that tall

[00:03:37] people often face, judgment. This kind of plays into the whole judging based

[00:03:43] on appearance type of thing when people think about being judged based

[00:03:49] on their appearance they more so think about the looks I guess you could say

[00:03:53] so how attractive your face is, how you dress, tattoos, piercing, things

[00:03:59] like that. However there are other factors of your appearance that people

[00:04:03] use to actually like legitimately make a judgment about you and height is one

[00:04:08] of them so before I dive a little bit deeper into this I do want to ask have

[00:04:12] you ever been judged based on your height or physical appearance? Chances

[00:04:16] are the answer is yes and today I'm gonna discuss why people judge you

[00:04:20] based on your height and what you can do about it. As tall people, as

[00:04:24] tall women, I'm sure we've had our fair share of judgment. The looks and

[00:04:28] the stares, the sly comments, the stupid assumptions, the inappropriate

[00:04:34] questions and it seems like it never stops. Don't get me wrong some

[00:04:38] judgments, some assumptions, some questions, some comments are nice. Just as an

[00:04:45] example I was at the bank opening a bank account you know just doing

[00:04:49] adult things and you know we went through the process started the

[00:04:54] account whatever I stood up to leave the bank teller I guess stood up to

[00:04:59] wish me a goodbye or walk me out I don't know I just know that she stood

[00:05:03] up and I remember she literally looked up at me and was like oh wow are you

[00:05:09] a model? And of course I was flattered by that question because when I tell

[00:05:13] you I looked like a bomb that day like hoodie, sweatpants, socks with

[00:05:19] sandals, hood on, very much looking tired because that was during the school

[00:05:25] semester I was like ooh I mean I know it's based on my height but like it

[00:05:30] felt a little nice to get somewhat of a compliment like that so that type of

[00:05:37] assumption you know is obviously not the worst I mean kind of for the

[00:05:43] most part I honestly believe being like associated with a model being

[00:05:47] called a model is kind of a compliment but then you have the random man at

[00:05:52] the grocery store asking me oh do you play college ball? I mean at least he

[00:05:56] guessed correctly that I was a college student at the time so I was like mmm

[00:06:00] I don't. He was like why not and I said oh I mean it's just not really

[00:06:06] an interest of mine at the moment I'm interested in other types of hobbies

[00:06:11] like I'm not really in sports right now and then he was like you should

[00:06:16] play ball and I'm like even if I were interested like are you gonna pay for my

[00:06:21] lessons and the equipment like what what's the deal here? I don't know and

[00:06:25] it's like you know these things are small those types of things are small

[00:06:30] those types of questions comments whatever assumptions are small but let

[00:06:35] me tell you they do add up over time like I have a whole bank like I have

[00:06:39] a literal storage unit of stuff up in my brain of all of the things that

[00:06:45] really just still annoy me to this day but there is one specific group of

[00:06:51] people who is just really bad like horrible and that's old people the

[00:06:59] number one enemy of tall people is older people not necessarily because

[00:07:04] they are more likely to judge us based on our height because honestly

[00:07:08] everyone is fair game in that realm but they have the most courage to say

[00:07:12] exactly what they're thinking to our faces older people will have no shame in

[00:07:17] telling us that our height makes us look mannish they'll have no shame in

[00:07:20] telling us that we're undateable because we're taller than most men out

[00:07:23] there and they'll most definitely have no shame in reminding us of how out of

[00:07:27] place we are I mean the list really goes on and on but why do people do

[00:07:33] that? Well simply put the most common reason is that we are bred to do

[00:07:38] so whether we mean it or not this is kind of like like an unconscious or

[00:07:43] subconscious act where we often judge people in order to determine whether or

[00:07:49] not we want to keep interacting with them and usually we try to interact

[00:07:54] with people who are similar to us both in appearance and in personality so

[00:08:00] just as an example when especially this is this is a very prominent one I

[00:08:08] guess you could say something as simple as going for a job interview people

[00:08:13] want people who quote-unquote look professional and there's apparently a

[00:08:17] type a certain type of professional look that's why many people who are

[00:08:24] hiring tend to stay away from people with tattoos you know so that's kind

[00:08:29] of an example of judging based on appearance oh because you have tattoos

[00:08:34] you're not gonna fit in into this workplace or sometimes they even say

[00:08:38] that we have clients who may not necessarily be into that and that case

[00:08:42] their clients are gonna judge you based on your appearance just in

[00:08:45] society it just really seems like we are bred to literally judge other

[00:08:49] people to determine whether or not we have them in our lives whether it's

[00:08:53] professional or personal and I guess you could say that kind of leads into

[00:08:57] the next one of societal expectations certain groups of people are

[00:09:01] apparently supposed to look or act a certain way so as for us tall women

[00:09:06] women are apparently supposed to be shorter because that makes them look

[00:09:10] more feminine more dainty and more likable in the eyes of men which is

[00:09:16] so dumb in my opinion honestly so because we're taller which is tied

[00:09:21] with men and masculinity we are often placed or seen as more aggressive or

[00:09:29] dominant because of our height simply because of our height and I feel like

[00:09:33] you know the same kind of goes for shorter men and people tend to not

[00:09:38] really respect them as much simply because they're shorter which is the

[00:09:42] qualities or the traits or the heights I guess you could say of a woman or

[00:09:47] supposed to be the quality traits height of a woman it's honestly just

[00:09:52] so screwed up also people judge because of insecurities yes you heard

[00:09:56] me correctly insecurities they don't like you because they can be you which

[00:10:01] is honestly very sick and twisted everybody's unique in their own ways

[00:10:06] everybody's made the way they are for a reason it's just best to really

[00:10:09] appreciate what you have but some people just don't see it that way and

[00:10:13] because they are not secure within themselves for the most part they

[00:10:18] don't like how they look they will try to put you down so that they

[00:10:25] could feel a little bit better about themselves if that makes sense so it's

[00:10:30] like if I'm gonna hate on myself I'm gonna make you hate on yourself and

[00:10:34] then they judge and make you feel bad about yourself and make you insecure

[00:10:38] it's just it's so it's really messed up let me tell you and I think

[00:10:41] that kind of leads it to the first tip of just detaching yourself from

[00:10:44] that judgment because especially with the insecurity part it really is not

[00:10:48] personal to you like don't take it personally because what a lot of what

[00:10:55] people say is a direct reflection of what they say to themselves what they

[00:11:00] think to themselves so if they tell you oh my gosh you're ugly da da da

[00:11:04] chances are they also think that they are ugly and on top of that I think

[00:11:08] that asking for clarification can be helpful oddly enough asking questions

[00:11:12] can get people to admit certain things that are deeper than what they

[00:11:17] actually said to you in the first place which kind of goes back to the

[00:11:21] first point of don't take it personally because they are telling you what they

[00:11:25] think about themselves they're just projecting that insecurity onto you but

[00:11:29] I think that the asking for clarification part kind of works with

[00:11:32] people who are closer to you like friends and family yes friends and

[00:11:36] family can judge you but I think it works for people who are closer to

[00:11:40] you that you actually want to try to work on the relationship whereas with

[00:11:43] strangers it's just like don't waste your time don't waste your breath on

[00:11:47] that just ignore them because in three days you're not even gonna remember that

[00:11:51] okay let me stop cuz I actually remember the man from the grocery store two and

[00:11:56] a half years ago but they're not gonna remember you I think it's just

[00:12:03] not worth your time you're probably never gonna see that person again

[00:12:05] anyways I just want to remind you that your height is not your identity

[00:12:09] your height does not define you you define you your height is just a small

[00:12:15] piece of the pie it's actually a crumb in fact if that even makes any sense

[00:12:19] you know I guess on this podcast once said that being tall is empowering and

[00:12:24] I honestly agree with her 110% especially as a woman it can unlock

[00:12:29] this new perspective and even this new level of power and independence in

[00:12:34] a way that's only unique to us and if they want to hate on our height

[00:12:37] then so be it they're just mad because they're not us and that's

[00:12:42] their problem not ours period anyways I think we're gonna add the episode here

[00:12:48] thank you so so much for tuning in I really appreciate it and I appreciate

[00:12:51] you as always feel free to hit me up all of my links for my socials are

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[00:12:59] episode have you received any judgment from other people because of your height

[00:13:04] whether you're tall short average height are they harsh judgments are

[00:13:09] they good judgments like let me know I want to know or if you just want to talk

[00:13:12] about life we could do that too I'm down my DMS are open of course and I

[00:13:16] hope you have a good rest of your day week month year life whatever it is

[00:13:20] for you and I'll catch in the next one good night and goodbye