How To Overcome Your Height Insecurities and Stop Letting Them Control You

Good morning everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who is doing it is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast, on Instagram, TikTok, and Pinterest, so that you can stay up to date on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave a review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. Everything is going to be linked to the description. I'm not gonna lie to you, guys. This semester is looking a little sus hear me out. We're two weeks in, going into our third week, or we going to our fourth week. That's a lot of math. I don't want to do this much math in the morning. But it's already past syllabus week and for some reason I'm not stressed, which is a little bit concerning, because every single semester up to this point, yes, even when I was completely online in my freshman year. When we got to this point of this semester, I was stressed out. I was bugging out with deadlines and just trying to figure out how I'm going to manage everything. But for some reason, at this point in time, right now, this semester, I don't feel that way. See, I'm trying to figure out why. Is it because I just don't care anymore? Is it because I know that I'm going to graduate and I'm just not going to stress out as much? But I'm also thinking that I'm actually taking pretty good classes in terms of workload this semester because a lot of my previous classes were very reading heavy, very test heavy. I'd have to read several chapters each week, or I would have to prepare for a quiz or a test like every week or every other week, and then like all the way up to midterms, like it was just it was too much. Whereas now it just seems like my classes are very participation and discussion and project based, which honestly, in my opinion, is better for me. That's how I learned the best, by doing and like talking out rather than just like trying to memorize stuff. So maybe maybe I'm not as stressed because I know that these classes are fit for my learning style. How I learn best, so I personally think that plays a big part in it. But then I also just think that I'm just starting to care less because I'm gonna graduate it just a few months. Maybe sometimes down the line, my classes are gonna have very similar or the same deadlines, which I am honestly used to. That has happened way too many times at this point, and you know what, I'm just I'm just gonna try not to convince myself that it's gonna get stressful at some point in time. I'm just gonna keep telling myself that I could get through this and it's gonna be okay, and I'm not gonna be as stressed as as before. Maybe they'll help me with like a more positive mindset with this semester. Honestly, I already have a positive mindset. I'm graduating. I'm getting out of here. They have to graduate me at this point because if they don't, they're gonna feel my wrath. Can you tell I just want to graduate? Okay, I'm gonna stop. I'm gonna stop. I'm just gonna say that I'm going to enjoy this semester and I'm going to enjoy this stress free period because at some point in time is probably going to come, but for right now, I'm just going to enjoy how stress for it is. So, as you could probably tell by the title of today's episode, we are talking about insecurities, which is super fun. Well, insecurities aren't fun, but talking about it can be kind of anyways. So I recorded an episode yesterday actually with two models, well two people who are who are or were at some point in time in the modeling industry. By the time this episode is up, those two guests will have already been on the podcast last week, so that episode is already going to be up, So you could definitely check that out. In that discussion that we had, the subject of insecurities was brought up, and I figured that, you know, we could just talk about it here today, especially because as tall women, as tall people, I feel like at some point in time, we've had our insecurities and maybe we can figure out some tips. Maybe I could provide some tips on how to overcome those, on how I overcame most of mine. But I do want to say that just because I'm providing tips on overcoming your insecurities, that doesn't mean that I don't have mine. Of my own. Okay, I still have my insecurities with my body and with a lot of other things related to being a college graduate. But that's like besides the point. No matter what realm or what aspect of my life thereas, I still have my insecurities. So don't get me wrong or both in the same boat. I'm still not the most super confident person ever in the world or the most confident person that I will ever be, just yet, so we're all in this together. There. Let me stop. That was so embarrassing anyways. So yes, I'm just saying that I am still insecure. I still have my insecurities, but I am much farther than I was when I was younger, and I'm proud of myself for that. But when I was younger, that was a whole different ballgame. I used to be so insecure about my long legs because they looked abnormally long compared to the rest of my body. It was so bad that I used to say that if slender Man had a daughter, she'd be me. The girls who get it get it well. To be fair, I was taller and still am taller than my peers, but it's much better now. In my opinion. I personally feel like the most awkward time for a tall girl is between the ages of ten and seventeen, because before the age of ten, you either don't really notice or don't really care about the height difference, and then after seventeen, the people with the later girled spurts start catching up to your height. But in my experience, most of the bullying and the shaming started when I was around ten years old. It's most definitely an age thing, for sure, because I think that many girls stop growing at the age of sixteen, but I didn't stop till I was like about nineteen twenty. That was literally two years ago. I'm sure this is everytail person's problem, So I'm basically just saying this to say that that's probably around the time when the insecurities start for a tall girl, and it just goes on and sometimes it amplifies as time goes on as they get older. Let's just say the age range that I said before, between ten and seventeen. That's seven years of crap that people are giving you that stays with you probably for the rest of your life. But truth be told, there are a lot of reasons why a tall woman may feel insecure about her height. It could be because she can't find clothes that fit her well. It could be because she's made to feel as though she's masculine. She may be made fun of because she doesn't fit into society's beauty standards. Whatever the reason may be, we've all experienced at least one of these. It's okay to feel insecure about your height and body. It's okay to feel your feelings because as there are times where pushing down your insecurities will make things way worse than actually confronting them, and confronting them can actually be the first step to overcoming those insecurities. You know. They always like to say the first step to fixing a problem is actually accepting that you have one, and the same applies here. Honestly, as tall women, there are just certain things that we need to accept. We need to accept that we cannot change our genetics. Not to say that our height is already predetermined, but if we have some tall genetics in our system or whatever, we're bound to be tall, we're bound to be above average, and on top of that, we height is just something that we can't control ourselves. I mean, unless you're willing to go get some type of surgery. I think that those exist. Don't go looking into those just because I said that. But I'm just saying that I do think that those exist, but it's just not as common, I guess you could say as other forms of body changing surgeries and procedures. So for the most part, we cannot control our height and how our body grows and creates its dimensions, especially when we're younger. See, the idea of growing into your body is so real. When you're younger and still growing, especially as a tall person, you may feel like your body proportions are uneven or it may be hard to carry your body weight. And then when that time comes, when you eventually stop growing, that's when it gets a little bit easier emphasis on a little bit easier. And at almost twenty two years of age, I'm still tripping over my own feet. That's just how it is at this point. So things like that take time. Another thing that I want to bring up is negative self talk. I cannot stress this enough. You talking badly too and about yourself is what is bringing your confidence and self esteem. That was, honestly the biggest thing that made me intre is because I thought that I was ugly. I thought I was scary. I thought that people saw me as some type of giant freak. Most of the time, it's really your own thoughts that are causing your insecurities, and I get it it's hard to just stop that type of thing. Like we can't always just stop or pause or halt the negative self talk. But something that really helped me is following the negative self talk with positive self talk. Instead of saying these clothes don't fit me, but there are clothes out there that will fit me well and I will find them, or instead of saying, yeah, I just feel so out of place, I will tell myself, yeah, I may feel out of place right now, but there are people out there who accept me for who I am, and there are people out there who are also as tall as me, even taller than me. Just because the immediate environment is the way it is, it doesn't mean that there isn't more out there for me. Negative self talk fosters the enemies of a tall girl. Self comparison, negative self image, feelings of inadequacy. Shout out to you if you struggle with those, because I understand the feeling. I definitely recommend following your negative self talk with positive self talk, because it's almost impossible to just get rid of the negative thoughts. Like it's like a balance. We all have bad thoughts, just like we all have good thoughts, and I think that balancing out with the good thoughts and eventually just saying more and more good things, more and more positive things, will ultimately help you in the long run. Plus, is healthier to just accept the fact that, yes, we're gonna have negative thoughts about ourselves and others, and it's okay to have those as long as we just deal with those in a healthy way. And part of that is also surrounding yourself with good people, people who will lift you up, people who will make you feel good about yourself. There are people who like to make it seem as though they care about you, and in reality they're bringing you down. Those are very manipulative people. They're saying, yeah, like, oh, like you look bad in this, and they just say all these mean things to you. But then they'll try to say, oh, yeah, I'm saying it because I care about you. I'm saying that because I love you. I'm saying that because I want the best for you. But there's a difference between being rude and constructive criticism. And I think it's important that you take time to sit down and think about that for a second, because if there are people in your life trying to mask their terrible comments as constructive criticism, you need to remove them immediately or you need to just like start removing yourself from that situation and ultimately surrounding yourself with good people and surrounding yourself with people who look like you emph system the Tall Grow community will ultimately help you embrace your height and embrace your body and embrace yourself, and you will start feeling better about yourself. It's all a process. None of this happens instantaneously. Is that a word? I think? So I'm gonna roll with it. Nothing happens over a right, That's what I'm trying to say. It all takes time, so just be patient with yourself, and I have faith that you will get there. So just have patience with yourself and just take it a day at a time. I have faith that you can do it, So you can do it. And I'm gonna end the episode here. Thank you so so much for tuning in. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you as always. Feel free to hit me up about my socials as a Whole Girls podcast on Instagram, TikTok and pinchest. So we could talk about our insecurities, Let's talk about our insecurities. Let's just talk about our feelings. I'm down for that. I like a good chit chat, or we can just talk about life in general. Doesn't matter to me. I'm down for whatever, as long as it's within reason, and don't forget to leave me a review. All of my links and information and stuff is going to be in the description as per usual, and I will catch you the next one. Good night and goodbye,