Every Tall Girl Needs a Tall Friend, Right? | Where To Find Your Tall Girl Community

[00:00:00] Good morning everybody, you are currently listening to A Tall Girls Podcast hosted by a tall girl named India.

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[00:00:28] Happy almost May. We're still currently in April, we're at the end of April now.

[00:00:34] By the time this episode is up, May is actually next week or this week. No, it's next week. Gosh,

[00:00:44] I'm really getting ahead of my time now but I just think that I'm excited to just graduate

[00:00:48] and move on with my life and honestly I think I'm ready for summer. If you live anywhere in

[00:00:54] the northeast, you know that the weather has been bipolar I guess you could say. It doesn't

[00:00:59] really know if it wants to be winter or summer. One day it'll be like 80 degrees in the high 70s

[00:01:06] and then the next it'll be like 40 degrees super windy and freezing. Like I don't know what

[00:01:11] to think at this point but summer is almost here and I'm not trying to rush it. You know,

[00:01:15] I'm trying to live in the moments, live in the present, be present, be mindful, practice

[00:01:20] mindfulness, all that stuff but you know summer will be a little nice right now. Anyways, let me

[00:01:28] move on because this is not a weather girls podcast it's a tall girls podcast. So I have a question

[00:01:35] for y'all. Have you ever been in a group of people where you kind of feel like the outlier?

[00:01:40] Like you stick out like a sore thumb? Like the people around you don't really understand you

[00:01:45] almost like you don't belong? I could definitely say that some of us tall girls have been

[00:01:49] there before especially growing up. It can definitely be a frustrating thing to experience.

[00:01:53] It could be a nerve-wracking thing to experience it just especially when you're trying to find that

[00:01:59] community it can get a little scary because as much as we try to promote this idea of yeah

[00:02:07] being independent I don't need anyone to make me happy I don't need anyone for this that and

[00:02:12] the other and oh we can find company in being alone and get comfortable with being alone and it's

[00:02:19] good to be alone like yes like 110% it's good to find value within yourself it's good to sometimes

[00:02:27] just spend time with yourself and to get to know yourself and having a certain level of

[00:02:32] independence is really good for your confidence and your self-esteem. It's also important to

[00:02:37] remember that as humans as much as we want to be independent in this hyper independent

[00:02:45] hyper-independency world or whatever it's important to remember that we are social creatures we are

[00:02:53] social beings and at some point in time we have to interact with others we have to be first of

[00:03:00] all we exist on a planet with like billions of other people so we kind of can't escape that

[00:03:05] and then on top of that we crave finding people who can relate to us we crave finding a group of people

[00:03:12] who accept us for who we are and at some degree not hopefully not like a super high one to some

[00:03:20] degree we want validation from others it's just how it is it's just how we are as humans and

[00:03:26] especially when you're young and you're growing up and you're trying to figure yourself out

[00:03:32] you're also trying to figure out who you want to surround yourself with you just want to find

[00:03:35] your people you just want to find a place where you feel like you belong and you know this shows

[00:03:40] up in many ways like physical appearance like height or even skin color hair clothing and fashion

[00:03:47] sense or religion or even mental issues and similar experiences and feeling so out of place

[00:03:55] feeling like you're not in the right place for you can be extremely difficult and have an

[00:04:01] impact on your mental health and your self-esteem and confidence I can say for sure that I've

[00:04:06] definitely been there growing up I was the tallest girl in my grade every single year up until eighth

[00:04:11] grade when my one tall friend happened to grow slightly taller than me but even so I was still

[00:04:17] in the back in the center of the class photo yes I was on my school's basketball team for

[00:04:22] like a year it was definitely an interesting time don't get me wrong there were a lot

[00:04:27] of good times but there were also pretty bad times around the time of like middle school and

[00:04:32] like beginning of high school that was the height of the struggles I would say the height of the

[00:04:38] insecurities peak bullying peak height shaming and that was kind of due to the fact that I stuck

[00:04:47] out like a sore thumb like I said before I was the tallest girl in my grade I was the tallest

[00:04:52] I think actually in my grade until eighth grade and you know a lot of my friends a lot of my peers

[00:05:01] a lot of my classmates they were all shorter than me some of them significantly shorter than me I don't

[00:05:06] know maybe they had late growth spurts maybe it just wasn't in their genetics who knows but I'm

[00:05:11] not here to to determine that the point here is I was surrounded by a lot of people who

[00:05:19] were shorter than me like even my teachers were shorter than me like I was taller than

[00:05:24] a lot of my teachers except the one oh my gosh except the one teacher I did a story time on this way

[00:05:29] back when except the one teacher who was the tallest teacher in the school who happened to

[00:05:34] destroy me in a volleyball game but going back to my previous point I you know it's just

[00:05:40] interesting how mean little kids can be having mainly short friends was the reason I slouched so

[00:05:46] much having mainly short friends was a big reason why I started to hate my height no is definitely

[00:05:52] not their fault that I had my insecurities and my posture issues but I will definitely say that it

[00:05:58] did have a big impact on me being the tall girl in a friend group is very interesting I'm not

[00:06:03] saying that I don't like my short friends because I do but there are certain times where I feel

[00:06:09] left out of some conversations like conversations about clothes for example or they just don't

[00:06:15] fully understand certain struggles that I endure on a daily basis and you know it's not

[00:06:20] necessarily for them to understand everything because you know everybody has their own struggles

[00:06:27] especially struggles that are unique to them and their situation so I'm not saying that they

[00:06:33] absolutely have to understand everything that I'm going through that they absolutely have to

[00:06:37] relate to me but you know sometimes it's nice to just have somebody else who just gets it and that

[00:06:45] plays a huge part in not feeling like you're alone you know we don't necessarily advocate for

[00:06:51] complaining all the time because you know it's good to be grateful for the things that you have

[00:06:56] but you know it's nice to just like kind of talk about the struggles every once in a while

[00:07:03] and even provide each other with resources and advice and then oh my gosh I will never forget the

[00:07:08] day in sixth grade when another tall girl entered the classroom I don't think you understand how

[00:07:14] happy I was in that moment you know that song that's like twin

[00:07:19] where have you been if that moment occurred today that song would have played in my head

[00:07:25] and it's so funny because people would say that we look like we could be sisters that we

[00:07:31] look similar we're tall and lanky but we also were light skinned with kind of similar hair I feel

[00:07:38] like what could differentiate us was the eyes were the eyes but still I feel like siblings can

[00:07:44] also have different color eyes so it doesn't matter so people honestly thought that we were

[00:07:48] related but I rode with her for like three years and like a small part of high school until

[00:07:55] you know we kind of fell out of touch because we just went on about our separate lives

[00:07:59] I think that having somebody else who was tall also kind of like helped me appreciate my height more

[00:08:06] and I just felt a little bit better not a whole lot but you know it was a start I don't know there's

[00:08:12] just something about being friends with other tall women there's just this level of understanding

[00:08:19] and trust and belonging we get each other we've been through similar struggles and we know how

[00:08:26] to lift each other up you guys could share tips and resources especially resources can share

[00:08:33] laughs and stories and complaints all of that helps to develop some sense of relatability

[00:08:41] and you know as time goes on you will be able to feel less alone like wow I'm not the only one

[00:08:47] who struggles with this like me and my other tall friends me and my tall community like we can

[00:08:54] get through this together and I'm not going to lie to you I feel like finding another tall person to

[00:08:58] be friends with can be difficult depending on where you live like if you live in a country where

[00:09:03] everybody's just naturally tall then I don't know like are people bullied for being tall in a place

[00:09:10] where everybody's naturally tall do you experience those types of struggles maybe not but if you

[00:09:16] live in a place where a lot of people are shorter the average height is much lower in that

[00:09:21] particular place in that city in that country wherever it may be then it can be hard to find

[00:09:26] that other person who can understand and just share those experiences with you I think my biggest

[00:09:33] tip which can be controversial is to go online like I don't think you okay see online could be a

[00:09:43] very good and a bad place especially with social media because social media can be so good

[00:09:48] and finding your community especially like right at your fingertips but like you know we should try

[00:09:54] to stay safe we gotta we gotta vet these people if you know what I mean because people are scammers

[00:10:00] people are creeps people will try to see what they can get out of you especially if you're a

[00:10:05] young person on the internet but there's such a strong tall girl community online I like to

[00:10:10] say that we're small and mighty because let's face it tall women are a small percentage

[00:10:15] of the population but it's one of the most supportive groups I've ever been in especially on

[00:10:22] social media especially on Instagram and TikTok but I feel like I found like some really cool ones

[00:10:28] on Instagram and like I said before it's really important to be safe online if you're avidly

[00:10:33] posting about being a tall woman like creeps are gonna show up creeps are going to be in those DMs

[00:10:40] but we try to block them we try to ignore them delete the messages etc but like I said it's important

[00:10:47] to be safe online when trying to find your community so I'm saying all this to say that

[00:10:53] one of the best ways to be able to get over that insecurity of your height and feel less alone

[00:11:04] in this process of trying to find your confidence and self-esteem as a tall woman

[00:11:09] is to find your community because finding that community and developing that sense of

[00:11:14] relatability and belonging even and being able to get advice and resources and stuff

[00:11:20] can help tremendously and you know one of those first steps of trying to find that tall girl

[00:11:27] community is by following yours truly at a tall girls podcast we are a nice community over here

[00:11:35] and this is a safe and judgment-free zone no matter your height honestly so first step

[00:11:42] make sure you follow me and hit me up on my socials at a tall girls podcast and thank you so so much

[00:11:47] for tuning in today I really appreciate it and I appreciate you um yeah hit me up on my socials

[00:11:53] as I said before we could talk about whatever whatever experiences you're having as a tall

[00:11:57] girl whatever experiences that you had when you were younger as a tall person we could

[00:12:01] also chat about that as well anything I well anything that's reasonable of course I'm down

[00:12:08] and I hope you have a good rest of your day night week month year life whatever it is for you and

[00:12:14] I'll catch you in the next one good night and goodbye