"You Make Me Feel So Small" | How Short Women Masculinize Tall Women

We often say that tall women are masculinized right or made to feel as though we're not feminine, and this happens in our everyday lives, for example, when we encounter certain men who may say to us that they prefer women who are shorter because they're quote unquote more feminine, or certain men who may misgender us. Another example is clothing specifically, we may have a hard time dressing in a traditionally feminine way, like in skirts, dresses, certain tops, even because with our longer features those items may not fit properly. However, I argue that there's a more not lesser known, but more overlooked factor that plays a role in the masculinization of tall women, and that is shorter women. So today we're going to discuss how shorter women masculinize tall women, why some of them do it, and just provide some reminders that height has nothing to do with masculinity or femininity. So, without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's tuning in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say, make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast on Instagram, Tak Tak, and pinture so that you can stay out today on all of the latest podcast episodes. Hey catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave a review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description. Before we get deeper into this episode, Let's define masculinize, which means to cause to appear or see masculine. We'll get into more specific examples of this later on in the episode. There was actually a specific video that I stumbled upon that kind of brought me to the topic of this episode, So I'm just gonna play that here. If you're a tall girl, don't ever ever in your life let short women masculinize you and act like you're some like big linebacker, like huge fee five four four, especially when there are men around. Okay, and like if you've been tall, like if you're tall in any capacity, like you know exactly what I'm talking about, Okay, Like I used to like have this friend, okay, and like I've known lots of girls and women like her, so like she's not unique, okay, which is probably why she hated me. But like, who knows. I used to have this friend that like literally every time guys would come around, she suddenly would want to like compare hand sizes with me, and she'd be like, oh my god, your hands are so big. You're like you were size ten, like I only. Wear size six, Like it would be so annoying. Or she'd be like we'd be in class and she'd be like, I don't know, Helena, Like maybe you should like lean down a little bit, Like I don't think people can see over you, but I'm telling you right now. Like if you're a teenager, if you're in middle school whatever, you're like watching this video and you're taller than your peers and you have like these weird, like devilish little like short around you, like constantly making fun of you, comparing you to men acting like you're ugly. They're insecure about themselves or they're jealous or both, and you need to ignore them and call it out. Like if somebody like literally like you're sitting next to them. This happens in adulthood too, but like it's very prevalent and like adolescence, and like when you're a teenager, if someone is sitting next to you, a girl, and she makes a comment about like your body or like you like physically being bigger than her, literally look at her and be like, that's really weird. Why would you say that? I don't think anyone was thinking about that, And they'll get embarrassed and they won't comment about it anymore. And now I just want to say right here, no, I'm not saying that all short women are bad or oh they're all against tall women are trying to do this thing up penning tall women versus short women, and da, da da, I'm not trying to do that at all. I'm honestly just trying to bring to light what some shorter women knowingly and even unknowingly do to make tall women seem or feel a certain way, so that we can all kind of be aware of our actions and also aware of the things that we say to each other, because to the other person, they may take it very seriously and may not communicate that to you, which we should all be communicating effectively to each other to let each other know what the vibe is. You know what I mean, but some don't, And I just want to bring awareness to this. That's really it. Now, in response to the video that I just played earlier, I actually did my own take on this, so I'm also going to include that here. If you're a. Tall girl, don't ever ever in your life let short women masculinize you and act like you're some like big linebacker, like huge fee fi fo fom app, especially when they're men around. It's the oh, you make me feel so small, or maybe they comment on a physical feature like calling your hands big. Is little things like those that do add up over time causing tall women to feel like this. The point here is tall women can be feminine if they want to be. Femininity is more than just size and physical features. So many other factors play a role in it. So yes, I agree it. Tall women shouldn't less shorter women or anyone really masculinize them. And on this video, I just want to acknowledge the fact that the short girlies were very supportive in the comments, and I was not expecting that, not necessarily saying, oh, I thought that the shorter girlies were going to be like mean or try to become defensive or whatever. It's just especially on TikTok, people like to be mean on TikTok, especially because this video did pretty well. I think it's at like almost one hundred and eighty thousand views, So usually when you get that amount of views, people are rude. There are a lot of rude discussing things in the comments, so I feel like I was expecting more of that, but the short girlies really came through saying how they love tall women and how they think that we're beautiful and elegant. Some were even questioning why a woman would do those things or say those things to any woman, let alone tall women. But we're going to get into that later on in this episode. But that honestly goes to show how the short girlies are really some of our biggest supporters. I just think that when a lot of these bad experiences happen often back to back, especially during our formative years, during our teenage years, it can really take a toll on It cannot only take a toll on our self esteem and our confidence, but it can also really change our perspective of that particular target group. So in this case, short girlies, if a lot of the masculinization comes from the shorter girlies when we're younger, people who we even think of are people who we even think of as our friends. When we get older, it's kind of like we still have that thought that, oh, all the short girlies that I'm going to meet, all my shorter friends are going to do these things and say these things. That's basically what I'm trying to say. But honestly, the short girlies a down in the comments. Thank you guys. But let's go through some of the comments from tell women specifically that are under my response video. Once said my nickname in school was manhands. I was only five to nine. Shout out to you if that was also your nickname in school. Another story is no, but why do they always need to point out the size of your shoes? OMG? I think my dad wears this size. The size of your clothes, OMG, look at your sleeves, they're so long, it's twice as long as mine. And of course comparing my height to the tallest guy in the room. Another tall girly said, I had one girl say exactly this, Oh I feel so petit next to you, let's compare our hands. Mine are so small to me. While staring at my male friends, apparently looking for approval, she got no reaction. I still don't understand how being small is a flex in her opinion. Another one said, I'm literally exactly average height, but the number of times short women have been like, you're so tall, I wish I was that huge. You make me feel so tiny. Being petite is so hard. What's it like being that big? And it's always when there's a guy around, like, get away from me, pipsqueak. Truth, Really, it really just is the comments that people make, like you make me feel so small. You're so tall, you could be my bodyguard. I hope my future husband is your height. Why do we say these things a tall women? Like? Is that not weird to say out loud? Yet these are things tall? I'm an experience on a daily basis. Let's listen to this story. I literally used to have a friend like anytime we were around new people or like we were a round guys, she'd be like, oh my god, Like how big are your feet? What size shoe do you wear? Again? How tall are you? You're like a giant, and like try to compare hand sizes and all these like weird ass things to try to make me feel like crop for being tall. And the girls that do this are so insecure and they're always like I'm just so tiny and small, like I can fit because I'm just so little. But whenever they tell you these things, or they're like, oh my god, like let me see your hand, like how big is your hand? Or why are you so tall? Like you're literally a giant. Whenever they say things like that, girl, you better call it out literally be so direct with them and be like are you trying to make me feel like crop? Or like why are you asking me that? Like that's a weird question. I don't know. It just makes me so sad seeing tall girls like literally walk literally walk like this like hunt strover around like all their short friends, or they try to make themselves like appear like so much smaller around like a group of people, and like you can tell, like girls stand up. Now, my question here is how can tall women respond when shorter women make weird comments about our height? Now? The main thing here is why why does this happen? Why do short women, some short women masculinize tall women make these ridiculous comments or ask these ridiculous questions. Hot take. I'm convinced that the shorter women who actively try to masculinize tall women are male centered. Argue with the wall, But I don't know if you noticed a bit of a pattern so far in this episode, even the comments that I read off earlier that was under my video, how a lot of the shorter women would actively say, oh, you're you, you make me feel so small, or oh, like you're you're so large, your hands are so big, and saying that almost always saying that around men, or even in the stories that you've heard just throughout this episode, these things happening around guys specifically, And even that one time when in that comment when the short girly she just got no reaction out of that, and the tall curly like part of the comment also said that the tall curly like never heard from her again or whatever. It just seems like there's a pattern that a lot of this happens around guys, or maybe in some way, shape or form, they're looking for male approval and listen, I think that we've definitely gotten better over time, but it's still pretty prevalent that in society these days, it's still often viewed that being small and dainty is feminine, while being larger or tall or having height is seen as masculine. And the average straight male I don't even want to say that, Like, it really doesn't matter the sexual identity, because you could be whatever and be attracted to masculinity or femininity or whatever, but in this specific case, there are men who are attracted to femininity. So some shorter women believe that if they just emphasize, oh, I'm so tiny and like their smallness, Oh I'm so small, I'm so tiny, I need to be protected, like, oh my god, I'm so petite. Like if they emphasize that, they feel as though and see, this is just my personal opinion. I can't say exactly what goes through their minds because I'm not a short girly. I'm a tall girly. But in my personal opinion, I feel as though if they emphasize that smallness, that tininess, they'll appear more attractive to that male that they're seeking approval from, which is absolutely absurd in my personal opinion. And I was kind of made aware of this idea through commentary about the Tall Tour drama, Like the Charlotte Tall Tour drama. I'm gonna play a couple of clips so you can kind of see how it all connects. That Tall Tour showed me how males centered people truly, truly are fact that y'all are getting on this at boldly. I can't. I went and I'm five four. I want a man. That's why I'm going because I want a man. I want a boyfriend, I want a husband. It just shows that you guys will go anywhere that the men are so y'all make it seem like, oh, we don't do things for the sake of a man. We don't do things for the sake of a man. Oh, you guys do things for the sake of a man. And when y'all sit there and say like, oh, we're just jealous, but you short being like, oh, we just mad because the men want to pick. Y'all, you tell me how the men went to a tall tour. The pick a shorty child is what it is child. As a five to eleven woman, I knew the second that tall men were showing up to the Tall Tour that the short pick means were gonna be in the building. And even if they weren't y'all talking about having a height requirement at the door, they will shoot to get in, And until that lawsuit works, they're gonna stand at the door hunting, and they're gonna wait for a tall woman to come out so that they can make fun of her in front of the tall man in order to get with him, or talk about how short and tiny they are and how they can be picked up and thrown around. And you know, I'm open about the fact that I unfortunately had a pick mey face, but as a tall pigmy short pig mees lethal, you know, And I don't like defending Taylor Swift. I actually don't ever defend Taylor Swift. But you know, we talk a lot about, you know, tall. Women putting stuff on the short girls head, and short women are like. Oh, I hate that so much. I'm not gonna lie. Man. I started doing it to combat the short pick mes. You want to make fun, Call me a jolly green giant. Talk about what I look like as a like, I look like a man because I'm so tall and strong. Fine, what's up headrest? What's up my little side table? Because if you think about it, yes, there are tall women who did go there to find tall men. I even spoke about how I don't even know. I think I'd mentioned it probably in one of my episodes a while ago, when I was actually talking about the whole tall tour thing. There are tall women who went there to find tall men, Like I literally got yelled at by a tall woman that I need to find her a tall man when I try to give her a sticker to promote my podcast. But tall women also went there for the community. I also went there to find other tall women. There are other tall women that, at least like in the New York City one that went there to find other tall women to also connect with. There were also tall organizations that were there when I was there were It's just I feel like, yes, tall women went there in part to find tall men, because that probably would honestly be the thif place if you want to date somebody taller than you, especially if you're like over six feet tall as a woman. But they also went there for that community aspect, just to be around people who were around the same high as them or even taller because it feels nice. You know. However, what are shorter women there for exactly? Now? I know that there are shorter women there to just be like to support their taller friends, because when I was talking to other tall women there, they were saying, yeah, like, my sister is also here, my friend is also here. However she's only like five seven of five six, but she just wanted to be here with me to like, you know, check it out, see the place. Whatever. However, if it's being said on social media that they're also claiming to be there to find a man, I don't know. Like you're five one, five two, five three, five six, five seven and you're there with six eight men, that's an intense hype difference. Listen, you do you everybody has their own preferences, but like over a foot, like I when I went to the one in New York City, I even met a girl who was actually official than me. She was four ten, albeit she was there with her friends. Thank goodness, because I just would have I actually think I asked her, what's the vibe? You know? But she was also there with her taller friends, So thank goodness for them for that. But I don't know, when you hear tall Tour, I would think that you would think that is meant for tall people. But whatever, the idea of a shorter woman who's five one five two, five, three, five six, whatever, the idea of her being there to find a tall man is a bit weird to me because you can literally get that anywhere else. Like the average height of a man at least in the US is like five nine, five ten. That's still eight inches taller than you. Why are you there? But that's besides the point. It's just the idea of trying to put tall women down or trying to emphasize their tininess or even infantilizing themselves for the approval of a man, and being around male centered women is very dangerous in my opinion, because they will not have your back in any type of situation, Like they will throw you under the bus in the name of man. They will put you in compromise situations in the name of a man, not even not even we're not even talking about height right now, we're just talking about in general. Those are the type of women that you would want to stay away from. But that's just my opinion, Okay, So taking the signs, like if you're a tall girly and you notice that your friends are saying those weird things, are talking about how you're huge. Oh my gosh, you have such a big feed. Oh like your hands are so big, like let's compare heights, or oh my gosh, you're like taller than him, aren't you? Like compare high cell. If they're doing weird stuff like that around you, just be aware that that's not normal behavior. That's not good behavior. Because if there are literal short girlies in my comments saying that they've never done that to their taller friends, their taller girlfriends, and how they absolutely love how their friends are like tall, their girly friends are tall, and so forth and so on. If you have respectful short women out there saying that they've never done that, that actually happens around me. If your shorter friends, shorter girlies or whatever is doing that, they're doing that, just know that that's a red flag. And if they're especially doing that around men, that's a double red flag. Notice the signs, notice the patterns, and call them out. It's important to call them out or just completely disregard the behavior, because that is, honestly how that's going. At least, it all starts with one person. In my personal opinion, it all starts with one person. If we could just get one person to stop, then we're getting to a better place. So yeah, those are just my thoughts and some other people's thoughts. I do think that it's very interesting having the making that connection between masculinizing tall women and if they do it around men, just kind of understanding the fact that that person might be male centered. That's a very interesting point. That's a very valid point, and it explains a lot when why shorter women. Some shorter women do that a lot around men if there is men in the group. So I'm gonna end the episode here. Thank you so much for tuning in. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you of course, as always, feel free to hit me up on my socials and let me know what you thought about this episode. So let me know your thoughts. Do you think that if a short woman actively tries to masculinize the tall women around her, or even if you notice like your shorter friend is doing it, do you feel like it's because that she's male centered? Could also be insecurity, It could be a bit of both insecurity and being male centered. Who knows, you never know what they're truly thinking. I would actually love to hear shorter women's thoughts and opinions on that, if they notice that other shorter women have done that to tall women, or even if you've done that yourself at some point in time and you've stopped, like, why do you think that that's the case. Do you think that it's because that short woman is male centered? Insecure? Both, Let's have a conversation about this. But I just more so want the tall girlies to understand that your height has nothing to do with your masculinity or femininity. There's so many other factors involved in that, okay, And if you notice that a shorter girlye is doing that to you in particular, don't be afraid to call it out. And if you don't feel comfortable calling it out, you can just simply ignore them. Of course, let me know your thoughts and the dms in the comments. Let's have a conversation about this, and until then I will catch you all in the next one. Good night and goodbye.