Why Are Tall Women Bullying Other Tall Women??

As tall women, we're used to being bullied because of our height. Maybe growing up in school, our classmates would ask us questions like how's the weather up there, or call us things like jolly green giant or six seven. I'm not going to get over that last one. Little kids who are frightened by our towering presence call us monsters. Old people wonder how we're going to find a husband worth our height. Family members and even close friends make unwarranted comments about our bodies. We've all experienced at least one of those things, and that's how we as tall women, have built a community through these shared experiences. But this Titanic community, or what I thought was a Titanic community, can also turn on each other aka tall women bullying other tall women, which I thought could never happen, But here we are. So in today's episode, we're going to talk a little bit about this and why some tall women bully other tall women. So, without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls PODCA hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's tuning in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say, make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast and inst' going to TikTok Apinger so that you can stay up to day on all of the latest podcast episodes and catchup the limbs of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave me review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have mostly news Thattter makes you subscribe to that everything is going to be linked in the description. I hope everyone who is tuning in is doing super fantastic. We are going to be talking about bullying today. Yay. Well not yay, because bullying is not allowed here in this space. Bullying is never tolerated here. Bullying is horrible. But tall women do get bullied sometimes, even though some people don't want to admit it. People like to say, oh, but models are tall, or oh I wish I was tall like you, without realizing that tall women often get a lot of unwarranted comments about our bodies and get called some of the most ridiculous things. But I'm sure we all know this and may have even lived through it, so there's really no reason to go in depth about it right now, considering today's topic, and speaking of today's topic, something interesting has crossed my path. I was not aware that the Tall girlies are bullying each other. I thought we were a community, a sisterhood. We've all bonded over the trauma of the unwarranted comments, name calling, literal attacks, trying to find a pair of long pants. Even since when are we tearing each other down? And why? I did run a poll over on Instagram. Y'all, it's been like twenty nine years since I've done a poll. I'm gonna try. I'm glad that I'm back to doing these. Well, this is the first time I'm doing this after a while, but hopefully I can consistently do this because I really enjoy hearing you guys's opinions. But also a quick plug follow me at a Tall Girls podcast on Instagram so you could participate in these polls and have your opinions heard on these episodes. But I did ask you guys in a poll tall women, have you ever been bullied by other tall women before? Twenty five percent of you guys said yes, Unfortunately I have, and seventy five percent of you guys said no never, So it seems like it does happen within the tall community, but not as often. But one person did respond to this send me a DM saying by short women for sure, but never another tall baddy. So it seems like for the most part, there is definitely this type of camaraderie and the tall girl the tall women community where we typically hype each other up and make sure we feel good about our height and so forth help each other embrace it. But I mean, we can't ignore the fact that twenty five percent a quarter of you guys have actually been bullied by tall women other tall women. Like that's you know, there's still a pretty decent chunk of you guys. It's still a pretty decent number. So if you voted yes that you were bullied by another tall women, or if you're watching or tuning in or whatever to this episode and you've also been bullied by another tall woman, please share your experiences below. Maybe other tall women will open up about this and we can have more of a conversation about it. Anyways, back to the episode. This topic was actually a request from one of you guys from one of my listeners. But this isn't the first time I've actually seen this topic come up, like it's come up a few times over the past few years, actually, and I never really thought to explore it because I don't know, I just feel like I couldn't really find other stories about it like that, but the fact that it kept coming up, it's just I don't know, it's something that needs to be spoken about now if it keeps coming up over and over again throughout the past few years. And I honestly find this very interesting because society has oftentimes treated us differently because we kind we don't fit into that feminine norm right of being shorter. We're on the taller side, yeah, as tall women, and so we all know kind of how it feels to be treated negatively because of that. And so I'm here thinking that as tall women, we're supposed to hide each other up, We're supposed to help each other feel confident, help each other embrace our height, uplift each other. But it really doesn't seem like that's the case one hundred percent. I did some digging and I found these stories from a tall girly, So I'm going to play it here. So I know a lot with you know, this tall girl discourse on TikTok. We talk a lot about insecure pick me short women who you know, pick on tall women for their height, and in my experience, especially now that I'm getting older, it's not really the short women anymore. It's the tall women who are two inches shorter than you that are insecure about their height. Follow me, So, I'm five to ten, which is tall, five ten beerfoot, so when I wear. Shoes, I'm probably six feet. I remember specifically, and this is not the only time it's happened, but it's an example. I worked with this woman in a while ago, and she was five eight. She was five eight beerfoot, I'm five ten, and for some reason, she was very into care about her height and her shoe size because she was the size eleven, and she would project onto me like she would often compare herself to me and be like, I'm tall, but I'm not that tall, you know I'm not, and she would make it seem like I'm just so much taller than her, when in reality we are like at the same eye level. I remember one time we were talking about jeans and I was just basically saying, how I order most of my jeans online because they don't sell longs in the stories and she said, yeah, you know, I've experienced that a couple of times. But I'm just not that tall. I'm not as tall as you, so I'm sure you probably have a harder time finding jeans. And I'm just like, our legs are like, damn near the same wind. She would say something like, yeah, I know I'm tall, but you're like really tall, and I'm like, if you put on a certain shoe, we the same height. Like it was so odd, and I feel like I've experienced this a lot more. Just like the other day, I was at like this little like fundraising event for my job, but it was outside of my job, and you know, there were like kids and stuff. When we were helping kids, and there was this woman. She was she had a specific booth and I took a boy to her booth, and I guess she knew the little boy from somewhere and she went up to the boy and she was like, oh my gosh, you're getting to tall. You know, I wonder if you're ever going to be as tall as her growing up. And keep in mind, this lady, I could have sworn we were the same hype. Maybe I was an inch taller than her, and I didn't really think much about it, but I'm like, why are. You comparing a little bit of boy to my height? But anyways, I said, well, his dad is a lot taller than me, so you know, he might be taller than me. And she's like, I don't know, like you're really tall, that would be surprising. And this lady was the same height as me, so I don't know. I don't know. I think a lot of tall women who have not come to terms with their height or they're insecure about it, they project onto other tall women, especially if if the other woman is a little bit taller than her. It's the same thing that like I've seen some plus sized women do, like oh I'm fat, but I'm not that fat. It's the same thing. And I don't know if my other tall girls experience this. It's like me being five ten projecting onto a six foot woman and making it seem like she's huge. And I'm not. We often say that the people who who ridicule us, who shame us, who are rude to us, simply because we are tall women, taller women, we have to say that those people are insecure, right, insecure Shorter men insecure shorter girlies, or just like insecure people overall, More times than not, the person is going to be insecure if they're saying something ridiculous or rude about our height or trying to make us feel bad about our height. And there are insecure tall women out there who, apparently, as seen in this Tall Creators' stories, also kind of project their own insecurities onto other tall women, which I find very weird, because as an insecure tall woman, you know how it feels to be insecure about your height. You know how other people see you, talk to you, this, that, and the third, And it's like, why would you want to make another potentially insecure tall women feel more insecure when you already know how that feels. Because when you're going up and talking to another tall girly that you may not necessarily know, you don't know how they feel like. You don't know if they're insecure about their height already, or if they're confident in it or whatever, So to go up to them and try to make them feel bad about it already for you, as an insecure tall woman, I just find that very strange, that's all. And I'm pretty sure there's some weird superiority thing going on here. That's just my guests. In my personal opinion, some people like to bring other people down when misery loves company. There you go. Some people like to bring other people down when they're feeling down about themselves, whether it's to make them feel better about themselves or make them feel like, oh, they at least have control over other people's emotions, even though they feel like crap about themselves or something of that sort. Like some people, some insecure people genuinely get off on putting other people down. Now, I found this very interesting comment in the common section under that previous video. It said, I think it's ironic because the majority of tall women who are insecure about their height are male centered too. If they don't care about men's opinions, they wouldn't care about their height. I actually did an episode on our Tall Women Male Center. Definitely go check out that episode, and I could definitely see how this point is a good one. The Pygmisha's has people on TikTok like to say the male centered tall women they value a little too much in my personal opinion, but they really really value a man's opinions, feelings, wants, and needs. So I will definitely say a good chunk of men definitely do prefer women who are shorter than them, or at least on the shorter side. It comes up in dating, it comes up in attraction, so forth, and so on, And a lot of tall women hear this, know this, understand this, and some of us have definitely internalized it too. And the tall Creative stories we're kind of an example of this, kind of like internalizing men's thoughts on shorter women versus taller women, especially when it comes to dating and attraction. Like when she was talking about how both of the tall women that she was talking about made it seem as though she's just ginormous, very large, huge, et cetera, and almost like a rude or I want to say, condescending way. Maybe even though they were all like around the same height, she was a little bit taller than one of them, and she was around the same height as the other one. And part of me think that both of those tall women were projecting they feel as though they're very very tall, or they're ginormous and so forth, and they're insecure about it. So when they see another tall girly who's also tall, they kind of just project that onto her, say she's ginormous, or try to make her feel as though she's humongous because they feel that way, and again, misery loves company. But then also on the other side, I feel like they also think that men view them that way because they like the petite gurlies, they like the smaller, the shorter girlies. And that's actually something very common that a lot of tall women talk about when they're in relationships. A lot of them prefer significantly taller or taller men in their relationships because they want to feel small. When their partner is a little bit shorter than them, or shorter than them or around the same height as them, they feel as though they're still like large and they just want to feel like this small partiqularly who can like cuddle up under her man. But then the average side of a man is literally the height of like a short, tall girly, which is around like five nine five ten. They also think that men also see tall women as ginormous, large, huge, whatever. It's so ingrained in their minds that they consciously or unconsciously express agreeance with that. And if we're going back to the pick misia mentality, It's like some of the pig misias understand I guess they are outside of the conventional attractive norm, outside of the norm of like what's considered conventionally attractive for a woman, which includes being shorter, even though beauty is subjective, but that's a whole separate discussion. They understand that they are outside of that norm, so they feel as though men will not want to be with them or men will not be attracted to them because of that, So they have to make up for that in other areas, and that involves putting other women down and basically saying, haha, like I agree with your viewpoint on this, and because I agree with your viewpoint, you should be with me or pick me. That's kind of the pick misha. That's part of the pick misha mentality, that they're going to agree with what a man says in hopes that the man will pick them or see them as different and want to, I don't know, take a risk and try to be with them or whatever. Back to the regular topic of tall women building each other, it really seems like it's the insecure tall women who may be male centered and are trying to project their insecurities onto other tall women or trying to bring them down in a way, I guess to get the validation of a man. It's also interesting that she kind of highlighted or there was like a little bit of a pattern in this creator's video that they were like the short tall girlies, they were not that much shorter than her or around this as hurt so like five eight, five nine five, And I find that interesting, like the five eight insecure five seven, five eight, maybe five nine girlies bullying like five nine, five ten, five eleven women. So the slightly shorter ones, ones that barely miss the mark of tall as a woman and feel insecure about it, kind of bullying actual for real tall women. That's very interesting. So we have the insecure tall pig mitias, but we also have this slightly above average, slightly shorter, barely there tall women also bullying other tall women. And I know I'm mentioning a lot of like short tall girlies above average girlies, this that and the third, so maybe let's go a little bit into that. In my personal opinion, there's a bit of a hierarchy and tall and now I'm not talking about which is like better than the other. This that and the Third, I just think that there's different categories of tall. So we have the short tall girlies, which are who are five nine up to six feet tall. Then we have the average tall girlies, who are six feet tall up to six', four and then we have the tall tall, girlies which is basically six to four and. Up within the tall, community there's actually a lot of discourse over who qualifies as. Tall, oftentimes the average tall girlies and the tall tall girlies minimize the experiences of the short tall girlies and dismiss their struggles because the short tall girlies may not be seen as tall enough for their experiences and feelings to be considered. Valid What i'm basically trying to say here is we already talked about the insecure tall pig misias bullying tall, women the above average girlies bullying tall women and basically trying to make them feel as though they're, ginormous whether it's to project their insecurities or for male. Validation but then also there's kind of this other side of the average tall girlies and the tall tall. Girlies kind OF i wouldn't NECESSARILY i wouldn't necessarily say bullying because it's a very strong word, here but they're often very dismissive of the short tall. Girlies that's probably the better way to say. It and, HONESTLY i relate to this because the amount of times the average tall girlies and the tall tall girlies are, like oh, like you're not that, tall or oh, girl you're a, shorty or oh, like you don't have it as hard as, me and this that and, that they're, like, LISTEN i get. IT i acknowledge that in a lot of, areas especially with, clothing the short tall girlies do have it. EASIER i acknowledge, that, however a lot of the tall girl experiences that y'all have, had especially growing, up because we're all we were all sticking out like a sore thumb when we were growing up in middle, school high, school et. Cetera those experience of the name, calling the, comments the weight, shaming things like. That like most of, those many of Those i've also experienced, Too so let's not try to invalidate that too. Much it's not really outright, shade BUT i don't, know it's kind of like in a way, way at least it used to not now per se BECAUSE i don't really, CARE i guess that's what happens when you get. Older you just start caring less and less about what other people are. Saying it kind of used to make me feel like left out in a way because it's, Like, okay the six foot and up girlies are, like, oh but like you're, shorty you're not that. Tall you don't get, it you don't have it as. Hard da da da. Dah but Then i'm significantly taller than like the average height of a, woman but also like the above average like five, seven five eight girlies and. Stuff it's like it's kind of like where DO i? Fit Like i'm just my own separate. Category and it's funny because there was ACTUALLY i THINK i did a stitch to a TikTok video kind of talking about like the five to ten, experience the five to ten girly, experience and how that's just like very unique because it's like you have the tall girl struggles but not a lot to where the app you can relate to everything that the average tall and the tall tall girlies go. Through but you're still taller than like the other pool of women that are shorter than, you, Duh but you're still taller than the average head of a woman or even like five seven five. Eg. Girly so it's like you have more tall girl experiences than, them but less tall girl experiences of the rest of the tall. Community so it's kind of like just that awkward category of your. Own and another. Thing i'm five to, ten AND i feel like five to ten is a very awkward tall girl height because on the one, HAND i feel like it's undeniable That i'm, Tall like you can't tell me That i'm not. TALL i am. TALL i know THAT i. Go through life as a tak. Out, however there are often situations that occur that made me question everything about. Myself for, example going on a date with someone that is over six. Four all of a, sudden you're this. Big how did that? HAPPEN i don't. Know, TWO i was in a conversation not too long ago with these two beautiful women who just happen to be over six foot both of, them and they also make. Content so when they ask what kind of CONTENT i? MAKE i was on my legendary run of making to go. Content so WHEN i SAID i made to go, content the way that they looked at me. Do SO i hope that made. Sense BUT i wouldn't consider that outright, bullying but slight shade slightly dismissing our. Experiences so, yeah that's pretty much ALL i have for. Today thank you so much for tuning. IN i really appreciate, it AND i appreciate you of. COURSE i was always feel free to hit me up on my socials at A Total girls podcast or linked below and the description and let me know what you thought about this. EPISODE i honestly never thought the day would come THAT i would be talking about to all women bullying each. Other it's not as intense as other forms of bullying that we receive from other, people like the shorter folks or our family members or close friends or, whatever but it's definitely some type of tension there in certain. Areas SO i would love to hear your thoughts on, that on WHAT i discussed this, episode and if you have any other experience essays of you as a tall girly being, bullied, like share your, stories share your, experiences share anything that you feel like would definitely contribute to this conversation, below like let's talk about, it BECAUSE i don't really see too much about it on the internet like, that So i'm kind of relying on you guys now to fill me. In and until, THEN i hope you have a good rest of your, day, week, month, year, life whatever may, be AND i will catch you guys in the next. One good night and. Goodbye