When Are Tall Girls Gonna Realize This?? & Why Height Privilege Doesn't Exist for Tall Women

There are so many things to love about being tall as a woman. We naturally command the attention of every room that we enter. We're more likely to be respected, we give off modelesque vibes. We can walk fast, run fast, reach for things without asking. Clothes just hit differently. We stand out without trying, and the list goes on and on and on and With so many amazing things to love about being tall, you may wonder why many tall women are insecure about their height or even hate their height. Why don't they realize how amazing and unique it is. The answer to this is honestly pretty complex, and we're going to discuss that today along with societal views towards tall women. So without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's tuning in today is doing super fantastic. 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I kind of want this to be a little bit of an eye opener of how amazing it is to be a tall woman, how amazing it is to have height as a woman, and kind of making connections be between societal views of tall women and how that makes tall women insecure about their height, as well as whatever society likes to say or portray or imply about tall women is just complete garbage. So first, let's get into the question that I propose in the intro. Why are many tall women insecure about their height? Why do many of them not realize how unique and amazing it is. There are definitely a lot of factors that go into this, but I guess a bit of a simpler explanation is that it can feel like the cons outweigh the pros. And also sometimes we are made to feel as though having height as a woman is a bad thing, especially from other people. Now, I want to play this clip really quickly to kind of help further my explanation. As a tall woman, are you really intimidating? Or are the people just uncomfortable with their size so they try to bring you down to boost their ego? Yes? Who said that? Now? Did you hear that last part of the question that she proposed? Are they uncomfortable? Like? Are they uncomfortable within themselves? And are they just trying to bring you down to boost their ego? And honestly, I find that to be a major reason as to why some people are extremely rude towards tall women and just say all of these ridiculous things about their height to their faces. I'm gonna just be clear, insecure people try to make other people feel insecure. I'm gonna say one more time, insecure people try to make other people feel insecure. So someone is trying to make you, as a tall woman, feel bad about your height, chances are there insecure about theirs And this is not absolute. Okay, some people are just terrible people and do this to everybody. Some people just like making fun of other people. Some people just like making fun of tall women, mocking tall women. Some people just aren't used to what is not the norm as well. But many of the height questions and comments and looks and even the aggressive behaviors have a lot to do with the fact that some people are very uncomfortable with themselves or uncomfortable with the fact that a woman is taller than them even let's just listen to another example. Hey guys, it's Caitlin, your favorite six foot four best day. Today, I'm gonna talk about how some people actually do not like me at all simply because of my height and what that feels like. Recently, I saw another tall creator talk about this and it was like, oh my god, I've been trying to tell people this for years. There is actually quite a few people in this world who do not like me simply because I'm tall. It's not the way that I act because I'm tall. It's nothing like that. The second they've met me, they cannot process that I am this tall. They can't get their brains around it, and they simply do not like me because it's too weird for them, too out there. Pretty weird to not be liked for something that you cannot control. But it makes people who are insecure very uncomfortable when they're around someone as different as I am. Like, I've met multiple people who I straight up walked and tried to shake their hand and they're like, wow, you are tall. I'm not kidding. Those people exist. Now. There's a lot of men out there in this world who simply hate my existence because I'm a giant. I know it's because I have something that they want. Any man would trade me places in a heartbeat. Every man would love to be six foot four. Let's be freaking real here. Most women would not take six foot four. A lot of women would love to be like five nine, maybe five ten, like model height. But I love standing out. Listen, Misery loves company. Okay, So if they feel sad about themselves, if they feel bad about themselves and secure about themselves, whatever they're gonna want other people to join that misery party. They're gonna want other people to feel bad about themselves. They're gonna want other people around them that feels insecure about themselves, and that's part of the reason why they try to make other people feel bad about themselves or feel insecure about themselves. And in my personal opinion, the heart sure or the worse the things that they say or their actions and so forth, the more insecure they are about themselves, the more uncomfortable they are with themselves, or the more uncomfortable they are with the fact that a woman around them is taller than them. Hence why so many questions and comments that tall women receive are like super negative or out of pocket. You know what, what's the worst thing you've ever heard regarding your height as a tall girly? And I'm not talking about stuff like, oh, you're so tall. I'm talking about something that ruined your entire month. But anyways, back to that previous actually back to that video that I inserted here with the six or four girly and talking about her experiences. I just want to talk about some of the comments that I saw underneath that video to that particularly stuck out to me. They hate to see a confident tall They expect me to be uncomfortable in my skin, and it's one hundred percent insecurity and or jealousy. So it kind of seems like already having height as a woman makes people maybe jealous or insecure or uncomfortable, but then adding confidence on top of that, adding the fact that you could be a confident tall woman, that just makes it even worse. It makes those feelings even worse. And so because they feel uncomfortable and they feel insecure, they try to make us feel uncomfortable with the ridiculous questions and comments, or they try to make us feel insecure with the looks and the comments and so forth, and some of them actually kind of succeed in doing that, especially if these questions and comments are coming from friends and family or it's like a recurring thing, and we ultimately end up hating our height. And it's interesting too that they kind of expect tall women to hate their height. They kind of expect tall women to not be confident. I just find that very interesting as to why they would even think that in the first place. But I also think that is largely because of societal views towards tall women. Overall, either it's how it's were portrayed in the media, or maybe other tall women they've experienced or seen in their lifetimes that they just think that all tall women or tall women in general are just insecure. And I'm like, that's a very odd thought to have. But okay, So because of all of this, we at some point in time have thought that being tall sucked. However, maybe maybe not. At a different time point, those thoughts changed. Many tall women say that being tall sucked when they were younger, but got better as they got older. Now my question is is this true or did we get better at dealing with everything that comes with being tall. I honestly argue the second point, because for me, the high questions of high comments are still there. However, I'm just better at ignoring them or just laughing it off like ha ha ha or whatever. Like I at this point, I don't really I mean, it's annoying, but it's not like genuinely hurtful as it was at one point in time in my life. However, there are instances where for tall women it does get better, like actually gets better over time, like the questions and commons decreased or may even disappear, a lot of people find them attractive or find their height attractive. Now, and this is where we start talking about a term called tall girl privilege, which is the perceived advantages tall women experience due to their heights, such as being seen as more confident, authoritative, being safer from street harassment, leading to benefits and careers and dating, et cetera. However, some feel as though it's a real advantage, while others feel like there's a pressure to not be too tall. And that last part is kind of seen like in the modeling world, right, how being five eight to five eleven is the ideal height range as a model, whereas if you're over six feet it's kind of like if you're too tall. And maybe that also plays a part, or maybe that is also seen in everyday life now. I know. I did an episode on tall privilege before, and the main point of that episode was basically saying that, yes, high privilege, tall privilege exists, but it exists to more so benefit men more than it would benefit a woman. But that's not to say that it doesn't benefit women at all, you know what I mean. I actually came across a Reddit post titled this high privilege exists for women, if so, how much, and to honestly just save us the trouble of going through the responses. Most people under this thread feel like it doesn't exist for us. Dating sucks, finding clothes suck, people suck. The Hey, we're less likely to be attacked in the street because we're more intimidating. Oh waits, people attack us simply because we're tall. But listen, I don't think that this is the most accurate. Okay, I'm not saying that none of this is true, because it is true. A lot of us have a hard time with a lot of these things. They have a hard time finding clothes. We still have a hard time finding clothes, even though we came a long way. But there's such a long way to go. The whole dating situation, that's all so a big thing. I'm probably gonna end up doing another episode on that. People and their thoughts and comments and perceptions and so forth about us, even like the aggressive behaviors and violence, Like tall women are very likely to be on the receiving end of that simply because they're tall, or people misgender them or think that they're like trains or something like that, which is just terrible. How would you attack someone simply because of that? That is all true. We all have heart have had our hard times with being tall at some point in time. However, I still do think that there are a lot of positives that come with being tall, and there is some high privilege there. There is some tall privilege there for us tall women. Only when it benefits society, or only when it benefits other people. That's personally my take. Only when it's convenient for society, convenient for other people, convenient for the media. Even hear me out. Okay, For example, modeling runways, editorial shoots, clothing samples, these are literally designed for taller women, like you see taller women walking. For the most part, there are shorter women now that are more in the modeling industry and so forth, But for a long period of time in history, it was only taller women. And now it's still even a majority taller women. And that's simply because of how the clothes hang on them. And then people see these tall models wearing these clothes, these taller models wearing these clothes, and they buy them. They're more likely to buy them because of how the clothes look on taller frames. They want to have that vibe too with the clothing pieces. It's just interesting how it's like on taller models, but it's like literally made for people who are like five six flave seven. I did a whole episode on tall washing. Definitely checked that episode out for more of that topic. It's annoying, but still they still have taller models modeling these clothing items and people buy it because of how it looks on taller frames, and it looks amazing on taller frames. Next, we have athletes. There's really no further explanation on that, even in movie roles or in real life, like a lot of them have positions of power because of the vibe they give off, the authoritative vibe that they give off. They command the attention, they command the room, They have a commanding presence, so people are more likely to respect them. And we can see that in movie roles, whether they're like the superhero, when they're like a superhero, or even the villain, or even like a corporate executive or something I don't know, And that kind of like plays into real life with how yes, they are more likely to have higher positions of power, and obviously that doesn't discount like actual qualifications and so forth. Obviously that doesn't like erase those but still, simply because of their stature, their height, they're more likely to have those roles people even asking them to get stuff off of the top shelf like hello. It's almost like being tall as a woman is acceptable only if we fit into some type of box, or only if we fit into some type of stereotype, or only when it's beneficial to other people, are beneficial to society. But let's say we don't want to be models, we don't want to be athletes, we don't want to you know, have like these super high position of power be portrayed that way. We just want to live in regular, everyday lives. That's when it's the problem. When the regular every day six foot or six' two six, three six' four woman is just out there just living her life how she wants to and being confident and loving, her height that's. An, issue oh you don't fit into. These stereotypes and on top, of that you're not, even insecure as we, said earlier you're not even insecure about. Your height you're confident about. Your, height, no, no no and then feel the need to bring us down or try to make us feel as though being tall is bad and even just getting aggressive, with us and so it's just very strange people's thought process. ON this i did ask you guys in a poll Over, on Instagram and i'm gonna do a quick little. Plug here make sure you follow me At A tall girls podcast so you can participate in these polls and have your opinions heard on. These EPISODES but i did ask you guys in, a poll do you believe high privilege exists for? Tall women twenty two percent of you guys, said yes it. Definitely does forty four percent of you guys, said no, not really and thirty four percent said only to a. Certain, degree so judging by the last, two options, the no not really and only to a, certain degree for the, most part a majority of you guys, think that at like to, some degree my privilege does not exist for. Tall women and, you know that's kind of the POINT that i made in. THIS episode i mean more so towards the only to a, certain degree BECAUSE it's i personally feel like tall women get high privilege or whatever only when it's beneficial to other people or society or fulfill some type of stereotype. Or whatever but it's also very interesting to see your guys' thoughts. On THAT but, i mean everything has its pros. AND cons i will say that and being tall is, an amazing, beautiful THING but i would love to hear anyone else's thoughts in the comments or in. My dms but the funny thing about it is this is something more tall women need. To realize being tall is such, a blessing and so many people wish they had. Our height people edit themselves to. Look taller do you remember when that was. A trend people, wear heels lie on their profiles about being taller than they. Actually are people literally chase what we. Naturally have it's just very important to find a way to be kind to ourselves and appreciate. Our HEIGHT and i want to end this episode on a. Positive note so let's just listen to this clip. Really quickly for all my tall girlies, Out there i'm just here to say they're. Just jealous. It's okay don't let the comments get. TO you i got told all the time, growing up you're, too tall you shouldn't be. Wearing heels you don't need to, wear heels you're. TALL enough i never let that get. TO me i rocked four range heels all the time. Growing, UP yeah i was six. Or four what? About it you are more than. Your height don't want to get. To you if they, tell, you oh you should, play basketball each play volleyball and you don't want to or you're no good, at it. THEN don't i played BASKETBALL and. I sucked that was all people expected to. HEAR of i guess what you, are here take up the space that you, take up and just remember you are not. Too tall you are. Just enough it's. Slight, Period anyways i'm going to end the. Episode here thank you so much for. TUNING in i really, appreciate IT and i. Appreciate you. OF course i always feel free to hit me up on my socials At A tall, Girls podcast and let me know what you thought about. This episode what do you think about people being uncomfortable with themselves and having a feeling they need to make us feel uncomfortable since. They're uncomfortable what do you think about my thought that being tall as a woman is seen as, a privilege or it's seen as a good thing when it's beneficial to, other people beneficial, to society or fulfills whatever desires another person has like what do you think? About that you can let me know in. The comments you can send ME. A dm i want to hear your thoughts. ON this i hope you have a Very merry christmas and very happy holidays whatever, you CELEBRATE and i will catch you in the. Next one good night. And goodbye