What’s With the Online Obsession With Tall and Short Women? | Height Fetishism & How to Deal With It

Being a tall woman comes with a whole bunch of ridiculous questions the how's the weather up there? Or are your parents tall too? Or do you play basketball? Listen, if you cringed at any of these or got annoyed by any of these, I don't blame you. However, there are other questions that tall women receive that are a bit off, like can I climb you? Or can you pick me up? Or can you step on me? Honestly, I am amazed by what comes out of people's mouths. Sometimes too often tall women are fetishized because of their height, and honestly, the same goes for the short girlies. So in today's episode, we're exploring height as a fetish, why many women both tall and short, are uncomfortable with it, and ways to deal with it. So, without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's sitting in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast and instaging to TikTok in picture so that you can stay up to date on all of the latest podcast episodes and getch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave a review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked to the description. Before starting this episode, I just want to say, well, I want to say two things. The first thing is if you are young, a young person, like maybe under the age of eighteen, or maybe even like under the age of being a teenager. If you're not a teenager or anything, I don't know if I would necessarily recommend this episode to you. That's number one. So if you are uncomfortable with sexualization fetishization, I just recommend clicking off and tuning into another one of my episodes. So that's number one. Number two is I am not shaming anybody's fetish. Okay, everybody is allowed to be into whatever they're into. However, what I am going to be shaming is people forcing this fetish onto somebody who isn't into it, or just acting out or saying or whatever in their fantasies to a complete stranger that you don't know. There's ways to have conversations around this to make sure all parties involved are comfortable with it. And if all parties are not comfortable with it, then you just don't. You don't participate in any of it. So I'm shaming the people who are weird about it and force it onto other people or do it to complete strangers that they don't know. But other than that, if everybody's happy with it, by all means, go for it. So let's first define a fetish. A fetish is a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity, or a part of the body other than the schextual organs. And so to fetishize is to make a fetish of and height happens to be a fetish for many people. I actually did a little TikTok on the fetishization of tall women. What was this, probably sometime last year, So I guess I'm going to play this clip to kind of introduce the idea of tall women being fetishized. If you're a tall girl and a random person has ever asked about your weight, your proportions, your foot size, or your chextual preferences without your consent. Just know you're probably being fetishized. It's pretty common for this to happen to tall women, especially if they post about their height on social media. Even me and I just sit here and talk like it's pretty neutral, and it happens because some people obsess over our height. Ever heard of macrophilia, Yeah, that's part of it. Those people, more times than not see you as an object or a vessel to satisfy their needs, fantasies or objectives. You don't owe anyone access to you, your body, or your time just because they like tall women. But if money's involved and you choose to do it, hey, they each their own. But if you're tall women and you have experienced this, you are not alone. And many tall women have experienced this. Right, there's actually a tall woman, she's like six feet tall. There's a tall woman on Reddit and she discusses how as a six foot woman, numerous men have come to her hoping that she can fulfill their dominatrix fetish And when I say so, many tall women came forward and shared their stories and share their experiences. It's insane. A lot of tall women actually came forward saying that people, specifically men have asked for pictures of their hands or talked about wanting to be a slave to a giant test or requesting to be stepped on and listen. Okay, if you're into that, go off, queen or king or whoever you are non binary royalty. Okay, if you're into that, go off, like have at it. But if you're not into that and somebody is saying that to you and you're like uncomfortable, please don't feel for to have to like respond or be into it and try it, like, if you want to be especially if you're comfortable with the person, if you want to experiment, go for it. But if that's something you know for a fact that you're not into, or you know for a fact that you're uncomfortable with, please just hit the block button, get away, get out of the situation something. And these weird situations occur in like everyday interactions, whether it's like in real life, in public, in the dms of many social media platforms, and even dating apps. Dating apps are going to be the end of tall women, because what do you mean? Several people on a dating app have asked the tall women if they can climb her. Is this supposed to be like a good pickup line or however, high fetishization is is not even the correct term. I'm just gonna say high fetishization. High fetishization is not only like doesn't only happen to the tall gurlies. Short girlies experiences too. I feel like there's like a bit of a difference with it though, Like the tall women, when it comes to fetishization, it has a lot to do with strength and dominating and having a large appearance, being intimidating and so forth, whereas for shorter women is actually the opposite. Let's hear a couple stories. If you don't know that shorter women are a fetish for some men who are closet petos, you're just not out there in the world enough. I don't know what to tell you. My mom's four eleven and ninety pounds on a good day, and I've watched my entire life her be fetishized by men as not just an Asian woman, but as a tiny woman. She's seventy years old and her body still looks like a teenager's body, like youthful skin. I'm telling you. There are tons of men who prefer smaller, tiny women for a reason, and most of those reasons are never good. People who fetishize you just make me so rough, so uncomfortable. I've mentioned on her before the fact that I am a short clean yes, However, I did not get into how short I am five feet one hundred and fifty two centimeters. I'm sorry, are you snickery? Oh you think I can't beat you up? I may be tiny, but I if you haven't noticed, which I'm sure if you've like been around you have, people tend to fetishize women of my height, yes, he that in mind. Well, a couple months ago, I was talking to a friend of mine and I was telling her that, like whenever I'm on like dating a profiles or whatever, if I saw this somebody was like six two or above, I would like immediately swipe left because I was just like, I don't know. I felt that the height difference. I felt like it was excessive. If I have to catch a flight to kiss you, it's too much. That's how I felt for like a really long time, Like one fatal day a couple of months ago, on an app that shall not be named, I met this guy, and it was one of those things where it's like you like matched this person like a while ago, and like all of a sudden, like they're saying hi, and you're like, oh, yeah, like you and. You know what. The conversation started off very smoothly, but aat to the point where it was pretty comfortable before he eventually reveals me what his height was. He's like, oh, by the way, I'm six foot six, girl Goliath. I was just like, I'm already here. It's fine, Everything's going pretty well for now. I remember telling him being like oh yeah, like I'm not really looking for anything serious, right, And he was. Just like yeah, sure, just like you. Know, once you like get like you know, a little more comfortable with me and a little more used to me, and you want to change your mind, like I would completely understand, And I was just like I won't sure, okay. His reaction to that was already a red flag and I wasn't paying such to but now I know. Then he asked me if I am submissive, and like not in like are you submissive, but more so like a yes, no, daddy, Y'm daddy? How highda? And I was like no, like I'm really not. It's not at all. Like if you like, literally ask any of my family members, like they will literally tell you that I'm the most hard headed, most stuborn person, Like, I'm not a submissive person. I was not meant for that. He was just like, I feel like some women say that until they find a man who's like, you know, like a good big man that can, like you know, like dominate them, and then eventually they'll feel comfortable like being submissive. And that wasn't it y'all. During the entire conversation, he keeps you like, I know, girls like guys that are like big bodyguards, like I can beer bodyguard, like you know what I mean? Like, God, there's nothing more cringy than like a fetishizer who also loved the idea of also being fetishized. And once shor A girly called it petit fetishism on Reddit, as she explained that partially due to her race being Chinese American and her height being five to three, that has attracted men, especially older, taller men who are like over sixty one, who are looking for a submissive petit Asian women. Honestly, in my personal opinion, this is just weird and disgusting, but this is real life. A lot of people experience this in their real own lives. And if you're a shorter woman, tuning into this right now, because I know sometimes I end up on y'all's feed, and if you had experience with any of this, please share your stories and thoughts in the comments wherever you're tuning in, or you can even share it with me in a DM on social media at a Tall Gross podcast. We don't talk about this enough that many women are fetishized based on their height, whether they're tall or short. What's especially not talked about enough is how the Internet normalizes people acting inappropriately towards them because of it. Now, going back to the first clip that I played when of the video of me talking about like the fetishization of tall women, it was actually a video response to a comment that I got under another video. It was from another talk early and in that comment she mentioned that she's uncomfortable when a man says death by snooz snow to her, and I was like, what like death by snooz? Like what what does that even mean? I mean, I didn't think anything of it at that time because I had never seen it before, so I was like, whatever, right, and then I just did the video response to that comment. However, when I was looking at other tall women stories when planning this episode, I saw that term come up again, death by snoo snoop, and I'm like, Okay, this definitely has to be a thing if it's like reappairing resurfacing now. And so because it's the thing, I happened to look it up, and apparently it means death by wild schmechs. It actually comes from an American sitcom called Futurama where in an episode, in a scene, they meet a tribe of giant Amazonian women who have NonStop schmecks with men until they off them. This is on a television show, guys, and that kind of plays into the fantasies around tall women that they're strong and domineering and hyperchmextual beings. And I've never heard of this television show till I actually looked at the term. But honestly, who knows what other television shows are doing this are portraying tall women in that way, whether they mean to do it or not. And then other than television shows, it's apparently also a thing in the corn industry too, where in videos they use labels like giant tests or very tiny extremely tiny to categorize women by height and play into fantasies. And again, no tea, no shade here. Listen, if that's what you're into, I'm not trying to shame you for being into that, obviously, However, I'm just trying to recognize that this plays a role in how tall women and short women are fetishized in their everyday lives, and that kind of plays into that, especially if the people are over consuming that type of content, whether it's the corn or the sitcom, the the shows and the scenes and stuff that are similar to the one that I mentioned earlier with death by Snoozenoo. Social media also does play a big role in this. Believe it or not, Tall women play a big role in the fetishization of other tall women. A lot of what's some tall women post online often play into their audience's fantasies, creating expectations for other tall women to do the same. Think Ekaterina Lissina, right, I think that's how you say her name, But she is almost seven feet tall. There are some videos that say she's seven feet tall. There are some videos that say that she's six', ten but she's pretty much up, there and she posts a lot of content around her height and her. Size, right she's wearing a lot of clothes that kind of like accentuate her lengthy features like her legs and so, forth like she's wearing shorter. Clothes she's wearing extremely high heels to make her even, taller and again also like kind of accentuates her. Height she also has videos where she's comparing her height to shorter. Men there are also videos of her in her. Underwear there are also videos of her showing her hands and bare feet and comparing those to everyday. Objects it may seem, subtle it may seem, innocent but it's like very strategic in a, way like it's not outright being, inappropriate but she also knows what she's. Doing maybe she's trying to get that back and, listen do what you gotta. Do, however when you look at her, comments know who's more so up in those. Comments, okay there are a lot of men more so in those comments saying things AND i Think i'm just gonna leave it at. That and then on top of, that she either doesn't respond to those comments or maybe likes, them and with that it's kind of implying that that's. Okay and even some of their comments are being responded to with other comments from other people saying that maybe they agree or you, know kind of just like What i'm trying to say here is that when these men are in their, comments you, know saying the things that they, are they're NOT i don't want to say. Reprimanded it's not like they're being called out for being weird or, disgusting you know WHAT i. Mean it's kind of like in a, WAY i don't want to, say egging them, on but it's, like you, know when somebody is doing something like weird or terrible in your, opinion but people aren't doing anything about, it and so they just think that it's okay because nobody is saying anything or calling them. Out it's like, that you, know they think that it's okay because nobody's calling them. Out so they do that under her, videos and they think that it's okay to just do that under other tall women's videos or send other tall women the dms that maybe they're sending In, katerina and it's kind of like, okay just because A katerina is into that and is doing, that doesn't mean that every other tall woman is into that, too you know WHAT i. Mean you know What i'm trying to. Say, again it's no shade to E. Katerina, okay she's probably trying to get her. Bag she's doing what she wants to. Do she's into, it, Period go, off. Queen What i'm saying is that the people in her, comments when they see, that they think, that, oh tall women are supposed to be like, this and they're saying things in her, comments and you, know nobody is calling them out for it or whatever or saying that it's. Weird so they think that it's okay to do that under other tall women's videos and expect that type of co from other tall, women especially other extremely tall, women whether that's online or even in their real. Lives and it's, like, oh because this is okay to do it on this, page it should be okay to do this to other tall, women and That, no that's not how that's not how it. Works but that's just you, know one. Example, then even if we're going on the flip side to shorter, women it's like there are also other videos out there of shorter women being filmed at certain. Angles i'm gonna just say, that being filmed at certain, angles or them being picked up and thrown over somebody's especially a man's shoulders and stuff like. That it's, like does it really need to be out there online like? That and then you, know other people try to recreate it with folks that aren't really comfortable with. It it's just you got, Like i'm trying my best, here Like i'm saying no, te no, shade because, truthfully no, te no. Shade but at what point is it just like this is not we don't need to be we don't need to be doing all. This you, know whoever is, listening tall, girly short, girly. Whoever just note that fetishization doesn't automatically mean. Attraction fetishization does not automatically mean desirability of you as a whole. Person, Okay in my personal, opinion it's, objectification especially if it's like somebody that you don't know or barely. Know it's one thing if you've been together for so long and it's, like oh my, gosh LIKE i love your height and da da da, da and then it's another thing to be, like, oh like can you step on? Me IT'S i just think that there needs to be conversations around, this discussing what you're into and what you're not, into the things to say and not to, say and so, forth and if you're uncomfortable with, it Leave you do not need to stay in that situation the block, button skid, Dado do what you gotta do to get out of that. Situation because the fetishization of your, height it doesn't necessarily mean that they're attracted to you as a whole. Person and it's very different from SAYING i love your, HEIGHT i love that about, you because you can, say, yeah the fact that they love that you're, tall or the fact that they love that you're short and so, forward they also love other things about. You then it's another thing to just create these fantasies around you simply because of your height and that's, it like there's nothing else. There so just wanted to point that out and make that. Clear make sure you set clear, boundaries make sure you have those discussions and, conversations as uncomfortable as it may. Be and if they don't respect your boundaries and they don't respect the fact that you're into it or not into, it then that's just not going to work, out and that's just me and that's just my. Opinion so, Yeah i'm gonna end that episode. Here thank you so much for tuning. IN i really appreciate, it AND i appreciate you of. Course as, always feel free to hit me up on my social set A Tell girls, podcast and you can let me know what you thought about this. Episode what do you think about the fetishization of tall women versus the fetishization of short. Women what do you think about how The internet plays a big role in pushing that and leading people to do that in their everyday, lives and thinking that it's okay to just do that to any and everyone without considering the fact that not everybody may be into. That you, know have you had any experiences with? That please let me know share your experiences in the. Comments you can always send me A. Dm, okay my damns are. OPEN i love talking to you, guys and so forth till THEN i will catch you guys in the next. One good night and. Goodbye