What It's REALLY Like Dating As A Tall Woman | Are The Tall Girlies Desperate?

Dating as a girly is such a beautiful experience. Well it should be a beautiful experience, because truthfully, dating as a woman in twenty twenty five can just be a hot mess at times, so adding height to the mix, like being a tall girly, can make it an even hotter mess. And some of the experiences I've heard and read about honestly validate the last point that I just made, from their dates lying about their height on dating apps, to their dates telling them not to wear heels, to the over sexualizing comment, to being rejected solely based on height, and the list just goes on and on and on. So on today's episode, we're going to be talking about the reality of dating as a tall woman and how some of the tall girlies are turning what seems to be a very difficult experience into a more fun and positive one. So let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's tuning in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you follow me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast on Instagram, TikTok, and pintry so that you could stay up today on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave me review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description. I hope everybody who's listening right now is doing super fantastic. As you can tell, today's topic is going to be dating as a tall girly And this episode is actually inspired by one of the comments that I received under one of my TikTok videos. But we'll get into that a little bit later. But truth be told, I'm gonna be honest with you guys, I rarely talk about dating as a tall girly on this podcast. I don't know. I feel like it's a big cringe. Is that weird to say? I honestly don't know how to explain it, but it's a real struggle that a lot of tall women have, a lot of tall women go through, And honestly, I probably think that it's a bit weird because I don't have too much experience in that department, or really too many stories or at least outrageous stories aside from the fact that you know, my seventh grade crush told me he would never date somebody as huge as me. Yeah, but I'm going to ask this question early on. Is dating as a tall woman really as hard as some of us are making it out to be? And I've heard everything from calling it an extreme sport to it just being non existent. Anyways, I would love to hear your thoughts on this. I did ask you guys in a pull over on Instagram, and I'm going to do a quick little plug here. Make sure you follow me at a Tall Girls podcast so you can participate in these polls and have your opinions heard on these episodes. But I did ask you guys, tell girlies, what would you say your dating experiences have been like? And feel free to DM me any stories. Twenty nine percent of you guys said mainly bad, eighteen percent said mainly good, and fifty three percent set a healthy mix of good and bad. And I'm actually very happy that it's a healthy mix of good and bad. I think that's how it should be. Overall, we need to appreciate the good experiences as much as the bad experiences, because you know, the bad experiences is for the plot, it's for the character development period. But I'm really glad to see that a lot of you guys have had a healthy mix of good and bad. But then the second highest answer was mainly bad. And I'm like, oh, oh no, I'm sorry to hear that, y'all, but yeah, it seems like some of the tall girlies are having a little bit of a hard time when it comes to dating or are just straight up having terrible experiences. Let's hear from a couple of tall relies. Dating is a tall woman should honestly be considered an extreme sport because it is so hard to even find somebody that I am physically attracted to that is taller than me, that I actually have a connection with and vibe with. And it's honestly insane how intimidated a lot of people are by me in general, Like people find it scary when you're a tall girl, or people like think I'm gonna be mean, and a lot of guys will like even if they're taller than me, Like I went out with a guy that was six to one recently, and he was so insecure about it. He was like at first, he was like, I'm an alpha male, like well, he didn't say that specifically, but he was like, I'm masculine, I'm not afraid of a tall woman, like whatever. And then he goes. Like basically like, you can't wear heels around me, and I was like, I'm gonna wear heels, like I just it's immature the way that these guys act, and they just want to like kind of nag me and take me down several notches. And it's so weird how something like height is something that they are totally insecure about. But the really. Hot tall guys they want the cute girls. I swear to god, they want the cute, short, petite girl. So I never pull like the really really tall guys. Like it's usually the guy that's like six one six y two, like barely taller than me, or the guys that are short that love me and fetishize me the most. But I never pull the guy that's like six six or taller, Like they go for girls that are short most of the time. So I'm from Miami, grew up here, you know, and I'm five foot eight, which makes me somewhat a tall girl here in Miami most and I wear heels, like three four inches tall heels. Usually I'm like, what, I five eleven six feet tall? If you do the math, I think I look pretty tall on social media. But nonetheless, whenever I meet a guy, I always saw them. You know, I'm five foot eight, right, like I'm tall. I literally disclose this because it's important to me. So I think it's important to tell the other person your height. And usually men are like, oh, yeah, yeah, no, I'm five foot nine, I'm fight foot And then they show up and they're two inches shorter than me, while I'm not wearing any heels. How am I fight foot eight and you're fight foot ten? But you're actually two inches shorter than me. Somebody's lying here and it's you. And the worst part is that they get mad if you ghost them and you don't talk to them after the first date. You lie to me. No, just because you were so charming on the first date does not It's not gonna help me forget that you lie to me about your height. And you started off this whole getting to know each other with a lie instead of telling me your height. And if I wanted to date a short king, which a lot of girls are okay with dating men shorter than them. I will go on the date with you, but don't lie to me and then show up and be two three inches shorter than me. You're not gonna see me again. Now, there's something about dating as a tall woman that really isn't spoken about enough, And it presented itself in a comment that was under one of my TikTok videos, the TikTok videos that I was asking me the tall girl least, what's something about being a tall woman that isn't spoken about enough? And this person commented overlooking red flags and men, because your pool is just not plenty of fish, it's way harder to find a tall match. So basically, it seems like what this person is saying is that as tall women, some of us feel like we don't have a lot of options, mainly because we're looking for partners who are maybe our height or taller, and you know, being let's say, six foot six one six two, looking for somebody at that higher taller than that. Like, it's like the taller you are, the less people that are going to be around your height. Essentially, it's going to be harder to find somebody who's around your high or taller. So we already feel as though we have limited options, and because we may feel as though we have limited options, we may just settle for whatever. It seems like, like the girl who commented overlooking red flags, we overlook the red flags for the sake of finding a partner who's around our height or taller. And we're more so gonna be talking a lot about heterosexual relationships in this episode. I feel like same sex relationships are a little bit different, but we're going to talk a tiny bit about that later in this episode. But yeah, the tall girlies may more so want to date taller men, and you know, and it's not like there's a whole bunch of them out there that's like six foot six' one and taller and so. Forth and then on top of, that you had the short girlies taking them from, us apparently according to the previous episode THAT i did last, week even though it kind of seems like the taller men are also going for the shorter. Girlies but that's a topic of discussion for another. Day but AS i said, before it feels like our options are extremely limited and we just settle for. Whatever so what exactly does that look. Like one example could possibly be that a lot of times it's said that taller men are, boring they're, boring they're, basic they lack, personality and a common reason that it is. Suppoke, listen this is just like a general. Thing i'm not saying THAT i think. This this is just a general. Thing but a common reason that they're, boring, bland, basic whatever is because they're, tall and because they're, tall they don't have to have personality to get people to be attracted to. Them people already attracted to them because of their, height and so they don't have to have any type of depth or. Whatever they don't have to have anything, else any, good other good, qualities because, oh they're height is. Enough they may even feel as though they don't have to put the extra effort in because they're, tall and being tall as a man is seen as. Desirable, however because you know the man is, taller they the tall woman may overlook the fact that he's not putting as much effort, in or he's boring and lacks personality and so, forth for the sake of having a partner who's taller than her or as tall as, her, now is this is? True are the taller men? BORING i don't know how to answer, that, okay Because i've met taller men who aren't, boring AND i met taller men who are, boring just like How i've met shorter men who are boring and shorter men who aren't. Boring the idea of what's boring is pretty, Subjective like everybody's idea of what's boring and bland and whatever is is ultimately up to them and how they view what boring. IS i don't even know WHAT i just, said But i'm sure you know WHAT i. Mean but are taller men more likely to be? Dry are they more likely to be? Nonchalant it's a, possibility and my experiences the taller ones are more likely to act like. That i'm not saying that it's all of, them but it's just the pattern That i've. Seen don't come for, Me the tall girlies may still go after that, dry nonchalant taller man because he is three inches. TALLER i don't. KNOW i would love to hear your thoughts on, that and if you have any, experiences for you to share. Them now there's a flip side for settling for someone who is shorter than, us a little bit shorter than, us much shorter than, us or it's just somebody who's around our heights and the. Men since we're talking about heterosexual, relationships the men may be a bit jealous because we're taller or. Tall in, general they may be insecure around, us insecure because of the height. Difference let's actually listen to an example really quickly BEFORE i get into this. Part this is WHY i don't date short. Men i've already made videos regarding like WHY i don't date short, men BUT i keep getting, questions So i'm just gonna answer. Them so one of the biggest Questions i've gotten is, like when was the last Time i'm dated a short? Guy and the thing to me is like short to me is if you're my height or shorter than. Me, Right SO i am six feet, tall arguably APPARENTLY i might be six, Wide but When i'm dating a, guy anyone who's six feet or shorter than me is a short. Guy, okay to some other, women they probably are tall like a five to. Ten to somebody who is five feet a five to ten is going to be like really tall for. Them right for, me that's shorter than. Me it's not gonna work for. Me and there's many reasons why it's never worked for. Me, One i've always had to deal with, jealousy and it comes out in various ways, Too Like i've had an ex who told me he didn't like the fact that WHEN i walked into a room that people would look at me as a six feet tall. Girl as, WELL i like to wear. HEELS i don't want to limit myself for wearing heels just Because i'm, taller so When i'm wearing, HEELS i can end up being like six three six. Four. Okay i've dated a guy who is six feet tall and he hated the fact THAT i wore, heels and he was, like, WELL i don't like the fact that you tower over, me but he liked. Heels he's, LIKE i like women who wear, heels BUT i don't like the fact that you're taller than, me because NOW i feel smaller than. You every time That i've tried to date someone that was shorter than, me they all claim they love taller. Women they're, like, OH i love, Legs i'll climb that. Tree they always say the same, thing and they always end up down the road not liking the fact That i'm taller every TIME i without. Fail but we've seen this type of, behavior, RIGHT i don't know how many episodes ago this, was BUT i know it was recently THAT i spoke about the woman who she's about six foot six,' one and a lot of the, rude comments a lot of the annoying jokes and so forth regarding her height came from men who are just slightly shorter than her or at. Her height and this is mainly because IT'S there's, i guess some standard that they have to hit where it's like they have to be taller than the girl that they're, attracted to or they have to be at least six feet tall to be part of the six. Foot club and because they just barely missed, that mark they're pressed. About it that's part. Of it, and HONESTLY what i don't, UNDERSTAND is i, don't like how are you going to get into a relationship with someone fully knowing that you are not secure about your height or you know you're gonna be insecure about the, height difference you know you're jealous of, Her height why would you still get into a relationship? With her and so how that may. Present itself it's like they may make comments about. Your height they may tell you not to wear heels on, a date or ask you why are you, wearing heels or just say little sly things as a way to kind of like humble you or bring you down, or something or in an attempt to make themselves feel better about. THEIR height i, don't know but sometimes a toll girally stay with that person for a while because they think it's like maybe they might think it's out, of love or they may, think, that oh nobody's gonna want to be with me because of, my height but this person is with me despite, my HEIGHT and i just have to do like a few extra things to appease. That person and please know that you don't. Have to don't try to shrink yourself, for anybody not just, a partner. FOR anybody i want to say that right off, the bat but that could also be. A possibility i. Don't know let me know your thoughts, on THAT but i think it's a very interesting point that the tall girl you, brought up how some tall women may overlook red flags because there's not that, many options so we feel like we just have to settle, for whatever so that we can at least have a partner who's around our height or taller, than us or just have a partner. In general so let's go over some tall girl dating red flags to look. Out for if they tell you not to wear heels, around them. Red flag if you get any hint that they're jealous of, your height, red flag any mention of breeding to make d one babies? Red FLAG am i? Missing anything now that we got, that covered the next THING that i kind of want to talk about when it comes to dating as a tall woman is the. Height Dilemma and i'm sure we all kind of understand that, idea again talking more so about, heterosexual RELATIONSHIPS because i honestly feel like in same, sex relationships let's say we're just women, DATING women i feel like height doesn't matter. AS much, i mean to, a degree it kind. Of does everybody has their own preferences and, so forth and sometimes there are women who still want to date women who are taller. Than, them okay everybody has their, own PREFERENCES but i just think that it matters a little bit less than it does in. Heterosexual relationships and we kind of all know the high dilemma how the tall girlies want taller men because oftentimes women more so want men who are taller. Than them so the tall girlies want, taller men but the taller men want the. Short, girlies, yeah honestly do tall men even like. Tall women the tall girlies want to know because they're convinced that the taller men prefer the. Shorter women, but, yeah honestly this one is all. About PREFERENCES but i can kind of. SEE it, i mean it's not crazy to think that, taller Men and i'm talking about like, above average like, footing up prefer. Shorter women like there was a comment under. A video i don't even KNOW if i can, find IT but i remember seeing a comment under a VIDEO when i was looking for TikTok videos to include in. THIS episode i remember seeing a comment of a guy saying that he's like six three or six y five and he only goes for women who are five eight. And, under now why is this? The case shorter women are often the traditional symbol of femininity because they try, to, say oh the more petite, you are the smaller, you are the daintier, you are the more likely you are to be associated with FEMININITY and i guess they're. INTO that i think another thing which is a bit creepy and a, bit SCARY but i think it could also be a thing of like a, power dynamic like it's easier to have more control over that person because. THEY'RE shorter i don't know, it's SICK but i think that it could be. A thing i honestly don't know one hundred and, ten percent, but yeah let's listen to this clip. Really quickly as someone who's like a small tall like, FIVE eight i have a theory about really really tall guys tending to gravitate towards. Shorter, girls OKAY so i notice that guys that are shorter average or even, average TALL so i would consider average tall to be like anywhere between six feet and, six two they're all willing to date women that are on the taller side relative to the relative, To THEM whereas i find that guys that are really on the, taller side like over, sixty five tend to gravitate towards girls who are on the. SHORTER side i have a theory. FOR this i think that, YOU know i think the reason for this is that guys that are over six, y five like subconsciously wrap their whole identity up and, being TALL because i think people throughout their lives tend to point it out as soon as they walk in, the room people, ask like what's the weather like? Up there so it really becomes like baked into their identity and it's kind of who they are as. A person whereas men that are between short and, average tall even a person who's, average tall like six feet to six, to two when they walk into, a room people aren't looking up asking them how the weather is? Up? There, RIGHT yeah i mean people know that, they're tall but it's like a normal amount, of. Tall right the whole identity isn't wrapped up in being six foot. Per se you know, they're tall but it's, not like, you know a defining part of. Their IDENTITY so i think they're more willing to date women that are on the taller side relagie to them for. That reason it doesn't really take away from anything that constitutes their identity as, A PERSON whereas i think guys that are, really tall like over, SIX' five i think tend to like shorter women because it really highlights and exaggerates and puts on, a you know on the center stage the fact, that they're tall which again is like a huge part. Of their, identity but listen everybody has, their own preferences and everybody is entitled to. Their, own preferences okay there are definitely people out there who would love to be with. A tall woman there are people out there who actually prefer to be. WITH tall women i just feel like it's not widely spoken about enough or it's, just not like especially, on social media it's. Not displayed enough. Truth BE told like i feel like, it's out there it's just not being shown or not being. Given enough attention, and it's like if the person really, does like you if they really like, being around you if they, like your personality if they like other physical. Qualities about you height is just one. Thing about you it's. Just one trade it's just. ONE physical, quality i like, it shouldn't honestly it shouldn't be a problem if that person really likes you and really wants to, Be with, you and listen like there is actual. Proof out there there are a lot of TALL women who I follow on instagram on TikTok who have husbands who are shorter. THAN them married i don't know if they, have a, house, but, married kids everything and they're just so happy. With each other let's listen. To this example i'm a six foot four woman and, back in college it was this five foot eight guy who told me. You're my girlfriend you just don't. Know IT yet, and i said the shortest that would go is, six to one So you don't you don't make a. Gut he laughed but we ended up talking, every SINGLE day, and i realized not only is this guy like, handsome and funny but he also has, layers to him and he's so masculine and he's. Such a gentleman so two, weeks after that, he told me we are not doing this you, are my girlfriend or we're just walking away from each other right now and we are. Not talking anymore, THIRTEEN years later i have not one but two of. These men's children so what has clocked, to me then is that short king is, not the height. It's THE energy and i hope that's clocking. TO you too i ask you guys, in another poll would you go for someone? Shorter than you fourteen percent of you, guys said yes my current or past partner is. Shorter than me thirty eight, percent said no. Taller than me FOURTEEN percent said i prefer someone around the same, height as me and thirty four percent said love is, love and honestly. LOVE is love i love. TO see that i love to see a lot of you guys. ACTUALLY chose that i. GUESS that answer. I don't know i did this pull out one, in THE morning so i can't REALLY say why i put that. As A choice but i think that's kind of to show that there's, really no preference like just. Going FOR anybody so i think that a good portion of you guys just don't really care. About the height its seems like you can let me know in The comments if i'm correct, And assuming that but it seems like YOU guys don't a lot of you guys don't. HAVE a preference a good third of you guys don't have. A strong preference it's just, whoever you love whoever you want. To be with and then of course the most is no only. TALLER than me i kind. OF expected that i kind. Of, FIGURED that however i did get a response from one of, you guys saying MY husband and i are basically, the SAME height and i wouldn't have it, Any other, WAY and honestly i. VIBE with that i in, MY personal opinion i also prefer somebody who's like around, the same high like if they're like a centimeter, Shorter, than me like that's not. GONNA hurt anybody i think a person who's around my high is. Honestly my preference that's just my opinion, If Y'ALL care, but i agree love is love no. Matter the height if you want to be, with that person be. With that person and if that person wants to, be with you they're gonna be with you no matter if you're taller or shorter or at the same, height. As them period, all in all tall women deserve partners who love and, celebrate their height not try to compete with it or make them feel. Insecure about it my advice to the tall girlies is to never shrink. Yourself or, anybody and yeah that is, my two cents and that, is The episode and i'm gonna. End it here thank you so much. FOR tuning in i, really APPRECIATE it and i appreciate. YOU of course i always feel free to hit me up on my Socials Out a tall girls podcast going to be linked, in the description and let me know what you thought. About this episode do you have any crazy tall? Girl dating experiences what do you think about the TWO points, that i make like the first one where some tall women overlook red flags because they feel as though they don't, have many options so they just settle for whatever is out there or whoever wants to, be with them whether it's a taller man who is dry and, bland or nonchalant or a guy who's around her height or maybe shorter but makes her feel insecure, about her height but she feels as though nobody else is going to want to be with somebody who's as. TALL as her i would actually love to hear your, thoughts on that because that's a. Very interesting point and then also. The high dilemma we all know about. The high dilemma let me know your thoughts. On that, Too genuinely curious and thank you again so much for listening to this episode up, to this point and if you are, a returning listener thank you for listening every single week or every few weeks or however. Often you listen thank you for. Supporting this podcast thank you for all, of the comments all, of the likes all, of the participation and my polls. FOR these episodes i really. Do appreciate it you guys are definitely making, this A thing so i JUST want to i just want TO say that i really do appreciate you guys for tuning in and being active, listeners and, participating and, yeah of course feel free to. Hit me up you're always welcome. To do that, AND until then i will catch you in. The next one good. Night and goodbye