We Need To Stop Calling Tall Women "Big"...

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[00:01:56] [SPEAKER_00]: talking about tall women being called big, why that's an issue in my opinion and how we as

[00:02:02] [SPEAKER_00]: tall women can bounce back from that and remain confident in ourselves. And first and foremost,

[00:02:07] [SPEAKER_00]: can we stop calling tall women big? To be honest, big and tall are two completely

[00:02:13] [SPEAKER_00]: different things in my opinion. Let's just stick with tall and there are lots of tall women out

[00:02:18] [SPEAKER_00]: there that do have experience with this. I'm going to include a video so we can hear from one of them.

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Know what we need to stop doing as a community is stop calling tall people big. Please, please,

[00:02:33] [SPEAKER_01]: please stop using the word big as an adjective to describe somebody who's above average.

[00:02:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Use any other adjective than big. Like I feel like when you call me big,

[00:02:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel so offended because it's like you're calling me fat.

[00:02:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Guys, there's other words to describe tall people other than big. It feels kind of offensive

[00:02:59] [SPEAKER_00]: even if you didn't mean it that way to call us big or even just any woman in general big.

[00:03:06] [SPEAKER_00]: And there's a reason to it. The term big in terms of calling a woman that is it has a negative

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_00]: connotation in two ways. We're taught at a young age that we're supposed to be smaller. We're not

[00:03:19] [SPEAKER_00]: supposed to be seen. We're not supposed to be heard really only to be there when we're needed.

[00:03:25] [SPEAKER_00]: So when you have a tall girl, she automatically sticks out from the crowd.

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Most of the time eyes are going to be on her. Lots of eyes are going to be on her.

[00:03:35] [SPEAKER_00]: She's going to be seen, which kind of goes against the idea that women should be smaller

[00:03:41] [SPEAKER_00]: and more petite. So almost automatically she is going to be ridiculed for something that

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_00]: she naturally has and that's her height. So to call her big that's kind of just like

[00:03:51] [SPEAKER_00]: making her a little bit more self-conscious. You're basically pointing out the fact that

[00:03:55] [SPEAKER_00]: she sticks out from the crowd and that's something that we already know.

[00:03:59] [SPEAKER_00]: So to constantly bring it up to constantly hear about it,

[00:04:03] [SPEAKER_00]: we're going to start feeling self-conscious and we're going to start overthinking things a little

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_00]: bit. And then on the other side, big can also mean fat or overweight like when you're talking about

[00:04:12] [SPEAKER_00]: a big girl. And to be honest, I don't really like the terms fat and overweight. I don't know.

[00:04:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe because all of them just really have a negative connotation to them

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_00]: and people use it as a way to insult other people. So because big is associated with those

[00:04:28] [SPEAKER_00]: terms that are used to insult people, then automatically big has a negative connotation

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_00]: and we're going to see big as an insult. And I feel like a man being called big is different

[00:04:39] [SPEAKER_00]: than a woman being called big for a man. It's kind of like a compliment where it's like,

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_00]: oh he's big and strong. Whereas for a woman, it's like an insult where it's like, oh she's

[00:04:48] [SPEAKER_00]: fat or extremely giant. Hence why tall women don't like being called big.

[00:04:53] [SPEAKER_00]: It just brings up a lot of negative thoughts for us and can even play a part in body image

[00:04:57] [SPEAKER_00]: issues and self-consciousness. And to be quite honest, I also feel like it's worse for tall

[00:05:04] [SPEAKER_00]: women who are also plus-sized because they're already tall. So automatically you already feel

[00:05:11] [SPEAKER_00]: out of place. You already stick out. You already feel so much bigger than others, especially other

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_00]: women. And then on top of that, you're plus-sized. So I feel like a woman who has that combination

[00:05:20] [SPEAKER_00]: of being tall and plus-sized, the term big is just even worse for them. I'm going to roll

[00:05:25] [SPEAKER_00]: a clip because I just honestly think that this creator can explain the feeling a little bit

[00:05:31] [SPEAKER_03]: better than I can. If you're over 200 pounds and you're a girl and you're tall, can we just talk

[00:05:36] [SPEAKER_03]: about how it doesn't even matter how much you weigh? If you're tall, you automatically feel

[00:05:40] [SPEAKER_03]: like the biggest person in the room. And then pairing that with being over 200 pounds,

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_03]: for sure, feel like the biggest person in the room. It's like you could weigh the same

[00:05:48] [SPEAKER_03]: as a shorter girl but you still feel like you're so much bigger than them just because you're

[00:05:53] [SPEAKER_03]: so much taller than them. I love my height. I love being tall. But my whole life, I've always just

[00:05:58] [SPEAKER_03]: felt like the biggest person in a room. Even when I was down 50 pounds, even at my heaviest,

[00:06:02] [SPEAKER_03]: at my lowest, still will always feel like the biggest person in the room. And I think that's

[00:06:06] [SPEAKER_03]: where some of my body image issues in the past have stemmed from is that constant feeling of

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_03]: being the biggest person in the room regardless of my weight but because of my height. Anyone

[00:06:14] [SPEAKER_00]: else? And you know, in knowing this, that's why I'm a little bit taken aback by certain

[00:06:20] [SPEAKER_00]: sections in the stores that are technically supposed to be labeled tall sections but they call

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_00]: them big and tall sections. Do you know what I'm talking about? Do you know those sections,

[00:06:31] [SPEAKER_00]: big and tall sections that are in stores? In some stores, they definitely have them in Walmart.

[00:06:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I know that for a fact. Like isn't it weird that some stores call their tall sections big

[00:06:40] [SPEAKER_00]: and tall sections? I genuinely want to know why they call them big and tall. Like can't

[00:06:46] [SPEAKER_00]: you just have a tall section with a wide range of sizes? I mean, honestly, those sections are more

[00:06:52] [SPEAKER_00]: so for the men. I have never seen or I don't recall seeing that's not to say that they're

[00:06:58] [SPEAKER_00]: they aren't out there because you never know they probably are but I've never seen that for

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_00]: a women's section before. But even so like why is it called big and tall? Like I don't know.

[00:07:10] [SPEAKER_00]: I know I'm like going on a sidetrack but I just find that really weird. But then again,

[00:07:15] [SPEAKER_00]: does that also play a part in people thinking that it's okay to call tall people and tall women

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_00]: big? Because those two terms are used side by side in those sections in the stores. So they're like,

[00:07:30] [SPEAKER_00]: huh, big and tall, that's used together in clothing stores and stuff. Then we can also refer to

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_00]: tall people, tall women as big. I mean, do you kind of see logically what I'm trying

[00:07:43] [SPEAKER_00]: to put together? And okay, that may be fine for the men because it's mainly the men's section,

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_00]: but it's not necessarily fine for us for the tall women. And it's not just the term big

[00:07:54] [SPEAKER_00]: that's offensive for tall women. There are others like large, huge and even giant. There's

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_00]: actually a podcaster who's also tall who had experience with being called large and I'm gonna

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_02]: roll that video right now. This guy was asking me if I wanted a large sweatshirt.

[00:08:13] [SPEAKER_02]: He was like, do you want a sweatshirt? And I was like, yeah, I would love one of your sweatshirts.

[00:08:16] [SPEAKER_02]: And he's like, large question mark. And I was like, sure, we're on zoom and he's like,

[00:08:20] [SPEAKER_02]: well, you're a large. And I was like, well, I was like why? Yeah, I love large sweatshirts.

[00:08:26] [SPEAKER_02]: And he's like, but you are a large. I said, why am I a large? He's like,

[00:08:28] [SPEAKER_02]: because aren't you 5'9", 5'10"? I said, yeah. He said, so you're a large girl.

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_02]: And I was like, bro. And he's like, it's no idea what he's saying. And I said, what do you mean?

[00:08:41] [SPEAKER_02]: And he was like, I just associate like a girl's height, like a small is like 5' to 5'3", 3.5",

[00:08:48] [SPEAKER_02]: a medium 5'4", to 5'7", a large 5'7", to 6' and extra large or anything above that.

[00:08:55] [SPEAKER_02]: And I said, but don't correlation, like you just associate me at 5'9", as a large.

[00:09:01] [SPEAKER_02]: If someone called me a large girl, I would cry. And he's like, but that's how guys work.

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_00]: And to be quite honest with you, he did not need to do all that. He did not need to be like,

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_00]: oh, you're a large, you're a large girl. Like you literally could have been like,

[00:09:17] [SPEAKER_00]: yeah, do you want a size large sweatshirt and just left it at that? Or he literally could

[00:09:21] [SPEAKER_00]: have been neutral and be like, what size do you want? What size sweatshirt do you want?

[00:09:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Oh my gosh, little tall story time. I was out at a restaurant and I went to the bathroom.

[00:09:30] [SPEAKER_00]: I opened the door and as I was walking in, there was a lady who was about to walk out.

[00:09:35] [SPEAKER_00]: And when she saw me, she jumped back and was like, oh my gosh, you're huge. You scared me girl.

[00:09:45] [SPEAKER_00]: What? She was, I mean, I get, I don't want to say I get it, but I mean,

[00:09:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I guess because I mean, we were about to walk into each other at the same time.

[00:09:54] [SPEAKER_00]: So I could partially understand that. And she was half my size. She was,

[00:09:58] [SPEAKER_00]: she was pretty short because to be fair, I'm not super, super tall. You know what I mean?

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_00]: But she didn't apologize. That was nice of her. She at least acknowledged the fact that she just

[00:10:09] [SPEAKER_00]: said I was huge. But I mean, I'm assuming that it's a reflex. I'm going to give her the

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_00]: benefit of the doubt. I'm probably never going to see her again. So I'm just going to leave

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_00]: that alone. But still like, dang, like people really are quick to call us large, big and

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_00]: huge. And you know, it really just doesn't feel good anyways. Now that we got all of that out the

[00:10:29] [SPEAKER_00]: way, you're probably wondering as a tall woman, what do you do when someone calls you big? Like,

[00:10:36] [SPEAKER_00]: how do you even respond to that? Well, for starters, it's important to not give a big reaction.

[00:10:41] [SPEAKER_00]: There are just some people who don't really mean it as an insult. It's just a term that comes

[00:10:45] [SPEAKER_00]: to mind because they associate big with tall and partially to blame for that is there are

[00:10:51] [SPEAKER_00]: a lot of things within society and the media. Even something as simple as I explained earlier with

[00:10:56] [SPEAKER_00]: the big and tall sections, because you see big and tall in the same like phrase, people are

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_00]: going to associate big with tall and think that it's okay to call tall people all tall people

[00:11:07] [SPEAKER_00]: even tall women big. And then of course, if you want, you could tell them like, oh, like,

[00:11:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I see that term as pretty offensive. I don't like when people use that word. Like,

[00:11:15] [SPEAKER_00]: can you just refer to me as tall? And a normal person will apologize, especially if it's

[00:11:20] [SPEAKER_00]: like a friend or like an acquaintance or somebody, you know, it's like if you tell them that

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_00]: they should change and they shouldn't be calling you big continuously. And if they do, then

[00:11:31] [SPEAKER_00]: that's an issue. You should not be around that person that much because it's pretty evident that

[00:11:37] [SPEAKER_00]: they don't respect you and they don't respect even when you told them that you dislike something,

[00:11:41] [SPEAKER_00]: they don't respect that and they don't try to change their ways in order to keep that,

[00:11:46] [SPEAKER_00]: you know, relationship healthy. So walk away, don't associate with them, don't try to argue with them,

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_00]: just leave that situation alone. Oh, it's directly at the end. You are tall and beautiful. So make

[00:12:00] [SPEAKER_00]: sure you remember that and walk away with your head held high. So yeah, that's why we don't

[00:12:05] [SPEAKER_00]: like the term big. I just think that we should stop calling tall women big for everybody's

[00:12:13] [SPEAKER_00]: sanity, including our own. Thank you so much for tuning into this episode. I really appreciate it.

[00:12:18] [SPEAKER_00]: And I appreciate you. I hope that you got something out of it. You got to understand why tall women

[00:12:24] [SPEAKER_00]: don't like being called big. You got some type of tips like towards the end as the kind of what

[00:12:30] [SPEAKER_00]: you should do when people call you big. But I'm honestly hoping that people also other

[00:12:35] [SPEAKER_00]: tall women too included in the comments like what to do when somebody calls you big so we

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_00]: can you know, share our experiences and learn and grow from each other. So yeah, thank you again

[00:12:46] [SPEAKER_00]: for tuning into this episode. Make sure you follow me on all my socials. And I'm going to be talking

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