The Scary Reality for Tall Women: How Transphobia Impacts Tall Cisgender Women

Sometimes tall women are misgendered, and there are quite a few stories around this, ranging from being called sir to literally being asked straight up, are you a man? Now? Why does this happen? Height equals masculinity, of course, because it's a common, well not really common, but more of a desirable physical trait associated with men. Now, most people typically just apologize and move on with their lives when they find out that she is a woman, whether she is transgender or cisgendered. However, not all interactions are like that, meaning yes, there are some arguments and maybe physical altercations. In today's episode, we're going to discuss the misgendering of tall women, where transphobia comes into play, and a couple stories and experiences from tall women. So, without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning everybody. You are currently listening to a tall Girl's podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who is sitting in today is doing super fantastic. 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So I walk in and you know, they greet you, and you know, I was standing kind of facing the worker, and they were like, hey, sir, how can I help you? And I was just like, I didn't even know he was talking to me, but I didn't hear anyone answer. Hamstock kind of looked around and I realized he was talking to me. So in that moment, I had a choice. Typically I would go out of my way to let the person know that I'm offended and that they're lazy for just calling me a man based on my height, because listen, I have on girl clothes and I know my face doesn't look like a man, but I decided to just be nice. I literally saw a man post if a woman is finelyne up, you have to check, and I'm assuming they need like check to see what gender they were born as. And that is so stupid because if that's your mindset, you're gonna meet a short transgender and you're not even gonna know that they're a transender because you're like, oh, there's short. You know what I'm saying. So why I'm here and they're telling extremely tall women asks and if they're you know, a transgender or you know, or if they're a man. I haven't experienced this, but I'm hearing that's what y'all be going through, like that's new. And taking a look at the comments, one person said, first time, I was just a kid, maybe nine, at church, someone thought I was a little boy and kept trying to point me in the direction of the men's restroom. Another person says, I get called sir a lot. I don't feel like I look masculine, but I guess being tall is why they think I might be a male. Maybe. Now, this next comment leads to my next point, and honestly the entire point of this episode. One person said, yes, it is traumatizing. I got chased through a mall for this in high school. They were trying to jump me screaming transgender. At the time, I knew nothing about transgenders. It was so scary and created all types of insecurities. Now, I actually did a TikTok video not really combining the two. I spoke about misgendering and transphobia in that one video. However, there's also there can be a bit of overlap in both of those terms, because you could still be a tall trans woman who is misgendered. But some people can misgender you without thinking that you're transgender, and some people can think you're transgender without misgendering you. Let me know if that makes sense. I hope that it does. I just wanted to lay out all of the possibilities here, But either way, this stuff can put a tall woman in danger. Now back to the video that I was talking about previously, I'm going to play for you guys right now. Me bans explore involved hitted for the most part, does not qualify me as being a mean or looking like a mean. He is already perceived as masculine. When you're a tall woman and you have certain features, let's say, shorter hair or a more athletic build, or you dressed in a more masculine way, the chances of being missgendered can be higher. And the thing is, when a tall woman still has a lot of feminine features or presents herself in a feminine way, there are people who will still question her gender or assume that she's trans. And that's when transphobia comes into play, because if someone thinks you're a transgender, they can start treating you very differently or even horribly. I'm actually thinking about doing a full podcast episode on this topic, so let me know your thoughts in the comments. And there was actually one comment under this video that said, as a transgender woman, I'm happy that CIS women are finally realizing that the discrimination on us can impact them in a myriad of ways. Now, I understand that this is a bit of a sensitive topic, but transphobia is dangerous for tall cis gender women because When some people assume that a tall CIS woman is trans, they may respond with slurs, harassment, or even violence. Now, I acknowledge the fact that I am not part of the LGBTQIA plus community. I am a heterosexual, cisgender woman, and truthfully, I don't really have experiences with transphobia. I do have some experiences with misgendering. I've been called sir before, some people have assumed, especially when I was younger, some people have assumed that I was a boy, things like that, but nothing in terms of transphobia. So there are some things that I will say that I'm a bit limited in. So feel free to share your experiences and thoughts and the comments and in my DMS even I'm open to having a discussion about these things, but I do want to acknowledge that before I go further. Now, what is transphobia. Transphobia is the fear, disbelief, hatred, or distrust of transgender people or people who don't conform to traditional gender norms. It ranges from bullying and harassment to literal, legal and political efforts to restrict their rights. Now, personally, I believe that if the person is not bothering you, don't bother them. If they're happily living their lives the way that they want, why don't you just go and find happiness for yourself instead of trying to ruin that for them, Because at the end of the day, we're all humans and we should be treating each other with respect. Transphobia is not something that's like heihi haha, Like this is something extremely scary that people experience even on a daily basis. Now from the perspective of a tall cis woman, there are quite a few stories of tall time this woman experiencing transphobia, them basically encountering transphobic people. And there was actually a comment under a video that stood out to me. But I'll play the video first. Try being a woman and people call you trans. That has only happened to me a few times, so I can't even imagine actually being trans. I feel like both experiences had to be crazy, honestly. And then there was a story that was actually in the comment section that said, had a guy at the trans station harass me because he thought I was a pretty tea girl and kept having to tell him to back up because he kept walking towards me. Each time I tried to back away from him. Basically, he was constantly getting more aggressive and louder the more I rejected him, only left after he found out that I was sis. Can't imagine how scary it is for my trans girls. And then transferring over to Reddit, there are several posts in our tall girl I think that's what it is, like the tall girl forum. I'm not too familiar with how the names of things on, but it works. But I think it's just like the tall girl forum. There's a tall girl forum, and there were a lot of stories, a lot of posts that shared stories or maybe even ask questions about if tall CIS women experience like transphobic people or even tall trans women asking tall sis women if they have experiences with transphobic people, And quite a few of the comments that are these posts share those stories. One person said, I'm only five nine, but I had a guy harass me once and call me the teaseler. I didn't want to seem offended he thought that I was trans as there's nothing wrong with it. But are people really so dumb that they think all a fab or I believe a fab is born as a woman, born as a female, that they think all a fab people are short. Another said I've been followed into the bathroom and confronted three times and had security called on me twice for using the women's bathroom. I'm six' three with noticeable, breasts long, hair and have birth to. Children what it seems like here is because you, Know i've read other stories outside of, this more so with you, know TALL cis women talking about how people have assumed that they're, transgender maybe asked them or something of that. Sort it really just seems like tall cisgendered women are not offended that people are assuming that they're. TRANSGENDER i, mean that's not to say that all of them. Aren't, HONESTLY i feel like more about asking out of, nowhere especially like a, stranger rather than people assuming that they're transgender a transgender, woman because, honestly there's nothing wrong with, that like, okay and Like i'm still a, woman you know WHAT i? Mean either, way you're still a. WOMAN i just think that the issue comes in when the slurs are. Involved as the lady was talking about being followed into the, bathroom having security called on, them being. Harassed in that first story about how a guy was basically you, know trying to get with her because he thought that she was a transgender, girl and and basically having to over extend ourselves to prove that we're, literally like especially with the bathroom, situation having to over extend ourselves and basically prove that, yeah we ARE cis gendered, women you, know without stripping, naked you know WHAT i, Mean and SOME cis gendered women still fail at, That if that makes. Sense that sounds really weird to, say but people still don't believe. Them, like for, example there was a STORY i actually found. About there was this woman who was a planet. Fitness this TALL cis woman was asked to use a family restroom in outside wall lockers because two shorter women weren't comfortable with her in the women's locker. Room AND i also want to say that this story in particular just goes to show that it's not just. Men. OKAY i feel like a lot of the stories definitely involve men being transphobic towards TALL sis women or even tall trans, Women but that also goes to show that is both sized. Too it's both men and, women even though most of these stories involved. Men AND i will say, that, yes just as those two shorter women tried to get, WELL i guess kind of succeeded in kicking her out of the women's locker room because they weren't comfortable with her. THERE i feel like men are especially bold about, it very very bold about. It, like for, example WHEN i was going down like a TikTok rabbit hole trying to find some clips to use for this, EPISODE i came across this video of. US i Think i've used like some of her clips in some of my past, episodes BUT i came across a video of her doing a response to a comment that was underneath another. Video so basically the original video was her literally just asking where are the tall? Women like she wanted to just she just wanted tall women to comment in her comment section and comment their. Height you, know that's pretty. Standard we want to find other tall girlies on the. App that's what we. Do but then she got a comment from a man SAYING i assume that every woman over six feet is, Trans and so she did a video response to this, comment And i'm gonna play that for you. Guys, Hey I'm. Caitlin i'm six foot, four and it is comments like these that seriously make most tall women be, shy, tivid afraid to, talk afraid to go out in. Public are you? Kidding, like how fragile is your masculinity that someone who's six foot or above makes your shrink that quickly that you have to make comments like, this like come, on fragile masculinity is? Embarrassing, okay play? Together Gross, NOW. I don't know how the person meant. This in my, eyes it doesn't really look like an insult or a. Compliment is just stating his, thought which is. Ridiculous is stating his opinion or, whatever which again is like. Ridiculous but, again we can have different opinions on, things and it's not really like an example of. TRANSPHOBIA i don't, think but, listen correct. Me If i'm, wrong feel free to let me. Know BUT i feel like you can kind of tell the type of person he. Is, again it's kind of like, Weird like why would you say you, know you know how when your kids and you're growing up and your parents teach, you or at LEAST i hope they teach you that some thoughts should stay as inside. Thoughts this is a very prime example of. That you did not need to comment that on the, internet AND i tried to find this person's. Profile nowhere to be. Found it's like all of his comments on other videos and, LIKE i really tried to find this person's. Profile all the comments were. DELETED i don't think the account exists. Anymore and maybe it's for the, best because you, know, guys you should be careful when you comment on the internet because your EMPLOYER hr can find it and find. You be. Careful but it's just like you don't know. Anybody this was not even a video talking about like it was just a video of her asking where are the tall? Women and, like, OH i assume that every woman over six feet is Trans that makes no. Sense and even if that makes sense to, you why would you say that out? Loud? Stop you know WHAT i? Mean but. Listen either, way height is a major reason for the assumption that A talsis woman is either a man or A talsis woman is a transgender. Woman and because of, THAT i want to offer this reminder to, you, guys don't let anyone tell you that you're too, tall too tall to be a, woman too tall to be. Feminine your height does not measure your worth or your. Femininity, Anyways i'm going to end the episode. Here, honestly, FIRST i want to like ask because there is this. Girlly her name Is, Ali Ali. ALEXIS i actually had her on my podcast episode as a guest, once and you, know she posts a lot of like tall outfit, content like basically helping the tall girlies find fits that fit their long B she's six or, four so you, know she's pretty up, there and you, know finding clothes can be hard when you get into that height. Range and she has spoken a lot about her, experiences you, know with transphobia or transphobic, people specifically In. Texas she talks a lot about how she experienced a lot of that In. Texas AND i don't know if there are any people From texas tuning in to. THIS i don't know if there are any people From texas watching the YouTube version of this or. Whatever but is that? True is this a very common thing In? Texas please let me know in the comments or my. Dms and, Yeah i'm gonna end the episode. Here thank you so much for tuning. IN i appreciate, it AND i appreciate you of. Course as, always feel free to hit me up with my socials at A Tell girls podcast. Again you can let me know if this is A texas. Thing have you had any experience with transphobic people or just misgendering or, both even, like let's just share our thoughts and our comments and opinions and our stories on. This the point of this is to have a conversation around these, things and until THEN i will catch you guys in the next. One Good night and. Goodbye