(T)All Women Have It Hard Dating | “Tall Girl Dating Theory” & Dating Advice for Tall Women

People have a lot to say about dating as a tall woman. We're often told that our options are limited because there are not loads of tall men out there in the world, and in conjunction to that, we're told to keep our options open and consider shorter men. Then our experiences show us that many men don't actually prefer or even consider taller women for whatever reason, whether they find us intimidating, masculine, they feel insecure around us, and so forth and so on. And we can't forget about the back and forth with short women in that all of the shorter women are taking the tall men debate. I mean, it does kind of sound horrendous. However, our experiences have become so popular that some of our dating struggles are now stereotyped and are being compared to and being used to name other general dating issues out there. So today we're going to talk about why the tall girl dating world has been given a bit of a bad rep and how the tall girlis can navigate through this with confidence and remaining sane. So, without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's doing in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast on Instagram, TikTok, and pincher so that you can stay up toate on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave mer review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description Happy New Year, guys. Oh my gosh. First, there was an episode on Christmas last Thursday, and now we have another episode on New Year's Day, like the first episode of twenty twenty six is also on the first day of twenty twenty six. Period, I hope you had a fun and very safe New Year's celebration by the time this episode is up. I am most likely still but he loves scheduling things in advanced period. That's honestly how I'm getting through managing this podcast. But I hope that this is an amazing year, because we all deserve an amazing year. After these last few years, fingers crossed. Now back to this episode. I'm sure we understand the vibe when it comes to dating as a tall woman. I mean, we've heard a lot of the problems and experiences we have faced. But just in case one of you guys or a few of you guys are not super familiar with it, I'm going to play a couple of videos that basically summarize it. Okay, somebody make this make sense. I recently had a man who was six eight tell me I was too tall for him. How's tall am I? I'm five to nine. My five nine self was too tall for six eight men. He's like, oh, but with the heels and the hair, you end up being like I was like, yeah, with the heels it's like maybe six one, and then the hair, if it's a fro, maybe six three six'. Four he's like, yeah because you're looking at me in the. Eye i'm, like what's the wrong with? That what's the problem with? That can we talk about how stressful dating? Is that's a tall? Woman, like you really never know what you're. Getting and first of, all men lie about their. Heights second of, all men li about your. Height it's like you just can't. Win but, Regardless i'm gonna show, up be acutely, fly and have me a. Drink so. CHEERS i. Am my Name's. KITLIN i am six foot. Four Today i'm gonna talk about what it's like to date as a super tall. Woman it's. Difficult, okay let's start out with that right off the get. Go, okay a lot of people are really intimidated by her. Height so if you're going to date as a super tall, woman you have to be extremely confident with your, height and you only can date people that are confident in their height and also love your. HEIGHT a lot of tall, women we naturally feel. Masculine we're way bigger than. You it's. Uncomfortable like women want to feel, feminine they want to feel, pretty they want to feel, safe they want to feel taking care, of they want to just feel all those girly things that we were taught when we were, young and it's really. Hard when you're super. Tall you just feel masculine and you feel like you're the dude in the relationship and that it's. Hard it's definitely. Hard and, honestly these are just a few experiences from tall. Women we barely just scratch the surface with. THAT i know there are tall women out there with the most, hilarious, wild mind boggling dating stories known to, humankind and if you're one of, them make sure you drop those stories in the. Comments let's talk about what dating really looks like for us. Nowadays, anyways we're not really going to talk about the dating experiences of tall women in this. Episode that's probably going to be for a future. Episode but instead we're going to dive into a term called the tall girl dating theory or the tall girl dating, problem or it has like twenty thousand different. Names at this, POINT i don't even. Know and, Honestly i've heard of this term quite a few years, ago BUT i didn't really do an episode on it until, now mainly because it kind of has like nothing to do with tall women at. ALL i, mean it kind of, does but it kind of. Doesn't as we get more into this, episode it's going to make more sense and more so compares the tall women's dating experiences to the dating experiences of the modern twenty first century. Women and you think it's, like, yes we're so iconic that people are using our experiences to name other experiences or to compare to other. Experiences, HOWEVER i don't know if it's necessarily a good. Thing it's a bit of an. Issue What i'm going to do Is i'm going to play a couple of videos explaining this theory or this term or whatever BEFORE i pop back in to kind of summarize. Everything there's an idea called the toll girl. Hypothesis, so if you're a six foot three, woman typically on average women want to date a guy taller than. Them you're looking at pro, athletes. Right if you want to date if you're six foot three, women you want to wet heels at your wedding like you're looking to do that six, seven like you're looking at pro. Athletes here, is if you are a taller woman and want to date up and, across there is a smaller cohort of men for you to be able to pick. From, yes, socioeconomically over the last fifty, years women have become. Taller, socioeconomically they have, grown men have, stagnated and in some cases they've actually gotten a little bit. Shorter what this means, is if women on average want to date a man who is as educated or more than, them and as wealthy or more than. Them but women are now out earning and oubt educating men who have an ever increasing group of high performing women competing forever decreasing group of ultra high performing. Men when women, say sort, of where are all of the good men? AT i think this is one of the fundamental issues that's kind of hiding in plain, view which is typically women want to date up and, across but if they have grown up through in their own competence, hierarchy there is an ever decreasing group of guys that they're going to find. Attractive the tall woman theory is a fascinating theory that directly speaks to The american, culture specifically in. Dating and essentially what this theory is says as, is let's say you have a taller, woman let's say six y. Three now she's women because evolutionary psychology tells us this woman like to date. Up they like to date men with more, status, Money they are physically bigger things of this, nature, right and so they want a taller. Guy, well when you're six,' three the amount of men who are taller than you, significantly shrinks so you have less of a pool of men to. Sleck from now this theory isn't specific to. Literally height women on average are earning. Much more they're they're earning, more nowadays and men on average they're. Earning less so, like then they used to. Be okay and so the reason that this is becoming an issue is, because women like their psychology is telling them they want to, date up but men are like men are also. Getting shorter like in almost, every category men are decreasing in, most categories women, Are increasing and the problem is now the pool of potential mates is smaller than. Ever before and the reason this is such a big issue is because we already have an underpopulation problem and if the birth rate falls below one point point, two one which like honestly in third years it Could, in america it's the country will die. Off eventually, so basically this theory is the idea that that women today have a bit more of a limited. Dating pool so as tall women prefer to date a guy or, a person they may want to date a person who is taller. Than them women who are educated and have a great career and hobbies and, so forth they want, a partner maybe a male partner who is at their level. Or higher and this dating or marrying up is known, as hypergamy and they're saying that women are getting taller both literally like actually and, figuratively socioeconomically while men are remaining the same or, getting shorter both literally like actually and figuratively. Like, SOCIOECONOMICALLY now i want, to know have you heard of? THIS theory i honestly find it very interesting and kind of fit that tall women's experiences tall women's dating experiences are being used to describe the experiences of women in twenty twenty five or twenty. Twenty six, my, Bad y'all but think about it. This, way traditionally and a had a ero, sexual relationship men are expected to be the taller ones in, a relationship and then women are expected to be the, shorter ones like small. And, petite right so when the tall women enter, the chat we kind of disrupt those, gender norms those, societal norms leading people including men to, be rude to, feel insecure to even get aggressive, with us maybe even intimidated and honestly dismissive of. Our experiences and the same kind of applies with women in twenty. Twenty, six right once we got our rights or the rights that, we, have well they're kind of starting to, take Away, or okay once we have a majority of the rights that we, Have today i'll say it. That, way now once we got the majority of the rights that we, have today we took it and we basically sprinted and. Never, stopped okay we're getting, our education we're getting, our bachelor's, master's degrees. Are doctorates we're obtaining, more wealth we're advancing in. Our careers, and traditionally men were expected to be the more, educated ones or the, wealthier ones or have a good amount or high amount of status in that, heterosexual relationship even if it's similar to that of, The women like he still had a good amount of education and a good amount of wealth in that, particular relationship kind of like dating someone around the same level in, that sense and kind of like how tall women have higher. Height standards now these women that are advanced in their careers are advancing in their, money journeys they're advancing in their. Personal lives they're creating fulfilling lives for themselves with hobbies and friendships and. So forth now they are also high having higher standards for, their partners and if it's a, heterosexual relationship having higher standards for their. Male partners they're expecting more out of, their partners, and honestly it's great. AND realistic, I mean i don't think you really want to be with someone who is going who doesn't really have the similar values, as you but also isn't in a similar place in life. As you and many men are uncomfortable, With this and instead of talking about the fact that these men are uncomfortable, with it they kind of shift, the, blame, like oh they're expecting, Too much oh their standards are, too high, et cetera. Et cetera and sometimes they even, get rude they, get insecure even, get aggressive just as how some men deal with. Tall women and because of all, of that many women are told to just settle. For whatever and this also kind of applies to, tall women because the interesting thing is when it comes to dating as a, tall WOMAN sometimes i feel like we're kind of just told, to settle that our height standards and requirements are, too high that we're limiting ourselves by wanting to, day taller. Et cetera AND all i want to say to that is we deserve to have our. Own preferences and before some of y'all come, for ME because i know how some of these people listening to my episodes and watching it on YouTube and. SO forth i know how some of y'all like to get before y'all come. For me these preferences, Look. Different okay some taller women want. Shorter, men okay some, don't care and everyone is. Fair game some taller women only want, Tall men some tall women want men to same height. As them. Everybody's different everybody wants, different things and, that's okay because, it's like if you know that you don't want to be with someone who is below a certain height and, that's final why waste. Anybody's time it's kind of similar back to the dating in the. Modern world if you want someone who makes a certain amount, of money or you want someone in a certain, career field or you want someone with certain set, of values, it's like if they don't meet, those expectations why waste? Anyone's. TIME listen i don't have an issue with the tall girl dating theory, or WHATEVER because, i mean it. Makes sense it seems pretty neutral in. MY eyes i just think that the main issue here is a either calling it a problem because some sources call it like the tall girl dating problem or something of, that sort making it seem as though it's like an issue or a, negative thing or if it's BEING like i think in one of the VIDEOS that i played earlier in this episode that was explaining the tall girl dating theory or whatever, it is one of them was, talking, about yeah like the population is going to decrease and blah blah blah because of the because we're limiting our dating pool or modern women. T WHATEVER or i have an issue when people are trying to imply that we. Should settle that's mainly the only TIME that i would have issue making it seem like it's a negative thing and that there's, a problem or us being told that we're supposed, to settle because at that point we're kind of just wasting. Everybody's, Time right let's listen to a clip of a tall girly on her thoughts of settling as a. Tall woman people get so unreasonably mad when tall girls, ARE like i want to date a guy that's taller than me and maybe even taller than me in. My, heels like people. Get angry, they're, like oh you think you can? Have, that yeah. If anyone's gonna, have it why? Not me like people, Are, like oh, you know that's like a really small portion of. The population i'm a really small portion of. The population, I'm educated I'm not i'm. Well traveled why are you Acting like i'm not going to get EXACTLY what? I want you're. A hater, hater girls don't let anybody. Tell you are aiming. Too, high genuinely if you can, support yourself if you can do this you want to do in, your life you are you want someone that's going to be able to, match that don't let anybody tell you. They settle like that's, just RIDICULOUS that's dei for Men by. But, it's like if you don't like how a dress fits, on you you don't. Buy it if you don't like how mint chocolate chip ice, cream tastes don't. Eat, It right but if you know what you want in, a person whether it's a certain height or whatever it. May be if you know that what you want in a person and they have something that's like a deal breaker, or whatever why waste. Anyone's TIME as i, said before. Why, settle honestly you shouldn't be seen as a, bad thing in my, personal opinion to limit your. DATING pool i think that's the whole point to limit your. Dating pool it's not like we have to date one hundred billion, gazillion people you KNOW what. I mean in many cultures you end up being with one person for the most part at. A time sometimes it's two. Or three you. Never know every culture. Is different the point is limiting your dating pool. Is honestly obviously it's not good to limit it super like, a lot but limiting it to a certain extent is honestly a good thing because it just kind of guarantees you're not wasting anyone's time and you're gonna. Find something you're going to find a person who has most of the qualities that. You want you ultimately don't want it to lead to resentment or embarrassment down, the line just because, it's, like huh might, as well you KNOW what. I mean, so honestly my advice, in general but also directed to the tall girlies is if you know what, You want if you know you want a guy, That's, Like okay i'm fine if he's two inches shorter, than Me or i'm fine if he is the same height, as ME or i only want men who are like an inch or more taller. Than me if you know what, you want then stand firm, on it stand firm, on it and if you don't find what, you want it's better off for, both, parties honestly to be alone rather than settling for someone that you know isn't fitting what your, vision is BECAUSE as i, said before that is honestly going to lead to feelings of resentment and embarrassment down. The line the people who are so pressed about the height standards and height requirements or just dating standards, or whatever are the ones who so desperately want to be with the people who have those requirements, or standards but they don't fit into. Those standards that's just my. Personal, opinion okay those are just. My, thoughts anyways what other advice can we give to The young tall girlies who are starting, to date and not just advice on finding a, good partner also advice about staying true to their. Own values i'm going to end the. Episode here thank you so much for. TUNING in i really, appreciate IT and i appreciate you. Of course, as always fel free to hit me up on my. Social Side A tall girls podcasts and they're all going to be, linked below and let me know what you thought about. This episode what do you think about the tall girl dating theory being used to describe modern? Dating experiences do? You agree do? You disagree what do you also think about some people labeling it as. A problem definitely, a CHALLENGE but i. DON'T know i feel, LIKE problem i guess has a bit of a. Negative connotation but also when they were talking about you know how that's going to decrease the human population and so forth and so on by limiting our, dating pools what do you think? About that and also like some tall women just being told to, just settle like settle. For, whatever YES obviously i think that people, should consider, you, know everybody like keep your options open and. So forth but it also gets to a point where you've done all of that and you kind of know what you want in, a partner and it's kind, of like what do you think about you know what you want and, a partner but still being told? To settle like what do you think? About that, have you as a tall woman been told to settle for a shorter person that you didn't want to, settle for didn't want to. Be with let me know in, the comments let me know IN, the dms you can hit me up and just let me know what. YOU thought i want to hear you guys's opinions on this and, Until then i'll catch y'all in the. Next One good night. And goodbye