Should Tall People Really Have Their Own Spaces? | The Rise of Tall Communities & Meetups ft. Tall Addicts’ Society

If you're a tall person listening to this right now, I'm sure you understand the feeling of constantly being around shorter people, whether it's growing up with shorter friends and classmates, or work in an environment of mainly shorter coworkers, or find that many of your family members are shorter. Now, not to say that that's a bad thing, but it can certainly make you feel like the odd one out and even insecure at times. But with the rise of tall specific groups and events, there are many opportunities to not feel that way. And today I am joined by a founder of one of these groups. Tayisha, one of the founders of Tall Attic Society, is a guest on today's podcast episode, where we'll discuss the importance of community for tall people, if tall groups and tall events should be exclusive to only tall people, and an upcoming tall event in New York City. So, without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's sending in today is doing super fantastic. I am joined by a very very, very very special guest today. Her name is Taysha Hi, Taysha. Hi, India, how are you? I I'm in midterm season, so I hope the answers the question me too. Okay, we're all we're all just living right now. We get each other. But please please take a second to introduce yourself to the audience. As India mentioned, my name is Taysha. I am one of the founders of Tall Adict Society. I also run the New York chapter, so our host monthly events in New York City for tall people and also fun fact, as you can already tell, I'm a tall girl, but I am five eleven. Yes, we'd love to hear a short tall girl because I have three categories are tall? Some people like because you know how like when you're telling people, yeah, like I'm talld, they're like, yeah, how tall are you? And it starts with the father like you're not that tall? Not still tall? Hello, But anyways, it's funny since doing events for tall people, I always was always the tallest friend, and then now I'm doing the events and I have one young lady coming. She was six' eight AND i was, like oh, wow and So i'm like not the tallest. Anymore and this is. The one In New York. City, yes oh my, Gosh we're gonna get into that a little bit later BECAUSE i actually did talk about, well you guys may have seen on my social media THAT i did go to one of their meetups In New York. City hopefully she's coming to the next one AND i can eventually meet, her because that's cool meeting someone almost a foot taller than. Me BUT i do want to hear about your experience growing up as a tall, girl the good about the. Ugly what was that like for? You so for, me it was a mixed. EXPERIENCE i love being a tall. GIRL i always stood out everywhere THAT i, went and SO i always thought that was, fun especially WHEN i saw like other tall, girls it felt. Good BUT i will SAY i say mixed because BECAUSE i was told And i'm always been a very curvy, girl people look at you as being more. MATURE i actually saw what you did an episode On. NOW i saw a clip of that On, TikTok and so that, was, like you, know it was good being able to stand. Out but then when you're growing up and you have grown men trying to talk to, you it tends to make you want to. Hide So i've always been in that mixed space of like standing out and loving getting, attention but then also in certain spaces just trying to hide my curves a little bit and just trying not to look as older or as mature WHEN i was. YOUNGER i, mean now it's a little bit different BECAUSE i, am you, know, older and so it's you, know it's fine, Now but growing up that was always like a. Challenge it was always just mixed. FEELINGS i love my, height but it always came with certain. Challenges, yeah that's very. True AND i honestly like how you connected that to one of my episodes, too because that's one of the things that they don't really talk, about you know how tall. Women And i've even gotten some comments or even some dms from tall women who say because they were curber or because they hit puberty, earlier they would get that unwanted. Attention, Now i'm, curious was like the whole maturity thing and like the whole grown men. Thing was that like hearing like comments or questions from? Them were there any questions or comments that you hated hearing involving, that or were there anything like any other types outside of that, realm any other types of questions or comments that you really didn't like, Hearing like what's one thing like involving your? Height that was just a no from. You so you, Know. I'm happy that in safe, SPACES i never had any comments THAT i didn't. Like but most of the comments THAT i did not like came from like men WHEN i was younger trying to talk to me or. Just saying little things to. ME i didn't like. Those BUT i will SAY i did grow up with like good, experiences SO i never had anybody say anything bad about my, height like growing, up or like in school anything like. THAT i was always pretty good in that. Area BUT i was going into the, store IF i was walking. Somewhere some of the comments that men would say or shout out to me that wasn't ALWAYS i, mean. They wasn't saying anything that was like outright. Rude but being twelve and having someone who was like in their twenties trying to talk to, you that always felt like a little a little. Uncomfortable. Yeah, wow That's i'm so sorry to hear. That it's very interesting also to hear, that like in, school there wasn't that bullying that a lot of us had but also in the outside world that definitely brings like a different perspective into. Things how the outside world has definitely like potentially like affected you and how you viewed your height and so. Forth you, KNOW i think it's BECAUSE i will say in high, school there were a lot of toall girls in my high. School now that we're, Talking i'm thinking about, it so not, well, yes even in my, grade so IF i think about, IT i wasn't the only tall. Girl so it WAS i want to, say right. Off the top of my, head there were at least five toll girls in school with me THAT i actually was like cool, with but there was like a few. More SO i was known Because i'm a curvy. Girl everybody called me hips in high, school SO i was known for that and not my height because it was a few tall girls. Dances so it. Was, Yeah i'm honestly jealous of your high. SCHOOL i wish i'd went. There, yeah we would talk girl. Friendly thank you so much for sharing your. Experiences, now you did say that you're one of the founders Of Tall Attic, society which hosts events for tall, people AND i went to one last month In february twenty twenty. Six it was super. NICE i just want to ask what inspired this and how Did Tall Out society? Start you, know. What inspired this for? ME i know each of the founders probably would have a different. Perspective for. ME i did a fashion show one, time SO i used to model for a little, bit AND i did a fashion show and they took us to, lunch and so it was my first time being WITH i want to, say it was like thirty of us tall, girls AND i remember us walking together going to the restaurant and people stopping us, saying oh my, god y'all basketball, Team who are you? Ladies what's happening? Here like everybody was stopping and watching. It doesn't want to know who we were because they just thought we were someone. FAMOUS i remember that, feeling and it felt, good AND i wanted that, again not just that one time WHEN i was with you, know WHEN i was with these ladies doing a full figure fashion, WEEK i wanted. To be with a community of tall people more. Often that's, honestly, Wow like number, ONE i didn't even know that you used to. MODEL i don't think we ever spoke about. That number, one that's pretty. Cool and then number, Two, YEAH i mean walking around with like a bunch of tall, people especially tall, women LIKE i don't, KNOW i feel like that definitely gives a better a certain type of, feeling especially, like, well you had a talker friendly high, school but some of us who like you, know walk the halls of school or just like in extra, curriculars and we're used to walking around and being the tallest one is sticking. Out just having like that group of other tall, people other group of other tall women that just like it just hits. Different it feels. Good and it's funny because even though my close friends That i've known since high, school they're my close, friends are all, short, right they're all five four or five, five, Right AND i hope they don't mind me saying, this but it's funny because just a few months, ago we went out for my birthday AND i was talking to them, about you, know the tall, events and they were, like you, know we didn't really realize. You were told in us until like two years. Ago AND i was like, WHAT i was, Like i'm so much told. That what you mean you just found out a couple of years ago THAT i was tolling you And i've known you for almost twenty and so we laughed about. That BUT i think because they were other tall girls that we didn't really, LIKE i guess they didn't pay atence to it that, much and SO i thought that was hilarious and we laughed about. It but, yeah there was other tall girls. There so, yeah school was so. Friendly that's honestly, awesome and that's. HILARIOUS i feel like IN i wouldn't say necessarily similar to some tall people's, experiences But i've heard or seen videos of tall people saying that they forget that they're, tall especially like maybe they're around friends that they're close. With they forget that they're tall until they like look at a mirror or they try on clothes and it's, like, oh, Yeah i'm. TALL i don't you. Know it's a very interesting how the mind works in that. REALM i think we need to explore that. More it's, WEIRD i. Think and only When i'm with the, GROUP i don't feel. TALL i don't want to SAY i don't feel. TALL i don't feel, like oh my, God i'm so so, tall, Right but When i'm with my, FRIENDS i definitely feel. It how much tolder than? Them, Yeah i'm so much told, them SO i feel, it BUT i mean they did, it BUT i. Did but When i'm with the, GROUP i don't feel. It as much because now we're all the same, height and so it just it feels, different. Exactly and speaking of all being around the same, height with some tall events or tall, groups they'll say that all sizes are, welcome, Right AND i just want to know what your thoughts are on having a space that's intentionally for tall. People do you think that there's value in that or should all of those, spaces the tall spaces be more inclusive of sizes meaning all. Sizes so FIRST i want to start by saying that our group is strictly for tall. People so women have to be five nine and taller and men have to be six feet and. Taller AND i think. That it is important to have, that because if we're having an event for tall people and all sizes are, welcome then it's not really a. Total event for tall. People it's just a regular day for. Us to, me it's just a regular day for. Us and so having this space where you can have a community just for toll people is. IMPORTANT i have so many women who come up to me who say they're so happy that we have this. Space they're so happy to be around other tall. Women it helps them build their, Confidence it helps them just build more secure in. Themselves and SO i think that that is important to. Have and, also you, know someone who is maybe a little bit who is a little bit, Shorter they're not going to relate to the same stories that we have growing, up and so being able to have a space. Where we can just share stories in talk is. Important and so, YEAH i personally think that having a space that is just for us is. NEEDED i honestly couldn't agree, more especially when these events are like hosted by tall groups or there's some type of tall in the actual. Name AND i could partially understand why some groups or some events want to say, yeah like all sizes of all heights are, welcome because some, people especially like some shorter, PEOPLE i, guess feel but hurt about, it like, oh only the tall, people like you, know get this, event like why is? That and this that and the third or maybe sometimes a tall person wants to bring along a shorter. Friend BUT i think that especially because many of us have some type of universal experience where whether in our earlier, days like when we're younger or in our adult, lives like at some point in, time we're just surrounded by a lot of shorter. People and you, know the fact of the matter is there's not a lot of tall people out. There like the taller you, get the less of there are people around your, height you, Know and so it kind of forces people to, say, hey, like, yeah like you have your shorter friends and this time the thirty you may not know, anybody but also kind of forces them to just go and meet people and meet other tall people and, say, hey, like you, know we're giving you this opportunity to be surrounded by people around your height or taller than. You take advantage of that rather than let's, say bringing other shorter people into the. Mix and that's not to, say, hey like screw shorter, people you, Know, like but if there was like a short people, event as a tall, PERSON, a why would you want to go, there especially because if that's like your whole entire. Life but b it's like that's something for that group of, people you. Know SO i find it very. Interesting, Yeah and. It's just important to have these, spaces you know WHAT i. MEAN i know just said, that but it just it feels good when you are able to just be with someone else who just understands you and your. Experience and ALSO i want to mention that you said that some people are scared to come out on their own and sometimes they want to bring their short. Friend we are a friendly. Group we are super super, friendly we. Talk my team is me and my team are very very, welcoming and so nobody don't feel. Scared just people just gotta come, out come meet. Us you'll have a great. Time you'll make. FRIENDSHIPS i will say that over the, years the amount of like really good friendships THAT i have made within the group is. Amazing AND i think that's one of my favorite parts, too is just having these, lasts these long lasting. Friendships LIKE i have. Friends THAT i met in the, GROUP i want to say maybe like ten years, ago and we are still. Friends those are like some of my core. Friends And i've still made friends alone in the. Years but you make some really won't last and for six AND i think that part is also. Amazing you find your. Tribe, YEAH i definitely want to go back to your point about you saying that you guys are very welcoming. GROUP i will say WHEN i went to my first effort event last. MONTH i, MEAN i don't want to say LIKE i was bit nervous BECAUSE i guess Because i'm an, extrovert SO i just like going, out like talking to people and meeting new people and so. Forth BUT i was a little bit, like, ooh, LIKE i don't know how this is going to turn, out especially BECAUSE i knew absolutely like NOBODY i was like part of THE i THINK i was part of The facebook group for a, while BUT i just never went to any. Events and so WHEN i first went AND i was, like, oh, like are those three or FOUR i think it was three of you guys at? First are those three people by the bar that actual like from the? Group, LIKE i don't, Know but WHEN i went up to you, guys it was like all smiles and all like nice and like welcoming vibes and so. Forth SO i will definitely say that you guys just make everybody feel welcome and definitely makes the experience less. Scary you just have to be able to take that step and say, Hey i'm gonna go And i'm gonna try this. Out i'm gonna go in there and i'm gonna say, hi and, yeah. That's the top thing that's most important to. Us and that's something THAT i realized that we get a lot of compliments on a lot of, people especially. Introverts our introverts that come, out they always say, like you guys made us feel welcome AND i feel comfortable, here and so that is like kind of our top. Priority. First it is, like, yes we want everyone to have, fun but the first part is making sure everyone feel welcome and make sure everyone feels. Comfortable and then it's, like, okay, yes now let's have. Fun now let's have a good time. Exactly and you know what actually going off of that because a lot of people like grew up being the tallest person in the room and constantly get comments about their height and so. FORTH i, know you spoke a little bit of like some of the things that people have said about the group or said about the. Experience maybe you can share like a little bit more of the kinds of stories that you hear from members about the. Experience, yeah most people do say again that they feel very welcome when they come. In some members feel like they found like their Triede some members feel like you, know. Iain we are a really tight, bunch. So we are very tight, brunch but we are like, growing, right and so when you come, in you're walking into this community of friendships and that have been built for like for a, while and so when you're, COMING i think that's why everyone is so. Welcoming and SO i think a lot of people feel that when they come to an event and they say, that they're, like oh my, god everybody was so. Nice everybody had great. CONVERSATIONS i was, Like i'll see like people building their own little conversations and starting their own. Friendships and people come back to me and say how much they love, That and SO i think that is the fun. Part it is just and the good. Part LIKE i love seeing people create. FRIENDSHIPS i love seeing BECAUSE i add everyone or everyone will some. People a lot of people will send me from a. Class so being able to see other people hang out and meet up and it just it feels. Good and SO i think that is like one of my favorite THINGS i like to hear is people saying that they've built so many friendships within the. Group and so that part it is just. Amazing, oh we love to hear. That we love to hear tall. Friendships we need more tall friendships out, there, guys and just totally, LIKE i know we're taking a whole left turn, here But i'm actually, curious what do you know why the group is called Tall Attict? Society BECAUSE i remember telling my mom about. It it was, like, y'all LIKE i met people in Tall Attic society and she was, like, what not like in a bad, way but more of, like how did the name like come? About or how did this? Start or is there like any type of meaning around that. Name so we wanted to create the, group and we wanted to do it rather, quickly and so the original name that we wanted someone had already and so we had. To kind of make like a quick. Decision AND i was, like, well to As society kind of sounds, good and so it just kind of, sticks. But we had to do. It we wanted to create a name kind of quickly because we wanted to hit the group, going and we had like a really big event coming, up and so we were, like we had an event coming up within a, week and so it was, Like, okay we need to get a name together. Fast and so, yeah it was really a really quick decision and we looked and we like the way it, sound and then we liked the initials tas and so we were, Like, okay let's just go with. It, Yeah and it sounds like we're addicted to meeting tall. People, honestly we kind of. Are we're addicted to meeting other tall. PEOPLE i don't know how the word addiction has like a crazy connotation to. It everybody always asks and thank you so so much for sharing a little bit about the, group and you know the experiences that go on there and the inspiration behind. It AND i do want to ask this one last. Question what is one piece of advice that you want to give to the tall girls who are listening right, now who are struggling with their self esteem because of their. Height so want to all girls to phil and know that they are, beautiful be, Confident know that you are. Beautiful, yes you stand, out but own that we stand out and it's. Amazing SO i want you to own that walk into rooms and own. It and just even if you feel like you're not ready to do that right, now practice at. Home practice practice that walk at, home practice that smile at. Home just practice. Your confidence so that when you go, out people know you are here and you here to stay, Okay. And that's literally on. Period thank you so much for. THAT i really really Appreciated. Taysha now is like the perfect time to plug. Yourself where can we find? You where can we Find Tall Attic. SOCIETY i know y'all have an event coming up by the time this episode is. Up maybe you could share some details about. That so, Yeah so we have a few. Pages so if you want to join the overall, group we are On facebook As Tall Attics society and On instagram and TikTok as Tall Adic. Society NOW i do run The New york, chapter so if you want to follow all the things For New, york you will Follow Tall Attics society AND yc On instagram and on. TikTok we do have an event coming up next Week, saturday so it's gonna Be march twenty. First so we are going To ocean's eight as a poolhole AND i would call It Crown Heights Park slope is but we will be there Next saturday from six to ten. Pm it's gonna be a good. Time they have, pool they also have table. HOCKEY i believe they have. Bowling of, course they'll be food and, drinks so it's gonna be a fun. Time it's gonna be. Biased we actually have a lot of people that ARE rvp and for this, event so this might be our next biggest. Event so if you are, available come out that night because it's gonna be. Fun, yes that sounds like a lot of. Fun so if you are located In New York, city you need to come to this. EVENT i am most likely gonna be. There i'm also really bad at pool and all that. Stuff but, no, no but we're still gonna have a good. Time you've been fair about at. It, yes the last time we played, pool most people did not know how to, play so we still had a good. Time AND i have to check in with one of our members because one of our twelve girls is a professional pool, player and so the last time she, came she was like showing people a few. Pointers SO i need to check in the. Sea she's, coming shameless. Lug hope she sees, this and SO i need to check in the ceas she's. Coming so we had two girls that actually knew how to play pool really, well so hopefully they both come and they can slp people some. Pointers hold, ON i need to meet this. Girl she needs to teach. Me she has to teach me. Everything, actually last TIME i played, pool it was actually the most of the inmbir same thing, ever, honestly but thank you so much for sharing. That, again if you're a tall person located In New York, city you need to come to this. Event i'm so excited for. That and Also i'm going to link all of your socials and everything in the description so that everybody can just like check you, Guys i'll click on, it, follow et. Cetera And i'm going to take a time this time to plug myself at A Tall girls, Podcast, instagram to, TikTok, Pinterest, google, YouTube. Everywhere all of that's going to be linked in the. Description and thank you again so Much tayusha for joining me today to speak about the group and talk about your upcoming. Event that's very very. Exciting and, yeah any last, thoughts any last. WORDS i just want to say thank you for having. Me this was so. Fun this is my first time doing the, podcast so it was really really. Excited SO i just want to say thank you for having me and let me highlight the. GROUP i really appreciate. It of, course no, problem and hopefully you can come back on the podcast at some point in. TIME i love talking to y'all on the. Podcast thank you, again dear listeners for tuning into this. Episode, again make sure you check Out Tall Attics. Society all of that is going to be linked in the description and we will catch you guys in the next. One Good night and. Goodbye