Literally NEVER Do This to A Tall Girl | Why Tall Girls STILL Struggle with Insecurities

At some point in their lives, whether for a short period of time or for years and years and years, many, if not all, tall girls have felt insecure about their height. It's natural, it's inevitable. Everyone gets insecure at times, and if we live through similar tall girl experiences, those insecurities were definitely very real. However, there are people who don't believe that these insecurities are real, or let me rephrase it a little bit, there are people who believe that these insecurities shouldn't be real, like they shouldn't exist. Basically, Listen, there are a lot of things that rub me the wrong way as a tall girl, and invalidating comments are definitely up there. Oh I wish I had your height. I wouldn't be insecure if I were you. You have no reason to feel bad about your height. Listen, I get it, but not really anyways, So today we're going to be talking about the invalidation of tall women's insecurities, the pressures that come with being a tall woman, and how some tall girls may not like other tall girls. So let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India I hope everyone who's tuning in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say, make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast on Instagram, TikTok, and pincher, so that you could stay up to date on all of the latest podcast episodes. Can catch a glimpse of my every day life. Also, feel freeoly mer review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description. I want to provide a little bit of context for this episode. I was scrolling through Reddit trying to find some new, some fresh podcast episode ideas, and yes, I scroll a lot through Reddit to come up with ideas for this podcast. But I did stumble across a very interesting post titled as a Tall Girl. I don't see why so many tall girls are insecure about their height. Maybe they should work on their personality. I'm not gonna lie. When I first saw that title, I was like, Oh, like, is this a direct attack of some sort? Like what's going on here? I was a bit taken aback, I was like, what is this person trying to say? But after reading the rest of the post, it was more of self critique. She grew up very insecure and had issues which she blamed on her height, like her being tall was the reason for all of the things that she went through, all the insecurities and all the issues that she had, when in reality she found it was her terrible personality and how she let self pity and insecurity ruin her life. That definitely went in a different direction than I had previously thought, because honestly, part of me thought that she was going to invalidate the insecurities of tall women, because that's what some people do, and validate our experiences and validate our insecurities. And we're going to get into why that's the case a little bit later in the episode, but first I want to discuss why are some tall girls insecure? Well, there are loads of reasons for that, ranging from clothes not fitting quite right to family members telling you that you're built like a boy. Yeah, let's hear a couple examples. Do you know what I find so interesting? I have been a tall girl all my life and at school I was in a hell. Do you know how dark school was when you are a tall girl, is the one thing people will pick up on. I was called all different names under the sun. I was called the bird, Khalifer, the shad, the Eiffel Tower. I was called lanky girl, giant girl, bfg BB he's gotta be BFG. People used to roast me because it was like the only thing they could like pick apart. And that's what kids do at school. They find the thing that makes you different and pick on that and make you feel so bad for it. And that's actually tragic my. Whole life growing up, I was always a tall girl, tall than all the boys, tall than all the girls, and I was so insecure of my height. I literally used to look up high production surgery, and yes, the production surgery is literally a thing you get your knees like they do something with your legs. I don't know, it's something like that. Hang on, let me put somedeo John. But I was genuinely so insecure of for my high in photos and everything I had. I knew all the posers to make myself loook shortter like I do, the one leg bench, like everything. I was always trying to look shorter. I just hated being the tools in the group. I always felt like a giant around all my friends because they're all so much shorter than me. One of my biggest pet peeves about being tall is when I meet someone new and they're like, oh my god, you're so tall. I'm like, ha, thank you. I did not realize I was tall. Thank you for bringing that to my awareness. But seriously, I've never once told a person that shortened than me like, oh my god, you're so short. I do not say those things. You don't say things to short people like I always get, oh my god, do you play sports? You play Nepple Doyla basketball, You don't say those type of thing. It's still like people that are shorter, I just don't. I don't understand. So yeah, growing up to all has been was my biggest insecurity ever. I just hated my heart. I used to be like, Wow, all I need and like is to be shorter, and then I'd be happy, and then I'd be pretty. I used to think that I had to be a lesbian. I literally thought I had to be lesbian because I was tall. Moments from our childhood, which I think lead to tall girls feeling insecure in their height as someone who's five tens. Over the last couple of years, I've really noticed that I am insacure in my height, and I've been really reflecting, try and think of moments that have made me feel like this, and I definitely think there's some finding moments. First off, never being able to fit in the dress up princess heels shoes when you're little. I remember that there was no point in time where I could get my feet into those shoes because my feet were always always too big. Next thing is being at the back and every single photo to the point where you're literally nonexistent because you're standing by the boys, and the boys are up in front of me, but they're basically the same height as you, so you're literally not existent in any of the photo. I had this when I literally started my apprenticeship. There's a whole cohort photo. I'm literally invisible in that photo. Next, it's always being the person who lifts their partner, and it's never lifted in dance. I know just this more in year seven, eight and nine dance lessons, where I would never be lifted. No one would even try to lift me because they thought that height equals weight. I was forever the lifter and never got lifted. Next thing is having to go out and buy adult clothes at the age of eight. I remember literally my dad and my mum would find it so hard to find clothes that actually appropriate for me when I was eight years old. I think I started wearing like sar four adults clothes when I was eight, and then by the time I was like fourteen, I was already in size ten, size twelve women's clothes. Finally, this whole culture on the media that you don't want to date a man who was shorter than you. This makes me feel humongous all the time, especially when I hit like year ten, so fifteen to sixteen kind of age. I started to realize how massive I was compared to my fact. Literally, in my head, I feel massive. My feet are big, my hands are big. I feel like all of me is proportionately big because of my massive insecurity. Let me know your guys are defining moments and why you think you've ended up feeling insecure in your height when we totally shouldn't now. In the Reddit pulse that I brought up a little Bit of Girl, there was a very interesting comment that I found when I was scrolling through the comments, and it was basically a tall girl talking about her experiences and how they had an impact on her. And she said something interesting that I really want to note here. She said, none of that like her insecurities, I assume was due to her personality, but due to other people's personalities. And it's interesting to think about that because in reality, it's almost like external factors play a big, big role in our insecurities and a big big role in our self esteem, and especially other people's actions and personalities and opinions and values and morals, their beliefs, even their upbringing, and all of those things play a role in how they treat us, how they see us, the things that they do, the sexualization, the faces that they make, the stairs, all of it. And we also have clothes, which is another external factor that really affect our self esteem, especially because they have the ability to impact or skew how we see our bodies and how we see our size. Like for me, just as an example, I'm a tall garly and so let's say I'm trying on address from urban outfitters. How do I put this? It makes me look larger than I actually am. I'm not trying to say like yeah, like it makes me look like a man like in the dress, like it just it makes me look larger than I actually am because the dress is really short. It looks like a ten year old should be wearing it, not me, But like urban outfitters dresses are actually made for you know, teens and adults. But it's honestly things like that, like the external factors with the people and their personalities and what they do and how they treat us and even like the clothes for example. It's stuff like that that it's like, if you're not at that age or not in that point in your life where you're like very secure about yourself, secure about your body, secure about who you are as a person, those external factors can really mess with your brain and make you think that there's something wrong with you. But I want to open up the floor. Tell girlies, what was your number one insecurity about your height growing up? You know, since we're all trauma dumping this episode, okay, let me stop. So now that we understand some of the insecurities that how women have, let's talk about how some people are very dismissive about it, and how some people even invalidate those insecurities. I came across another Reddit post that was titled why do people think just because we're tall, we aren't allowed to be insecure? And then there was like a screenshot of another Reddit post of a tall girl ly talking about her insecurities as a tall girl in some invalidating comments under it, including supermodels are tall, you shouldn't feel bad about your height. Being a tall woman isn't a big deal. Comments like these invalidate tall women's insecurities and experiences, and quite frankly, they're very annoying to hear. It really shows that the person just doesn't get it, and the girls who get it get it, and the girls who don't don't. If you don't get it, then you're not that girl. Like okay, sure, some models are moderately tall, or some are even very tall, but models also get backlash too, whether it's their height, or it can be other physical traits that they may have, or other physical features they may have. I did ask you guys in a pull on Instagram, and I'm gonna do a quick little plug here. Make sure you follow at a Tall Girls podcast so you can participate in these polls and have your opinions heard on these episodes. But I did ask you guys in a poll on Instagram, has anyone ever dismissed, rushed off, or invalidated your height insecurities? Ninety two percent of you guys said yes multiple times and eight percent said no never. I am not surprised by these results. That's like a pretty common thing within the tall girl community. And I don't think it's really spoken about enough how people don't believe that we should have insecurities around our height. We shouldn't be having insecurities about being tall, even though these people are low key causing these insecurities. But we'll get into that a little bit later. But Yeah, even looking through the responses and seeing who answered what for, most of the people who said yes multiple times, most of them are the tall girlies. Most of them are the tall girlies. This is something that we actually go through. So I find this very interesting but honestly not surprising at all. Like, yes, I agree being tall is an asset, but people, some people still make us feel bad about it. Yet there's this pressure to love our height all of the time and the pressure to always be confident in ourselves. Like it's natural to feel insecure and vulnerable at times, but it's almost like people kind of expect us to be constantly be resilient. And see, that's the thing with the expectation of tall women to constantly be resilient, the expectation of tall women to be strong and so forth. Like part of that is a stereotype because you know, hegh equals masculinity, So since people associate high with masculinity, they associate us with like characteristics like strong, resilient, et cetera. So they kind of expect us to be able to deal with and handle the harsh comments, the harsh critique, the harsh behaviors, and the harsh actions towards us and so forth, and we're just supposed to brush it off our shoulders because you know, the whole thought process and associations with height, and you know, we should be able to handle that essentially. So that's that with the whole like strong and resilient stereotype and so forth that's often associated with tall women. But then also on another side is that I feel like the whole resilience and always being confident thing that expectation is also an excuse to try to humble us, which then that makes us insecure about our height. Like what, like, I don't understand why you're insecure because you're literally living my dream of being tall. And it's almost like some type of projection of their insecurities because oh, they wish that they were that tall. They want that height, and they would feel good about themselves if they were tall, They would feel good about themselves, if they had that height, they would feel more confident and feel better about themselves, like they would probably have such a high self esteem. So in that thinking, they're thinking, Oh, because you're living my dream and you have that height, you probably feel extremely good about yourself. You're probably so confident about yourself, you probably hold yourself to extremely high regard. So because you feel the way that I want to feel, I'm gonna just humble you. I'm gonna make sure you don't feel too confident about yourselves. So yeah, I'm basically going to make you feel insecure. But I don't know why you feel insecure even though I'm trying to make you feel insecure, Like, do you see where we're trying to go with that? Like, let me know if that makes sense to you or if that's confusing but like, that's ultimately what I'm trying to say here. But yeah, you can definitely let me know your thoughts on that. And interestingly enough, there may be tall women that are invalidating other tall women's insecurities. So there are some tall girls out there who don't like insecure tall girls. No, I'm just playing with you, not me about it cause of feud in the tall girl community. But I think that's the case because they see their past selves in that insecure tall girl. Okay, one thing I literally hate, like I cannot stand this is seeing tall girls being insecure about being tall. Now I've been tall my whole life, but like I've always just felt like model energy, like main character walking through the hall's main character energy, Like you can reach things easier, you can see things easier. But then girls will be like, oh, but men like shorter women. No, that's where we stop, because when you bring a word men in, that's when you're worried about the wrong thing. Your issue is. You need to just. Start making everything about yourself. You girls need to actually start making things about yourself, stop making it about the men. Instead of saying oh, I'm too tall for him, saying oh, he's too short for me, and the other girls were like, oh, I just feel so like tall around my friends, Like I feel like a monster, trust me, I get that. At my school the advertise is like four eleven for whatever reason, and then I'm just like well above everyone. But you know what, like that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, Like, stop saying, oh I feel like a monster. I feel like a graph. Why do you say something bad to say you look like a two thousands runway moll goddess. I don't know. Like, honestly, that's kind of a power. Like you're in a fur group of girls and you automatically stand out like that, Like that should be something to be confident about, like being tall sitting out like that, that's not a bad thing, Like just embrace that. Well, honestly, I feel like it comes from a tough love type of stance with a little hint of annoyance, Like, girl, wake up, being tall is a blessing. Please stop being insecure about it. It's basically kind of like they're talking to their past selves because they once had those insecurities. They once had those insecure actions and those insecure thoughts, and then they're at that point in their lives or at the point in their journey where they realize that, oh my gosh, being tall, being a tall woman is such a blessing and it's such an amazing thing. So I think that it's also linked to a little bit of frustration, like, oh my gosh, why didn't I have this realization earlier in my life? And then they're trying to push that realization onto the insecure tall girl who may not be at that point in their journey where they're in love with their height where they absolutely love being tall. And I feel like to some degree, they almost kind of forgot what it was like to be in that place, you know, be in that place of insecurity or constantly like doubting yourself and just feeling bad about your height and having all of these like types of thoughts and so forth. Because maybe they were there at the point where they're secure about their height and they love their height and they're confident about it and so forth, and maybe they were at that point for so long that they kind of forgot what it was like to be insecure about it, if that makes sense. So they're like, I'm a tall girl, you're a tall girl. I absolutely love my high I don't see anything wrong with it. You should be feeling the same too, and I don't understand why. And then that's also kind of where that gets a little bit tricky, where it's like, oh, like, but you're also tall girl, Like you should kind of understand to a certain degree where I'm coming from when I'm saying that I'm insecure and stuff like that, Like you should have some type of empathy or have some type of understanding because you were once in that position, so you would know, you know what I mean. So I don't know, just having like a little bit of compassion for the other tall girlies as well who may feel bad about their heightened so forth. I hope that made sense. Maybe I'm just talking in circles. I don't know. You can let me know in the comments, but we're just let's let's end off with like a question, something for you to think about, or something for you to even let me know. How can the tall girls transition from being insecure about their height to being confident, from shrinking themselves to standing tall and proud. Joppery juicy secrets and top tips in the comment section, But thank you so so much for tuning into this episode. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you of course, as always, feel free to hit me up on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast their linked in the description, and let me know what you thought about this episode. What do you think about the tall girl insecurities? What do you think about the fact that external factors, especially other people's comments and upbringings and personalities, play a huge role in our insecurity and our self esteem issues. Also clothing that playing a role in our self esteem issues and our insecurities. How do you feel about other people invalidating our insecurities and validating our experiences, maybe even other tall women invalidating our experiences and our insecurities. Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Let's have a conversation about this. I genuinely want to know. And yeah, until then, you know, have a good rest of your day, week, month, year, life, whatever it may be for you, and I will catch you in the next one. Good night and goodbye.