Is It A Problem When Tall Women Wear Heels? | The Complex Relationship Tall Women Have With Heels

Tall women have a very interesting relationship with heels. Some tall women love a good heel, whether it's your standard one to two inch heel to full on six seven eight inch platforms, and yes, it may not be the most practical for a night out maybe, but there are videos out there of tall women in extremely high heels. However, there are tall women out there who choose not to wear them. Some argue that they aren't comfortable, which is understandable. Some don't like sticking out in the crowd, Some don't want the comments that come with it. Some choose not to because their partners don't want them to, or on the flip side, they just don't want to be taller than their partner. And these last few reasons kind of imply that there are tall women out there who want to wear heels but feel like they can't. In today's episode, we're going to be talking about the complex relationship that tall women have with heels and how many of us want to wear them to feel attractive and feminine, but can't really bring ourselves to do so. So, without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's tuning in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say, make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls Podcast and it's going to TikTok in Pinterest so that you can stay up to on all of the latest podcast episodes can catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave your review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter makes you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description. Hope everyone is doing well. As I said before, this episode is actually a request from one of you guys, one of my listeners. Also, if you want me to talk about any topics in particular, any tall girly topics or whatever the case, let me know. You can comment wherever you're tuning in, or you can send me a DM at a Tall Girls Podcast. My socials are going to be linked in the description. As for this particular request, someone commented under one of my YouTube videos asking if I could talk about basically talk about tlem and wearing heels and how many of us want to feel hot and wear heels, but then we have that fear of being too tall or not really being able to wear heels because our partner may be the same height as us or shorter than us, or our partner may feel insecure about it, so we may steer away from wearing heels even though we really want to, which I agree is a very interesting topic. I mean, tall women have pretty mixed feelings about wearing heels. Some absolutely love them and wear them any chance that they can get, while others completely avoid them but love to know where you fall on that range. In earlier episodes, I've talked about the history of heels, I think only one earlier episode only. I don't even know why I may seem like in multiple episodes I have, but just as a refresher way back when heels were developed so that warriors can wear them when riding horses and have some sense of security and stability in the stirrup, and they would ride around on horses during battles and so forth, and basically the heels would help them like not fall off of the whole as easily. Then fast forward many, many, many, many many many several years later, heels were more so worn by men as a status symbol, as a symbol of status, of power, of wealth, and then several centuries later it became associated with femininity and fashion, so that's when women more so started wearing those. However, men also wear heels too, but it still has that feminine association with it. So that's basically the spark notes the cliff notes version, and with it being associated with femininity. I mean, that's like one of the major reasons why a lot of tall women love wearing heels. It helps them feel feminine, It makes them feel feminine, It accentuates their legs in an amazing way. It also goes with their fit and matches their outfit for the day or the night. Heay, some also love heels so that they could be taller. I mean, what's wrong with a little extra height, you know what I mean. But let's listen to a few tall girlies talk about this. As a tall girl, I always get asked, Meg, why do you even need to wear heels? And my answer is, well, I'm already five twelve, so what's another two, three or four inches at this point. Plus it is a vibe something about being in a heel when you're dressing up, you're going out with your friends, or you're going to a wedding. Imagine wearing flats to a wedding with a black tie event. Like some outfits just require heels. So it really should not matter your height. So if you are a tall girl out there and you feel confident and good in your heels, then you should wear them, queen, regardless of what they say. No matter how tall you are, you need to wear those heels. I'm wearing one inch heels right now. It doesn't matter how big or tall the heel is. I don't care how tall the heel is. I'm good, thank you. I don't care how how how big the heel is. Wear them heels. There's like a pep to my step. I feel like that. That is, I just got cat called right here. You know why, Because I'm. A tall woman. I look good, I feel good and wear some heels. It's not gonna stuck though. Here you go. And then there's this other side where some tall women dislike wearing heels, whether it's for certain occasions, a certain occasion, or just overall. Let's hear a few thoughts on this. In a confession I don't feel like being seven foot all the time when I put on heels or it's like a sixth and it's like I don't want to I don't want to put them on. I don't feel like being seven foots Okay, nothing's wrong with being seven foot, but I feel like, depending on how we're going out, I don't feel like being seven foot foot or not, you know what I'm saying. Like, sometimes I can let the high platinum forms, whatever it's called, I can let them rest. People are asking me what kind of shoes I'm going to wear tonight with my outfit, And as much as I want to still be like a cute heel girally, it's not gonna happen. And it's not because I'm six seven, Because this guy actually does like when I wear heels, and like I could be a solid eight inches taller and he's he's loving me, you know, you know how he loves on me. But the real reason that I don't wear heels when I go out is because I can't hear anybody. Yeah that is you know the first time she explained it to me, I was just like, why did I never think about this when I'm out I'm constantly like, what what did you say? Because think about it, speaker height is always up here, right, so speaker height is coming directly to me, and then everyone else's mouth is like here or lower. So when people are talking, I literally do not hear anything that anybody says, and that is my biggest problem at events. And then even going through a few of the comments under these videos, there are pretty valid reasons, objective valid reasons, I would say, in my opinion for not wanting to wear heels. I'm not knowing how to walk in them, to not really wanting to be very tall all the time, to literally not being able to hear people after they reach a certain height. So we have one side where tall women absolutely love them. We have another side where tall women not necessarily hate them, but it's just like not the most practical for them maybe. And then there's kind of this in the middle viewpoint around heels as a tall woman. Some tall women have a very complex relationship with heels where they want to wear them but feel like they can't. Whether it's because they feel awkward in them, or think they'll be too tall, or even face external pressures. It's not like they dislike heels. It's more so that they dislike the comments and the questions and the attention that comes with wearing them. And that's kind of what makes it complicated, right, because the previous reasons that I listed before for not liking heels, not wanting to wear heels, we're more so centered around comfortability, practicality, usability is that the correct word to use here, But here it has less to do with those reasons and more to do with insecurity and what happens when you wear them, particularly from the external factors people the people around them, because let's face it, like being a tall woman, you already stand out in a crowd, You already stick down the crowd. People are more likely to say are you walking by? And a lot of people don't like that. They find it very uncomfortable and overwhelming. So when you wear heels and you're taller, it kind of amplifies that feeling. It makes that it like doubles or triples that overwhelming feeling, that anxious feeling, that anxiety. There's a reddi post that I found titled on wearing heels, and this was in the tall girl subreddit where a five to ten girly is talking about how she hates how self conscious she feels wearing heels, like she'll find heels that she likes, and she'll end up feeling like a six' two bean pole when she wears. Them and while she tries to tell herself, that you, know super tall models are, tall supermodels wear, them that only helps so. Much she really really wants to wear, heels but she cares a lot about other people's judgment towards her and doesn't like the comments and the why do you need to wear heels? Questions and she's even scared to wear them to a job interview out of fear of emasculating a shorter male. Interviewer and you, know this can honestly feel scary and it. SUCKS i, mean years and years growing up and people just pointing out your, height pointing out your, Body oh my, gosh you're tall thist and tall, that and how's the weather up? There and da da, Da and you, know after a certain, POINT i will say that it definitely does decrease when you get. Older, However i'm starting to think that when you're wearing those heels and then you get more of those comments because you're wearing those. Heels it kind of triggers some tall women kind of brings those memories, Back it brings those horrible feelings, back and they just would rather stray away from. That AND i want to go back to the part where she was kind of scared to wear heels to let's, say a job, interview because that may emasculate her shorter maleew interviewer or. Whoever that kind of ties into the part of the request THAT i got for this video about not wanting to wear, heels or she said not being able to wear heels around your. PARTNER i, mean you can wear heels around your, partner that's absolutely, possible but it's about not wanting To THAT'S i feel like what that's leaning. Towards and those two ideas kind of go hand in hand in a, way, because as you, know the other girly from the, redd it feels like she would emasculate her shorter mail. Interviewer the girlie that requested this is kind of like you kind of feel like you're emasculating your, partner if that makes. Sense there's actually this TikTok trend going around THAT i. Find, Okay i'm gonna just talk about the. Trend so, basically in the, video this is for the audio, listeners but the video viewers is going to appear on the screen. Now but essentially this trend shows that there's a woman and a. Guy there's a woman and a man in a. Relationship they're probably around the same. Height and then it shows that the woman in the relationship is going to put on, heels and then it kind of transitions to the camera angling in a way that makes her appear significantly, taller kind of indicating that when she puts on, heels oh my, gosh she just gets so much. Taller and then it angles in a way to show that the man is extremely short compared to. Her and then basically it's supposed to be highlighting the height difference when the woman puts the heels on and ends up taller than her. Partner that's essentially. It but the way that the camera angles to show the woman wearing the, heels she seems, ginormous very very, tall, large et. Cetera WHILE i get that this is like a joke or, whatever it's like a little chiktok, trend it's like he he haha or, whatever that's genuinely how a lot a tall woman feel like it's not even a, joke like it's that. Serious that's how a lot of tall women. Feel so seeing that, video it's, like this is how tall women, feel and they don't want to feel that, way especially around their. Partners so they're scared that their partner will be, insecure or maybe they feel insecure being taller than their. Partner they really want to be shorter than their, partner but them and their partner is like the same, height so that could be a little bit difficult when wearing, heels and she just ultimately strays away from wearing heels to avoid feeling, larger significantly taller than her significant. Other maybe the tall woman who likes to wear heels and doesn't really mind. It there's this other side about how their, partners literally the, partner the guy in the relationship will outright ask the tall woman not to wear heels so they don't tower over. Him so there's that the partner asks the tall woman not to wear the, heels or the tall woman just opts out overall without the partner even having to ask whether or not the partner likes for them to wear heels or just doesn't care or. WHATEVER i personally believe that tall women who don't wear heels because people or even their partners tell them not to because make them too tall or masculine partially believe that that's. True it's like the outside commentary starts to shape how they see. Themselves like there are numerous men On reddit with the AM i THE a hole posts asking if they're the bad guys for asking their taller female partners to not wear heels so that their taller girlfriend doesn't tower over, them and people in the comments are mostly saying that they are the a whole, Genuinely why do some people have such a problem with tall women wearing? Heels? Like is it hurting? Anyone is it hurting? You but, LISTEN i just want to say that if you are a tall girly tuning into this right now and you want to wear, heels people are gonna. Talk people are always going to have something to. Say they're always gonna have their own. Opinions, okay but what matters most is your, opinion just as the girlie who made this. Request if you think that you're, hot if you're, sexy if you're, attractive if you're, feminine if you're, amazing, awesome, great whatever it may. Be if it matches your outfit. Anything if you think that heels work positively for you and you want to wear, them then you should do, it because your opinion matters most out of everyone. Else and it's not, Easy, OKAY i get. It, like especially as a, woman it's easy to kind of internalize other people's opinions around you and your body and what you do with, it and your height and so. Forth it's easy to just care a lot about what other people, say especially if it's coming from a family member or a friend or even a partner or so. Forth, however you have to do the. Work you have to challenge. Yourself you have to be a little bit uncomfortable to get to where you. Want it's like getting a. Degree you have to put in the work and take the time out to do your assignments and all that, stuff even when you don't want, to even when you're tired and so, forth you have to keep doing it so you can get your. Degree it's kind of similar ish, here where you have to put yourself out. There maybe start, slow maybe start with like a little tiny kitten heel kin heels are in right, now so even if you wear it's not going to be crazy because it's a trend now. Period starting with a little kitten, heel working your way up to three or four, inches practice walking in. Them if you can't walk in them and they're, uncomfortable don't push yourself to that. Extent but start small with a one to two maybe three inch heel and see how it works for. You you have to do it more and more because the more you do, it the more comfortable you get with. It and, listen you know it looks great on. You, HECK i know it looks great on. You screw other people's. Judgment, okay start, small start, slow and you have to challenge. Yourself you have to push. Yourself you have to step outside of your comfort. Zone that is how you. Grow and you really want to do, it you really want to wear, it then just do. It just. Where start, small work your way up and really challenge yourself and put yourself out there and step out of your comfort. Zone because, again AS i said, before that's how growth, happens literally and. Figuratively and if other people have stuff to say about, it if they're not being supportive about, it then and maybe those aren't people that should be in your. Life it's one thing if it's strangers because you'll never see them. Again but if it's a, partner or if it's a friend or a family, member they really have some assessing within themselves to. Do how does it affect, Them does it make them? Insecure does it emasculate? Them because that's on them and that has absolutely nothing to do with. You so that's my take on. That challenge, yourself step outside of your comfort zone and doing that will likely show people their true colors and who really has your best interest in. Heart because if they're feeling insecure about you wearing, heels what else are they insecure about when it pertains to, You and how is that going to affect you and limit you and what you. Do so that's just something to think. About i'm going to end the episode. Here thank you so much for tuning. IN i really appreciate, it AND i appreciate you of. Course as, always feel free to hit me up on my socials and let me know what you thought about this. EPISODE i THINK i covered a lot of good topics within this, episode, honestly AND i really have a conversation about what the talk girly requested for me to talk, about but also if, not if you want me to talk about other things within, it or other specific ideas or topics within, it of, course feel free to let me, know And i'll get to that. EVENTUALLY i have a list of requests THAT i have to go. Through but, yeah thank you so much for tuning in it to this. Point you're. Amazing you look great in. Heels definitely wear. Them if you're a, tall curly watching or, anybody whoever you, are whoever you are watching, this if you want to wear the, heels wear the. Heels is twenty twenty. Six we should be able to wear what we want to, wear and wear what makes us feel good and comfortable and so, forth as long as it's appropriate to wear in. Public the other stuff we wear at, home leave it at. Home but for the most, Part i'm pretty sure we. Could wear it. Outside i'm rambling at this. Point i'm definitely going to end it. Now the. Episode i'm gonna end that episode. Now BUT i hope you have a good rest of your, week, day, life, night, year. Etc AND i will catch you in the next. One Good night and. Goodbye