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a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's tuning in today is doing
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I hope everyone who's listening had a nice and peaceful and wonderful and fun Thanksgiving.
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I hope you're full of turkey and him and whatever else you may eat
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at the Thanksgiving festivities. I hope your fridge is also full as well as
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mine is. And it's just crazy to me how now we're basically in December,
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well not today. Today's the last day of November. I believe the
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time that this episode is up, but the next day is December. We
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are in the last month of twenty twenty three. It's crazy to me because
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I feel like just yesterday we were just bringing in the new year for twenty
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twenty three, and now we're about to bring in the new year for twenty
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twenty four. Is that insane? But I'm just ready for the holiday vibes
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now, you know. I feel like a lot of people after Halloween are
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just like yeah, Christmas, and like, no, stop skipping over Thanksgiving.
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It was fall vibes, those Thanksgiving vibes for all of November, and
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now that Thanksgiving has passed, I think I'm mentally prepared to head into holiday
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season and especially get ready for Christmas. And speaking of Christmas, I will
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say I probably will have put this on my Instagram stories already, but I
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Am not really going to be participant in Podmas this year. So if you
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don't know what pod miss is, podmus is basically where it's like similar to
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vlogmis what YouTubers do. So vlog miss they post videos every day. Pod
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miss you post podcast episodes every day. And there are quite a few podcasters
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that I follow that actually are going to participate in podmus and post episodes every
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single day. Mind you, these people have prepared throughout the year for this
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time of the year. I haven't. And then on top of that,
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I transitioned into doing video podcasts this year. If you didn't know, I
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am now recording myself and posting my face on YouTube. So that's great,
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So you could definitely check that out if you like. But in terms of
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like now editing video and all this other stuff that I'm going on with school
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because I'm in my last year of school and just trying to pick up on
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work and stuff like that, and you know, I'm in marketing this holiday
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season and that's gonna be stressful in and of itself. So I don't think
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I have the mental capacity to participate in Podmas. Honestly, I didn't even
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do pod miss last year. I did twelve Days of podmus where I just
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posted three episodes a week for four weeks, which in my opinion is some
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type of pod miss. But I don't think this year I'm going to be
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able to do that. I don't have the bandwidth or mental capacity for that.
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So I was gonna look a little bit different for December. I'm trying
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I will see, I'm working on that right now, but I'm trying to
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see if I can get a guest on here every single week. And maybe
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do like an extra shorter video episode for you and get that up as well,
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so having guests and speaking with them about like being told and self confidence
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and all that, and then having like a holiday themed episode as well,
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just a shorter thing, and I think that I'll be able to do that,
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and then posting a lot more video instead of video and pictures over on
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my social So we'll see how that works. Something new, is something different.
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A little bit nervous for that, but you know, sometimes you just
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gotta go a different direction and see how that goes. But I think I'll
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be I think I'll be okay with that, and I'm pretty sure you guys
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will love it too. I hope. I hope you guys will love it.
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But that's what I can do this year. All right, enough of
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that, let's get into today's episode, which is a request from one of
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you guys. Actually, I did a poll over on my Instagram story,
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so if you want to participate in those and like just request episodes and all
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those good things, make sure you follow me over on Instagram. But I
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did a poll over on my Instagram asking what type of episodes and what type
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of topics do you guys want to hear and someone requested dating and I was
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like, oh, okay, I mean I think that it's pretty fitting right
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now, especially heading into December, heading into winter period, because it's basically
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cough season, the height of cuffing season, and if you don't know what
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coffing season is is basically when you're in a relationship with another partner or even
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partners. It's twenty twenty three. We just gotta we're talking about that.
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Yes, if we were in a relationship with a partner or partners, and
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you know, you have somebody to do holiday things with, you can go
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see Christmas trees and lights and shows and all that stuff with your partner,
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here's someone to snuggle with and cuddle with on those cold nights or on those
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cold trips if you're taking like public transportation or going on walks. Essentially,
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it's just when the time when it sounds so bad when I say this,
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because honestly, it's better to be lonely than to be with somebody that you
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just don't want to be with at all, but you're with them for the
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sake of just not being lonely. But it's just that time also where a
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lot of people feel lonely because they're seeing other people with their partners and they
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don't have one. I will definitely say that that really that used to be
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me in the past twenty one, not even twenty one, in the past
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twenty years because I am cuffed this cuffing season. I literally can't believe I
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just said that out loud. That's all I'm gonna say. We're just gonna
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leave it at that. But is the height of cuving season. So I
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just found that it was fitting to talk about this whole dating thing and the
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struggles of dating as a tall woman and dating itself is just very unique to
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each person's situation. Some people start earlier, some people start later. If
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you're like me, Some people are allowed to do it at certain points in
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times. Some people aren't allowed to do I wasn't allowed to date in high
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school, so that definitely had an effect on when I even started. And
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then some people are able to choose their partner of free will, others it's
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just arranged. It's just very different to each person. There's no one size
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fits all type of thing for dating. It's not like there's one right way
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to do it because everybody's situation is different now for me personally. Really,
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I didn't start doing all of that till I was twenty one, and I'm
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twenty one right now, so I didn't really start until recently because, like
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I said before, in high school, I wasn't allowed to date. But
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when I went to college, that was the start, the height something of
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that sort. It was just the pandemic was going wild. So we were
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in lockdown and I was online for school for two years, and I really
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wasn't. I mean, I wasn't a club but a school club. Let
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me emphasize that, a school club, but that was also online, so
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I wasn't really going outside and meeting people like that because of the pandemic,
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which is understandable. And then I'm pretty sure you guys know my journey by
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now. But by the time it was junior year, I went to school
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one or two days a week, I believe, and that was a struggle,
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just trying to talk to people and make connections. It wasn't really until
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my last semester, the second semester of junior year, when I actually started
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making friends and meeting people. It was just a very interesting process, very
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slow process. It just wasn't until this semester, the first semester of my
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last year, of course, when I started dating. So that was a
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very interesting journey. And I did have my crushes at times in high school.
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Honestly, I'm not even gonna lie. I think I only had a
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total too, because I went to school with I went to school with like
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a bunch. I don't I'm not hating on the nerds, but I went
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to school with a bunch of nerds, and I was in my era of
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oh, I don't want to date a nerd, like it doesn't have to
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be like this big Okay. There was actually no jocks at that school because
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I went to a very specialized high school, rigorous academic high school, so
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we didn't even have a football team. That's how crazy it was. But
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I wasn't like, oh yeah, like for the jobs. But I also
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was not like, mmm, for the nerds, you know what I mean.
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There just wasn't much exploring to do in that respect. And also I
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was very focused because I was very involved because yes, I was going to
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school and I was already pretty hard itself, but that I was also an
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athlete, I was playing sports. I was also in music, so I
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was doing that I was just doing a lot in the school, so I
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also felt like I didn't have the time to do it. But there was
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this one. He wasn't even in my school. I used to play in
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a city band when I was a senior in high school, and I think
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we were both like seventeen. Had a massive crush on him, and I
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found out because we had like a mutual friend. I found out from the
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mutual friend that he did indeed have a crush on me too. And you
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know, some people will, especially tall people, especially tall people, some
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people will say that I got lucky because he happened to be six four,
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And you know, because of that, I kind of question did I like
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him just because he's tall, or did I like him for him? But
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I did like him for him. He just happened to be six' four,
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which in some cases can be a plus, I guess you could say,
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but he's not the one that I'm cuffed to right now, Okay,
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that's all in the past, because that was pre pandemic. It was actually
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right before lockdown. We some of them was starting, something was sparking,
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but then everything shut down and we were locked in our homes. So that
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really didn't go much of anywhere, and back to my point of him being
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six four, because I know somebody's probably gonna end up saying something about that,
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whether it's a common or a DM. You know, people already comment
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that underneath some of my videos. But there's this assumption that's tall women only
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want to date tall men and the not so tall men are unattracted to us,
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And I'll be the one to tell you that that's not one hundred percent
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the case. I will argue that the whole standard of the man having to
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be the taller one in the relationship is losing its popularity, but it's still
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kind of there to some extent, and that can make it a little hard
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for tall women to date. So I can understand why this person requested this
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episode because the struggle can still be there to some extent. I mean,
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it's twenty twenty three. We're getting better, but we're just not exactly where
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we should be just yet. And I think my number one thing about this
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whole dating scenario situation is that people have their preferences. Some tell women prefer
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shorter men, Some tall women prefer men the same height, Some tall women
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prefer taller men. Some tell women just don't care. As long as you're
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vibing with her and she's vibing with you, then you know, whatever happens
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happens. But the preference is the strict preferences of the woman having to be
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tiny or shorter. That is, honestly what sometimes can affect the route that
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many people go in terms of who they choose to date. And then that
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can affect our self esteem because we're like, we're constantly thinking that, oh,
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men only want shorter women because they're seen as more feminine. So sometimes
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people's preferences, very very strong preferences, can take a toll ontell women's self
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esteem because of that. And that's the thing with the whole men preferring shorter
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women or women who are shorter than them, because there can be this pressure
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for tall women to appear more feminine to offset the fact that our heights can
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be intimidating. So we may talk in a higher voice, we may try
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to act more passive. Either way, if you feel forced to do that,
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then you're in the wrong place. So is dating difficult for tall women?
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Yes, it can be. There are definitely a lot of struggles that
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are tied to it. From the insecure short men to the men who seem
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to only go for very short women, and then you have the people with
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the weird fetishes. Yeah, but every person, everybody has some type of
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struggle when it comes to dating. It could be a race thing, ethnicity
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thing, It could be how they look. It could be also, like
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on the opposite end of the spectrum from us us struggling with being tall,
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there are people who also who are short and also struggle with dating it.
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There's everybody has their own unique struggles. I mean, I can only really
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speak for the tall women because even though I haven't really dated like that,
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I can definitely say that a lot of the boys, especially in high school,
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stayed away from me because I was significantly taller than them. And then
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on top of that, I was an athlete, so my build was already
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bigger than theirs because they haven't really developed as much, so a lot of
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the boys were scared of me, and then that would just lead them to
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not want to talk to me. And like I said, I was too
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focused on other things to really care that much. But that can also that
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definitely plays a role in tall girls self esteem, especially when they're younger.
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You know, I actually did an episode with a guest Rachel, who was
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talking about that how the teacher would try to like pair her with the tallest
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boy possible, but she was taller than all of them, so it was
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just like super weird, Like, yeah, it's gonna be like that because
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they don't hit their puberty till much later, so their girls birds hit much
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later, and they just feel a little bit intimidated by the fact that there's
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a girl who is significantly taller than them, so that that can definitely take
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a toll on our self esteem. But I think it's really good to look
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at the positives. The great thing about dating as a tall woman, in
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my opinion, is that you can filter out the people who you are incompatible
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with. So the creeps, the insecure shorties, their red flags may appear
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earlier, which can save you a lot of time and headache. And when
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you see those red flags, you run. Girl. You don't stay,
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you run, because refusing to date a tall woman is like refusing to date
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somebody because they have brown eyes or crooked teeth. Rejecting someone based on a
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simple physical trait that they can't even control is a little much. As I've
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said before, and as I keep reiterating, people have their preferences. And
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I try to say this as much as possible because you should not be taking
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it personally. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. A lot of
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this is out of your control and you they're The likelihood of you actually changing
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somebody's preference is very low, and you shouldn't even be trying to do that.
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You should be trying to find the people who appreciate every single aspect of
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you and who appreciate you for you as a whole, as a person,
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as a human being. So just keep in mind, people have their preferences,
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just like I'm sure you do, and it's literally nothing against you.
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It has nothing to do with you. And there are billions and billions of
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other people out there in this planet Earth who I'm sure you can find that
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will appreciate you and your height, and trust me, they are out there.
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Listen. There are a tall women who have husbands who are afoot shorter
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than them. Hear me when I say this. Love can make anything possible.
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It can be exhausting, it can be draining, and if it feels
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like everybody has like this one particular type or everybody just wants to go for
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the same type of women are same type of person. Maybe it's time to
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take a step back and consider who you're going for, because if it seems
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like all of the men that you're going out with are all of the people
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who you're going out with are into the same people, or they seem like
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they're all the same, then you're quite literally going for a certain type of
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person, and that's not good. We don't want to attract that bad,
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certain type of person. So it might be best to take a step back
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and focus on yourself, do some self reflection on who you want to attract
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and what type of person you want to be with, and also do the
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things that make you happy and go about your life. You know, it's
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not all about dating. You can do your hobbies. You can hang out
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with your friends and family, go to work, go to school, stuff
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like that. And I feel like in doing that and focusing on yourself,
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you can start to realize the type of person that you want to be around
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or the type of person you want to be with. And on top of
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that, you're also because you're living freely and truly and how you should and
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being who you want to be, being who you are. You're going to
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attract the people who are meant to be with you, so don't rush.
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There's no set timeline for anything. Some people find there are so maids earlier.
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Some people find their soulmates later. Some people don't even find their somates
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at all. You know, it's it's there's no set timeline, there's no
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set direction, there's no set thing to follow. Everything that is meant to
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happen will happen in due time, and that right person is going to find
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you, and you will find that right person in the right time. It's
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just good to be patient and keep doing what you do and everything will fall
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into place. And if somebody has those outdated assumptions, stay away from them.
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If they have the overly traditional, very strict, very can controlling assumptions
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and thoughts and ideas, stay away from them. And this goes for everybody.
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Okay, I know that I've been talking a lot about like men and
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women dating, but this honestly goes for everybody, no matter the gender.
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Because it's twenty twenty three, we just got to accept that fact. Okay.
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Love is love. Love is going to look different for everybody. Love
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comes in different shapes and sizes, it doesn't matter. But the reason that
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I was talking more so about men and women dating is because that is where
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more of the struggle lies. Very traditional relationships tend to breed very traditional assumptions,
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if that makes sense. So with the men and women dating, it's
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almost like society is like, okay, men and women. If the man
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and the women are dating, then the man has to be teller. A
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man has to do this, that and the other, and a woman has
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to do this, that and the other. That type of relationship is more
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so where the height insecurities and the height things come from. And that's more
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so where I know the most information. I have the most experience with as
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well, So that's why I'm more so speaking towards that. But like I
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said, this whole entire thing goes for every single type of relationship, every
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single type of person. So the struggle can be real to date as a
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tall woman, but everybody has their person or people, and I firmly believe
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that, yes, the struggle is real, but to some extent, the
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struggle is worth it when you find that right person, and it's all going
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to end up okay in the long run. So thank you, so so
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much for tuning in. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you as
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I always. Feel free to hit me up on my socials at a Tall
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Girls podcast, on Instagram, TikTok, and Pinterest and just let me know.
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Have you struggled with dating? Are you dating? Are you not dating?
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Did you quit dating? All that good stuff if you want to have
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a nice little chit chat. I'm super down happy December, even though it's
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not December the day that this is up, but hey, maybe you're listening
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to this in December, and I am excited to see what direct this podmis.
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It's not even pod missed this attempt at a different pod, Miss is
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gonna be and I'll catch you in the next one. Good night and goodbye.