Do Tall Women Need To Be Humbled? | Why People Behave Aggressively Toward Tall Women

Do any other tall girls remember almost always being paired up with or grouped with the boys during gym class. Let me just get into the story. I was in ninth grade, ninth or tenth grade, I think it was in like the earlier part of high school, okay, And then we had like different units, so we would have like a unit at this activity for a couple of weeks, and then a unit of another activity for a couple weeks, and so forth and so on. So at one point in time, we were at the basketball unit. I'm sure you know where I'm going with this. So there were three levels, level one, level two, and level three. Level one was beginner, level two was intermediate or whatever, and level three being super advanced. I guess now the gym teacher did know that I played past tense played basketball about two or three years prior. Mind you, there were other girls on the basketball team that was in that gym class, yet I was placed in level three, the only girl placed in level three with all of the guys. Basically, anyways, we were playing a scrimmage or whatever, and I was on defense and this dude, I guess he was trying to turn around, but he basically elbowed me in my face and proceeds to keep playing like nothing happened. So naturally, I yelped and literally stood on the sideline deleted. I mean, he did elbow me in my face. So I literally heard the teacher screaming, why are you so aggressive? You wouldn't do that to a girl, would you. The guy was like no, So the teacher was like, so why did you do that to her? She's a girl, dude, And he was literally like, oh, I forgot. She'll be fine. You forgot, I'll be fine. Hill anyway. So, albeit small and hopefully unintentional, this is just one example of rough and aggressive behavior that many tall women experienced from other people. And in today's episode, we're gonna dive a little bit deeper into that. So let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's doing in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast, on Instagram, TikTok, and Pinterest so that you can stay up to date on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel freeomly review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description. Towards the end of my previous episode, I made a very interesting point, and this was the episode where I basically spoke about tall women's insecurities and how some people invalidate them. And so the point that I made was that some people downplay our insecurities. Some people invalidate our experiences and claim, oh, like, being tall isn't that bad. Being a tall woman isn't that bad. It's not that hard. I would feel so good about myself if I had your height, So you must feel good about yourself with that height. So I'm gonna humble you. I'm gonna make you feel bad about yourself. So basically, I'm miserable, and you have something that I want and I'm jealous of that, and I'm jealous of you, So I'm going to try to make you feel miserable. I'm going to try to make you feel bad. I'm going to try to make you feel how I feel about myself, and so I want the tall girls to understand this. Insecure people will try to make other people feel insecure, Clocket. So all that talk about, oh, you don't need to wear heels, you're already tall, you're doing too much, or stop being so loud, you're already noticeable, all of that is just projection, not the truth. So let's listen to this video and a separate video of a fellow tall Girlie talking about all of the things that people in her life has said to her about her height and an attempt to make her feel bad about herself or insecure, whether they meant to or not. One thing I noticed about insecure people is they would always try to humble you, and literally they will say little things to pick out your self esteem over time until you realize, like that's weird. But if you do don't question it, or if you don't realize what they're doing, eventually it's going to work. So whenever someone says anything to you and it makes you feel some type of way, realize what they're doing so you can come back to reality. Okay, I'm so sick and tired, so sick, and tired of being attempted to be put down about my height. I'm five eleven, I'm a tall female. Okay, being tall as a female naturally brings out a lot of insecurities and men, especially especially a little or one. I had a man come up to me in public yesterday and ask me if I hated my height? Okay, let me think, do you hate yourself? Like? How am I supposed to respond to that? I work in retail, in a sporting goods store, and I have a lot of people come up to me every day. My height is a topic of discussion. It's unoriginal. It's unoriginal. I'm tired being asked if I play basketball because newsflash, I'm twenty one. I did not go off to play professionally, otherwise I wouldn't work here. Also, I'm really tired. Giraffe, tree, jolly green, giant. Can let's come up with some other content. Are we unaware that the models of the world are six foot? Are we not aware that there are beauty standards other than small tiny women? Can we get some more inclusive sizing in things? But that's not even the point. The point of this is to address that it is socially like all types of messed up to go up to someone and you know, just off rips start making fun of their height. All of my friends think it's funny, and it's like, you know, I'm not saying I'm sensitive, it's just that it starts to get on your nerves when you hear it every day. I mean, how would you feel if someone commented strangers friends all the same commented on something about your parents that you cannot change every single day, to the point it's like, you know, I love my height? Am I not supposed to like what? This girl is upset because one of my guy friends she thought that we were messing around totally not true, by the way, and she goes and writes like a paragraph calling me a tree and everything but a pretty nice woman, when I've been nothing but nice to her. But what's really getting me is like that's the only thing you can say, Like you're calling me a tree. My friend's constantly calling me a giraffe. We got, you know, a little intoxicated the other day and all of my guy friends started pointing at me and being like, there's no man taller than Christina, And it just just spiraled the entire room was talking about my height, and I was like, I actually think it's attractive when I see tall women and I see myself. But I think it's something that makes us stand out. But maybe I'm crazy, Like I'm just I'm actually so sick of it. Yes, I'm actually this whole. No, I'm not standing on something. Yes, my parents are tall. What did you think I was born from little people? Not saying that couldn't happen. But my dad is six' four and my mom is five, ten so of COURSE i was going to be tall Like jesus. Guys so basically to sum it up insecurity among other, things of, course but, insecurity being a big. One insecurity drives. Behavior people will act aggressively or even passive aggressively towards tall women because of feelings of. Inadequacy they'll try to humble tall women and make them feel less than in an attempt to bring them down to that insecure person's. Level this can look like snarky, comments, competitiveness and even name. Calling ugh the tall nicknames tree, Giraffe Jolly, Green, Giant, daddy long, Legs mommy long, legs big, bird. Avatar please feel free to let me know If i'm missing. Anything but it's twenty twenty, five. Y'all i'm sure we can do better or just not do it at. All but, yeah sometimes it actually goes past the name, calling the, insecurity the, envy the, discomfort them being, intimidated them being too caught up in societal. Standards all of that can lead to passive aggressive, behaviors the backhanded compliments and. Microaggressions let's hear one example of. This it's actually a. Skit that's a scenario where a tall girl is on a field, trip a school field, trip and there is a mom who is a chaperone who is making comments about her. Height. Hi, Girls, oh look at, You, Tube. Claire you are so. TALL i, mean, wow you're always taller than everyone in your, class but you're a really huge tall. You. Too remind me of you've seen monsters Inc, Yes Mike wazowski and Then sally the, big, tall, tall giant monster one that's like. You you've got a friend and you're both in the same. GRADE i, mean, gosh you must be a foot, taller and you'll look five years older maybe. More look like you're ready for, college so, mature look like you should be wearing a. Pantsuit we're the same. SIZE i mean you're, taller of course big my husband's. HYPE i would, say gosh. Already AND i know your parents are tall and you've always been the tallest person in the. Class every single day somebody who's known you for years points it, out And i'm sure you hate being. Short i'm sure you. Do i've never thought about. IT i don't. Worry, okay people are complimenting, now but not for. Long you guys are. Older she's still gonna look, older you know WHAT i, Mean and you're gonna have that baby. Face people with an older face will always have an older, face so you'll get the last. Laugh he's just gonna be like. Grandma like you guys will be, forty and people will think that that's like your. Mom I'm i'm still right. Here so something that really bothered me about growing up as a tall girl was when adults make comments about your. Body if it's not health. Related there's no reason that an adult should be saying backhanded comments or sly remarks about a young person's. Body but up to this point in the, episode we've talked about just when people talk about, you when they say rude things about you and try to humble you in that. Way just chitter, chatter sly, comments nothing that a good tall girl come back can't. Fix, Right, honestly the best way for a tall woman to deal with somebody who's trying to humble her is to humble them right. Back, Oh i'm so. Tall you're the one who lied about your, height saying that you're taller than you actually. Are, Oh i'm. Huge, honestly everything looks pretty big from down there. Periods but, honestly what if it goes further than? That what if it goes further than the chitter? Chatter what if it goes further than the sly, remarks like what happens when people actually get physical with? You does that make? SENSE i did ask you guys in a poll over On, instagram And i'm gonna do a quick little plug. Here make sure you follow me at A Tall girls podcast so you can part to debate in these polls and have your opinions heard on these. Episodes BUT i did ask you guys in a poll over On. Instagram as a tall, woman have you ever experienced aggressive behavior due to your? Height twenty five percent of you guys said, yes several, times fifty percent of you guys said, yeah but not, often in twenty five percent said, no. Never very interesting how these results came, Out but for the most, part at some point in, time whether it was several times or every once in a, while a tall woman has experienced some type of aggressive behavior due to their. Height, NOW I i don't. KNOW i don't want to ask people to elaborate on, this because you, know some of it can be very, Triggering some of it can be very, traumatic especially if there was like a physical altercation of some sort. Involved not to say that any of these women had any type of like physical altercations involved in that aggressive behavior or. WHATEVER i, Mean i've heard stories from some of you, guys so there have been physical altercations, Involved BUT i don't. KNOW i feel like a lot of these could also be due, to you, know people coming off a certain, way speaking very rudely or harshly to, you even making threats EVEN i don't. Know just they don't have to be physical to be, aggressive is What i'm trying to. Say SO i feel like that also includes that WHEN i say aggressive, behavior it could be a mix of. Both it could be one or the. OTHER i don't, know but to see that most tall women who have participated in this poll has had like experience with some type of aggressive behavior because of their. HEIGHT i don't, know it's just crazy that stuff like this happens to. Us, okay here's my hot. Take being a tall woman can be. Dangerous like as a, woman being tall can literally put your life in. Danger there are so many stories from tall, women ranging from people trying to fight them simply because they're, tall to questionably aggressive dominating behaviors in very intimate, settings if you know WHAT i. MEAN i found this reddit Titled dangers of being a tall. Woman this one girl said certain men get off on dominating women who are larger than, them like a weird power. Trip she's had men be way rougher with how they treat, her or she's experienced way rougher. TREATMENT i guess during you, know boom boom, activity during boom boom activity during boom boom, time very intimate, time if you know WHAT i. Mean so she's experienced way rougher treatment than her small friends. Have, listen no shade about what people are into and so, forth but it has to be, consensual and you know from the way that she kind of explained it or insinuated in that, reddit it kind of sounded like she was put off by, it like it was off putting and not maybe not necessarily what she envisioned or not necessarily what they previously talked, about or not necessarily what she likes or is. INTO i don't, know she didn't get into like the nitty gritty about, it but maybe she was just put off by the whole situation and trying to compare it to how her shorter friends, have you, know experience that, time and just seeing the very clear. Differences but then, again it's also important to consider the different, partners like their partners are gonna be, different so maybe they're into different who. KNOWS i don't. Know but there was a comment underneath that post where someone said that they have a tall friend who said that when she wears heels and goes, out like when she goes OUT i guess into the town and heels men try to fight. Her oh and even just another, instance this one tall girl THAT i interviewed on the Podcast Ali. Alexis she also spoke about her experience where somebody tried to physically dunk on. Her they were not at a. Park they were not at a basketball. Park this was like an imaginary basketball. HOOP i GUESS i don't. Know people are so. Weird but it's the street, harassments the sexual, aggressions the, following the, tailgating so many of these scary and intense and aggressive like behaviors and actions that some of these tall women have. Faced it's, like what the, heck what's going on? Here this is, sick this is. Absurd tall women don't need to be humbled or. Attacked these other people need. Help that's what's going on. Here in all, entirety What i'm trying to say is, that you, know some people really let the insecurities and the discomfort within themselves just get to. Them so when they see somebody else who appears maybe strong or or, confident or or loves their, height or loves whatever feature about them that they may, want they feel the. Needs instead of seeking help and working on, themselves they feel the need to assert some power over that. Person, Listen i'm not a psychologist and not a. THERAPIST i PHYSICALLY i don't know how all of that. Works i'm just talking about patterns here and What i've heard online and in stories and stuff like, that but it really just seems like the insecurities and whatever mental whatever they're, battling it really just gets to them and they feel the need to have to lash out at that. Person and some and tall women seem to get some of that lashing out or whatever because of their height and because of how powerful they may seem and the attention that they command and even the respect that they, command and some people just don't like. That some people just don't like that and feel the need to humble them and lash out at them to make them that tall woman feel less than and feel scared and feel, like oh my, gosh there's something wrong with. Me that's honestly the entirety of this episode and What i'm trying to. Say so, YEAH i, MEAN i don't there's not a lot of like tiktoks or a lot of stories out there of like tall women talking about like the, aggressive like physical aggressive behaviors that they've, received Because i'm pretty sure stuff like that is extremely, traumatic and it's understanding that you don't want to just put that out on the internet or just say it and other people talk about a comment about a judge you and stuff like, That so it's. Understandable but it's just very interesting that stuff like this, happens and, honestly very. Scary So i'm gonna end the episode. Here i'm sorry IF i brought up like any bad or memories or thoughts or, whatever if you've experienced aggression because of your height as a tall. Woman but it's important to talk about these things and bring awareness to, them and you, know let people know that this stuff actually happens and it needs to stop like. Yesterday But i'm gonna end the episode. Here thank you so much for tuning. IN i really appreciate, it AND i appreciate you of, course as, always feel free to hit me up on my socials and let me know what you thought about this. Episode what do you think about insecure people trying to make other people feel? Insecure what do you think about the aggressive behaviors towards tall? Women have you experienced something like? That have you experienced people trying to humble you because you're a tall, woman because of your. Height let's have a conversation about, this let's talk about, This let's bring this out into the. Open so the recording apparently cut off right BEFORE i said my signature. Outro So i'll just say it. Here, uh have a good rest of your, day, week monthier, life whatever it is for, you AND i will catch you in the next. One Good night and. Goodbye