Do Any Other Tall Women Get Misgendered? | “You’re Too Big to Be a Woman”

It's no secret that some people of view height as masculinity, some people of view tall women as masculine, and I've talked about it quite often on this podcast. Now, what if some people take this a step further and believe that or call a tall woman a man or maybe trans. Yes, there are tall women who were assigned female at birth and still identify as a woman who have been straight up asked if they were a man or trans. And honestly, people don't even have to straight up ask about that. It can be simple things like eyeing you in a woman's public restroom or even calling you sir. So in today's episode, we're going to be discussing why some people misgender tall women and whether they actually believe that or they're doing it on purpose. So let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girl's podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I help everyone who is sitting in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast on Instagram, TikTok and Pincher so that you could stay up today on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave your review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description. Before we get deep into this episode, tall girls are trending again, y'all. I don't know what's up with that. I don't know if it's just twenty twenty five. Whorse, there's just like this major shift in how people see tall women, how some people see tall women. I don't know what it is, and I mean, low key, I'm here for it. But the tall girlies are trending yet again on TikTok so. It's called the big Mama trend, where there is like a video or a photo of a woman and it has her height and it's usually like five ten or six to two. It has her weight which is usually somewhere around two hundred pounds, give or take, and has her clothing size, maybe her shoe size, and so forth, and that photo or video is playing with the song by Lotto called big Mama. I guess I don't know I never really listened to it, but the song is just like big Mama, Big Mama. I'm not trying to play it and get like copyrighted, but I also kind of don't want to make a fool of myself, So we're take without what you will. You can search it up on TikTok too if you have it. But this is ultimately done as a way to celebrate bigger bodies, whether it's more plus size, tall or honestly both, and I mean I get it. Listen, all bodies are beautiful. Now. I do have a few thoughts about this trend, and honestly more so about how men view tall women, but I may say that for another episode. But in the meantime, I did find this video of a girly who basically showed her thoughts about this trend, so I'm gonna play that for you guys. As a tall girl. Here are my thoughts on the tall girl trend on TikTok and how being tallest seen as a positive thing by men. I think that's the craziest thing. I'm not mad at it, don't get me wrong. I just think it's crazy that it took this long. Now, there's some people in the comments that are about to eat me up and say, oh, models are tall, Like tall girl's been it, Like, what are you talking about? Models have been it eighty percent maybe more of tall women are not models. Women who are not models a lot of their life have been associated with very masculine traits have been called things like manly and some things. I've been called tree, big, bird, giraffe. I one time heard of high school some boys saying, ew, she's dumb tall end of statement, that was it? Why is that you? And I just feel like it low key kind of took Megan thee Stallion to you know, pop off and be that celebrity in the public eye. That's tall, that's beautiful, that is wanted, you know, and it's kind of sad that it took that long low key. Now, something interesting that was brought up in this take was particularly that tall women have mainly been associated with masculinity or have even been called manly. And so this trend has to do with size, because I mean, like big mama, So the word big kind of implies like large size and listen, I'm typically not over analyzing stuff like this, but hear me out, it's gonna make sense in a couple seconds. But being tall or being big, and listen, I don't really like using the term big, but for the sake of this trend, we're it's going to use it. But large, being large is often associated with masculinity, and so you know, because of tall women and their size, you know, they're typically associated with masculinity. However, some people have taken it a step further in that. Yeah, like we've been called masculine, but there are some people who may call us a man, or may call us turns related to a man, or may have you been assumed that some of us are trans. And I want to say early on in this episode that we do not promote transphobia. Okay, it's disgusting, it's gross, get a life. We respect people no matter their identity. Okay, And just as a disclaimer, I will be talking a lot about the term trans and honestly how it's being used as an insult here. But we're going to get into that a little bit later, but I just wanted to let you know about that early on. But yes, there are some tall women out there who have been called man or a trance, or even have been approached by somebody like a random stranger in public and asked if they're a man or a trans Just listen to these next few examples. So while I'm here and they're telling extremely tall women acts and if they're you know, a transgender or you know, or if they're a man, I haven't experienced this, but I'm here and that's what y'all be going through. Like that's new to me. I keep getting mistaken from man and I'm tired of it and it's time to figure out why. Okay, and I mean this happens to me often enough that for a while I thought that it was like a stereotype of thing. My thought because I'm like six' two in black and LIKE i have short. HAIR i don't know if this is like an issue that black girls deal. WITH i was stopped in my car in your city by a man that wanted to hit on me but wanted to make SURE i wasn't trans before hitting on. Me and this was simply based on my high and obviously he was short. Man he was like what five point eight five pout. Six the lesson here is to nevers many on sexuality stop assuming that tall women are trans. WOMEN i did ask you guys in a poll over On. Instagram And i'm just going to do a quick plug. Here make sure you follow me at A Tall girls podcast so that you can participate in these polls and have your opinions heard on these. Episodes BUT i did run a poll On instagram Asking Tall, girls have you ever been? Misgendered sixty percent of you guys said yes and forty percent of you guys said. No and THEN i also got an INTERESTING dm as well and response to this poll and this one lady she, Said i've been mistaken for my brother on the phone a few times growing, up but to be, fair it was an honest mistake by, family and they always apologize. Profeustly See i'm gonna comment on that. FIRST i, think especially when you're, younger people often mix up the genders of younger. CHILDREN i think that's pretty, universal not necessarily a thing for like tall, girls but just, OVERALL i think it's like that probably for like the first, five first, five maybe six years of their. Lives but she didn't give an age, range so let's say MAYBE i don't, know she was like, ten, eleven, Twelve then it's, like, okay that's like a LITTLE i wouldn't say, strange but. Strange. Yeah but if younger than, that THEN i think that's pretty. Universal that happens fairly. Often But i'm PRETTY i don't want to, Say i'm pretty shocked that it was like sixty percent said, Yes i'm forty percent said. NO i thought it was going to be more fifty to, fifty you know WHAT i, mean Because i'm just going based off of because some of the people follow, ME i do follow them, back just going based off of them talking about their. Experiences quite a few of you guys do talk about being misgendered for, sure and others don't really say much of anything about. It SO i thought it was going to be more fifty to. FIFTY i probably also should have, specified, oh, like the misgendering isn't necessarily like oh you're a man or oh you're, trans but it could also be things like, sir mister and so. FORTH i probably should have specified. That but if you have any of their thoughts on, this let me know in the comments OR dm. Me so when people misgender told, women is it on purpose or do they actually believe that we're not? Women? Like do they not believe that we were born as women and still choose to identify as. Women and it's not just outright saying that or asking if we were a man or. Whatever it's also something as simple as calling us sir or, mister Like i've gotten that quite a few, times or people online asking inappropriate questions regarding our identity or, gender or even just stairs or harassment in, public or people in public asking the person that they're with like a friend or family member and disappointing and, saying oh my, gosh like is that a? Man AND i think that there's a bit of a. Pattern, WELL i don't know if pattern is the correct term. HERE i feel like there are people with certain, traits there are women with certain trades who get misgendered more often than other tall. Women like On, reddit for, example someone said that this happens a lot to tall women in the black. COMMUNITY i also feel like this could happen more to tall women with strong facial, features a deeper, voice a more athletic, build or maybe just you, know in, general being larger in. Size something interesting THAT i can came across is that thinness is associated with, femininity so it seems like tall plus sized women are more likely to be misgendered than, tall thin. WOMEN i don't, know let me know your thoughts on. That but not only does this take an emotional toll on the tall women that's affected by this or being called a man or trans and so, forth but it also really causes a lot of hyper. AWARENESS i found this thing On reddit of a tall woman kind of asking other tall, Women, hey, like are you worried or scared or concerned that other people may view you as a man or as? Trands because she was talking about HOW i believe she said she was six', to two and oftentimes in, public restrooms in women's, public restrooms she would get side eyes or, weird stairs kind of implying that they thought that she was, a man and that she was a man in a, woman's restroom and they may be uncomfortable. WITH that i. Don't know it's just crazy to me that all of this is happening because society is telling us that our, natural bodies, our height our appearance is quote. Unquote unwomanly now back to my previous question on whether or not people are doing this, On purpose let's say that they are doing this. On purpose, you know why would they do this? On purpose why would some people misgender tall women on purpose and then go and ask these inappropriate questions to her to, her face without maybe even knowing who. She is people ought to missgender tall women as a way to. INSULT them, i, MEAN yeah i guess we could give them the benefit of, The doubt but at what point is, it like you didn't need to say that, inappropriate comment you didn't need to ask that. Inappropriate question you're just being disrespectful. Right, NOW so, i mean in, a way it's like if they're trying to insult us by calling us a man or whatever in, their eyes it's almost like they're trying to humble us in. A way it kind of reminds me of how there are like insecure people or narcissistic people who TRY to, i guess like bring their victims down, or whatever try to bring, them down try to disrespect them as a way to keep their victim almost under. Their, Control now i'm not saying it's as intense because especially if like the misgendering comments or whatever is coming from, A stranger like if you don't personally know, the person how are they going to try to keep control? Over you but they could be trying to. Humble you that person may feel the need to undermine your confidence or tear you down or shame you, into shrinking and, to them it's, like okay hold. On, OUT especially i feel like if they see a tall woman just being herself or, being confident or just doing things that make her feel pretty or make her, feel feminine that's their way of trying to, Be, like okay hold, on, now like don't try to be too confident. Or whatever you still look like a man to the rest. OF us i did ask you guys in another Poll, on instagram do you think people misgender tall women? On purpose nineteen percent, said yes they love insulting us by calling us men. Or trans twenty two percent, said no they may think we're for real men, or trans and fifty nine percent of you guys said a bit. Of, BOTH honestly i found this. Very interesting i'm not. GONNA lie i FEEL like i expected more even results in, a way ESPECIALLY when i was doing do you count TikTok? AS research i count TikTok as RESEARCH when i was doing research, on TikTok, you know especially like going through some of the comments under, these videos some people have, said that, you know people use this as. An INSULT so i FEEL like i would have thought more would have said it's. An insult they're using it as. An insult but it's interesting to see that a lot of you guys think it's a mix. Of both like. Some, PEOPLE well, i mean just as the previous example in the, previous poll when the girl was talking about how her family members would mix her up with, her brother maybe they just, genuinely, thought okay not to say that her family thought that she was like a man. Or Whatever but i'm pretty sure you Understand what i'm trying to, get at like. It was it would be an honest mistake, at times Is what i'm trying. To say AND then i did GET a dm based on, this poll and one of you, guys asked doesn't it matter if? They DO so, i asked what do? You mean and, she, said like does it really matter if someone thinks you are a? Different sex it doesn't say anything. About you it says everything about that person and their. Small mindedness if you are secure enough in yourself and what you, stand for then who cares if they? Misgender you not? Your problem, AND listen i agree with that one hundred and ten percent like especially if it's, a stranger like you're never gonna see these, people again like, screw that, screw them screw their, Thought process like it. Doesn't matter but this is also for the tall girlies who this, has affected, you know like not every not all. The time not everyone is gonna be, like oh like, they're ridiculous like who cares That it some people some of us still get insecure, about that, are like oh, my gosh like what made them think? That way does everybody else see me as? That? Way like who else sees us? This way you KNOW what? I mean and it could be pretty, off putting especially if it happens like a couple times or just randomly and, random places especially in front of other people like your friends and, so forth it could be pretty. Off putting, SO yes i agree that it doesn't, necessarily MATTER but i. Don't know it can also make us feel bad. About ourselves and then that's when it's kind of, like oof like this is, absolutely crazy but that's just. My take you let me know what. You think and with using trans almost as, a slur it's like making that term into something to mock, Or devalue and it's like even when the woman being attacked. Isn't trans that's still kind, of transphobic and it kind of reinforces the idea that trans women aren't. Real Women and i'm sitting, here, like bro like it's twenty, Twenty five what are we? DOING here i thought we were past all. Of this why aren't we? Moving ON and i personally feel like the people who are insulting tall women in this way are very. Insecure, people, Wait Okay so i'm gonna try to explain it in a way that it's kind of similar to this. TikTok. Trend listen i'm not trying To say i'm on TikTok, too, much Okay because i'm. A marketer that's part of. My job but we're talking a lot about TikTok trends here and honestly lately on. This Podcast but i'm gonna play an example of this trend so that you can understand the direction Or what i'm trying. To do do you really need to? Buy that or are you just using online shopping as a coping mechanism every time, you're stressed even just a, little bit because you love the little hit of dopamine that you get from. Online, purchasing, okay ready is the tall woman really masculine or do you just view as a very? Masculine trait and because you're shorter, than her you feel less masculine when you stand next, to her so you call her manly as a to, insult her instead of working on your deep rooted insecurity surrounding your height and views on what. Masculinity is. Who? Said that it? WAS me i said that this is a message to the. Tall girls being tall does not make you any. Less feminine being tall and plus sized doesn't make you any. Less feminine being tall and darker skinned doesn't make you any. Less feminine if you want to, be feminine you. Are. Feminine, period, misgendering truthfully is an attack on, our identity and for, tall women it's honestly the cost of showing up as confident in our height and even embracing, our height embracing. Our appearance, but listen we are not here to shrink ourselves to make other people. Feel comfortable we are here to be exactly who, we are who we are meant, to be and that's. On PERIOD so I think i'm gonna end the. Episode here thank you so much for. TUNING in i really, appreciate IT and i appreciate you of course. As always feel free to hit me up on my socials and let me know what you thought about. This episode have you been? Misgendered before, you know because of? Your height have people straight up, ask, you oh are you? A man or are you trans as a way to? Insult you even online in the, Online space i'm seeing that there's more and more of that because, you know people can hide behind A screen a lot more people are more likely to misgender a tall women or just straight up say mean things about her in like her comments on videos or even, in dms simply because they can hide behind, a screen like have you ever? Experienced that has that ever happened? To you let me know, your thoughts let me know. Your experiences i'm genuinely interested to, know more and let's have a conversation. About it let's keep this. Conversation going the whole point of this is to bring awareness to a lot of the things that tell, women experience and, you know try to bring an end to it so we can live, in peace, You know and, until then until you hit me up, Or whatever i'll catch all in the. Next one good night, and goodbye