Are Tall Women Not Feminine Enough? | Why Some Tall Women Don’t Feel Feminine

If you're a tall girly, I'm sure you've heard the idea that tall women are perceived as masculine. I mean, there's nothing new here. We all know that height equals masculinity in society's eyes or whatever, leading many people, whether people we know or complete strangers to kind of act out on this idea by treating us aggressively or even misgendering us. I'm sure we all know the gist here, but there's kind of a flip side to this. Where are some tall girls also believe this idea? Basically, there are tall women who don't feel feminine or even have a hard time embracing their femininity. And a Reddit post on this let me down a huge rabbit hole about how and why some tall women feel this way. So if you are a tall girly who resonates with this, number one, you are not alone. And number two, I highly recommend tuning into this episode because we're going to get into the nitty gritty of this. So without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a tall girl podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's tuning in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast, on Instagram, TikTok, and Pinterest, so that you could stay up today on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my every day life. Also, feel free to leave me a review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description. I Oh my gosh, I literally recorded this intro or that intro that you just heard, or I literally recorded the first few minutes of this episode like several times, probably two or three times. Why you could probably tell listening to this episode. But like, I don't know what's going on with my voice. I am just getting over a sickness. I'm just getting over being sick, Okay. I literally have no other symptoms, no fever, no chills, no offing, whatever, So like I should be fine in theory, But then all of a sudden, I started losing my voice. Like yesterday, I was kind of starting to sound a little bit hoarse and I was like, oh, like, maybe some sleep will do me some good. And then I woke up today and here we are not sounding one hundred percent, and I'm like, if this gets worse, I'm gonna cry. So I kind of don't want to take the chance and wait till tomorrow because I get a feeling that it's probably gonna be worse than how it is now. So I apologize in advance for sounding a little bit hoarse or a little bit different, but at least I can still talk and get through this episode. We'll see, we're gonna feel it out. We're gonna see how we can get through this anyways. As you probably could tell from the intro, today, we're gonna be talking about how some tall women have a hard time embracing their femininity. We all know that there are people out there who don't view tall women as feminine, but there's also kind of a flip side where there are tall women who don't feel or view themselves as feminine, have view as a tall girl he ever felt this way. I did ask you guys in a poll over on Instagram, and I'm going to do a quick little plug here. Make sure you follow me at a tall Girls podcast, so you could participate in these polls and have your opinion heard on these episodes. But I did ask you guys in a poll, Tall Girlies, was there ever a time where you didn't feel or view yourself as feminine? Seventy eight percent of you guys said yes and twenty two percent said no. So that really just goes to show that, Yeah, not only do some people view tall women as masculine or just straight up just don't view them as feminine, but even some of the tall girlies themselves don't view them as feminine. So I find that very interesting. But we're going to get more into the nitty gritty of this later on in this episode, and the reasoning behind how people perceive tall women and how we perceive ourselves are wildly different. Well no, well yes and no, many people see us as masculine because of our size, right and interesting, Well, let's interesting and more ridiculous how masculinity and femininity are tied to size, like tall equals masculine and short equals feminine. Thicker is also associated with masculinity, while thinner with femininity. And maybe that's why, and I could be wrong, tall plus sized women are most likely to be misgendered, right, I'm getting off track here, But other people tie it to our size, this perceived masculinity. Yes, we ourselves tie it to our size, but we also tie it to our lived experiences, like what people say and other factors that we're going to get into a little bit later. But I didn't get to that second part, that part where we don't perceive ourselves as feminine, or maybe we don't feel feminine because of our lived experiences. I didn't really get to that part until I came across this particular Reddit post. And it's funny because this reddit post was actually meant for another episode, but it spoke about a couple different topics, and one of the topics that was in that post kind of applies here to this episode, and it basically said, the annoying thing is that it was hard for me to embrace my femininity while being tall, not because I felt tall, but because everyone told me so, and because it was hard to find clothes and shoes. I learned at a young age that I didn't fit into the average norm. Now I'm really happy with my height, but it wasn't easy to get there, and so forth and so on. And by the way, the tall girlie who wrote this post is six feet tall. But this not only shows that the reason why tall women feel less feminine is less about size, and it goes much deeper than that, but it also highlights a really common experience that many tall women face, which is how society's expectations and other external factors affect how we see ourselves. Now, these external factors vary, and one of them, which was stated a little bit earlier, is clothing. I honestly do think that clothing is a big one, a big reason why many tall women may not feel feminine. Because clothing is a great form of self expression and self identity. It plays a role in helping women feel feminine if that's how they want to feel, if that's what they choose. However, mainstream women's clothing is made for smaller frames, made with smaller frames in mind, so we're pretty limited in our options already, especially with the conventional articles of clothing that people deem to be feminine, like the skirts and the dresses. It's like we already have a hard time with that because a lot of them are either short on us or just don't fit us properly, or the way that it should. In a reddit titled tall women, what does not feeling feminine mean? One person commented in the thread saying that basically, in her shopping experiences, she'd be told, oh, we don't have that size. Maybe check in the men's section in chee shopping, and she'd have trouble finding women's geenes or trousers or rompers. Yes, especially rappers, those are always a struggle to come by as a tall girly. She'd have trouble finding robbers as well. With cute feminine designs, print, or details, She'd basically have trouble finding those items that are long enough for her. So it's pretty apparent that it can be a struggle for tall women to dress feminine. Let's listen to this clip really quickly. What I thought so interesting about being a woman over six feet tall is that there is such a process with making sure that you're dressed the way that you actually like, especially if you prefer to dress fifit. I know that I can get a lot of genes, a lot of shirts, a lot of blazers that fit me comfortably, and I do like that aesthetic and I do like that style, But sometimes I just want to dress feminine. I want to dress feminine. I want to feel feminine. I want to put on cute hole outfits and a crop top. But it's such a process to making sure things fit me the way I wanted to fit me. Case in point, these genes. I got them from Bubble. They are a thirty one around the ways, thirty seven NCAM or thirty eight n S. They all they're very long, probably a little bit too long because they're getting a little scraped up of the bottle, but I don't care. I want the rise to be low rise, so I fold these to like right here. So the frustration I have is like, Okay, after spending one hundred dollars long jeans, I'm gonna have to spend another I don't know, forty sixty dollars. I don't know how much it cost to get the rise altered to make them lower, And it's just such a process. It's such a process. I also have been looking for like a shirt just like this long sleeve, but I want it in the color turtoise, and I cannot find it. If you know where I can find a shirt like this and the color tourcoise, comment it below, because like just finding clothes is hard in general, but finding clothes as a tall woman that wants to dress a certain way is just so difficult because people who make clothes act like tall women don't exist, and I just want to say we exist. Additionally, a lot of tall women wear men clothes. Remember when tall women had to collectively shop in the men's section just to find clothes effort. Do we still shop in the men's section or do we find better options? Because I don't think that shopping in the men's section solves all of our clothing problems. I mean, what girly pop clothes are you finding in that section? So clothes is definitely a big one. And the media too. The media and different things within that realm play a big role in how we perceive ourselves. There was actually an example in the same reddipost from before the one asking what does it mean to not feel feminine? This one tall girl wrote in the comments. In romance novels is mentioned every time they kiss that she's going up on her tippy toes, her tiptoes to meet him. I never had to do that. She puts his shirt on and it goes down to her knees. Yeah, I'm lucky if it goes to my butt. I literally felt that, honestly. But it's like the same thing with novels. When they're being very descriptive, they're not like, oh, yeah, like she's like five to two when he's like six to one or whatever. Like they're not outright saying that they're they're they're trying to paint a picture. Just like how in the example she said, when they kiss, she goes on her tiptoes. When she puts his shirt on, it goes down to his knees. It's little things like that that's kind of like, oh, like as a tall girl, he's like, oh, like that has literally never happened to me. If we're putting on a man sweatshirt, it fits perfectly. The only time we're on our tipy toes if we're kissing someone is if that person is like seven feet tall. Literally, And even like an example like the Tall Girl movie where the tall girl like, let's say her room and how she dressed and stuff like that, that didn't come off as like this super feminine, hyper feminine type of girly pop stuff, you know what I mean. But the sister Sabrina Carpenter her room was ultra feminine, the way she dressed was ult everything about her was ultra feminine. It's just how the authors of novel. It's how the producers or directors or whatever dress the characters and make the characters appear on screen. It's how that's done. That when we see that, it's ultimately kind of like, Okay, do we relate to this or not? And for the most part, when it comes to the traditionally feminine roles, we don't relate to a lot of the things that they go through, a lot of the things that they do, even how they dress and so forth. So it's kind of like when we put two and two together, it's like, Okay, that's feminine. I literally have never done that or barely ever do that, So am I feminine? You see what I'm trying to say here. So those so it's like we don't really associate ourselves with the smaller, daintier feminine traits. And if we're going back to the part where especially like you know, within a lot of movies, the masculine partner tends to be the taller one and the feminine partner tends to be the shorter one. That kind of also rolls over into the dating world, where it's like, if we're talking about a heterosexual relationship, it's kind of I mean, we're getting better nowadays, I will say that, but it's still in a way kind of expected that the man is supposed to be the taller one in the relationship and the woman is supposed to be the shorter one. And then we kind of perpetuate that idea when we hear stories of some men saying that tall women taller women demasculinized, demasculate. I don't know. I don't know what the term is, y'all. You know what I mean, and please correct me in the comments, send me a DM of the correct term, because I don't know what I'm saying right now, but they feel less masculine around a woman who's taller than them, well more so in the dating aspect of things. I will say, Okay, I'm just gonna play a clip that's gonna explain what I'm trying to say a little bit better. I just saw a video of a guy telling a woman why most men don't like taller one. He got straight to the point, so he said, basically, it's because taller women make men feel escalated. I'm five to eight, so that means I'm above average for the height of a woman. Now a lot of people are arguing and say, oh, that's not tall, it's above average. I'm usually the tallest woman in the room where I'm from. Men feeling emasculated or emasculated, I think that's the word he I believe it's some truth to it because I know men right now that's like five foot five, five foot six, and the first thing they yell out is when they see a taller woman, Oh that's a man. That's the number one insult. I've gotten my whole life. That gotta be a man. That's a man. Oh that's a trans And I've gotten it for men and women, and it used to hurt my feelings. But now that I'm older, I do know that most short dudes want to be tall. When a man is not operating in his masculinity or he feel insecure about something, of course they're gonna hurl those insults to a woman to make her feel like no huge, just two damn big. So those are the main things, clothing, the media, even dating and experiences and other lived experiences that tend to make us feel less feminine. And when tall women don't feel feminine, I feel like it goes one of two ways. Either we get super insecure and try to hide or shrink ourselves, or we overcompensate by hyper feminizing ourselves, so trying to talk in a higher pitched voice, or wearing certain clothes that we wouldn't usually wear, et cetera. Now, what are we going to do about this? Because we're not going to just sit around and cry about it, or we could. Crying is very healthy, Crying is a good thing to do. Make sure you cry, never hold it in. But after we're done crying. But after we're done crying, what will we do about it? So I want to open up the floor tall girls. What are some ways that tall women can feel feminine? What are some examples of what you do to feel feminine? Overall? I think that the biggest thing is a mindset shift. And a tall creator explained this really well. I'm going to play that video here. I was twelve years old, I was six feet tall, and I was in love totally smithen with this guy named Rajan by school. But he never even battered an eye on me because tall girls were not attractive and were not cute. I have always tried to fit in. It wasn't until I was fifteen and six foot too tall at the time that one of my friends actually took picture of me standing with other friends and. I was standing there like this, like a little shriveled shrimp with my friends, trying to fit in. The moment I saw this photo, I was like, hell no. And from that moment I started entering the room with my shoulders back and my head held high. As much as it felt uncomfortable, I was trying to kind of walk as if I. Am deserving of the space. And what happened was really surprising. People started treating me like I am the most feminine person ever, even though realistically I'm a solid seven. Basically, that made me realize is that. My femininity is not conditioned upon how other people perceive me. My feminine, my cockentry, my sexiness is totally dependent on my mindset shift and how I precede myself. Go and get him listen. Okay, tall women can be feminine. Okay, we can be a tall girly and still be a girly pop you know what I mean. It's just ridiculous and annoying and quite frankly outdated, that there are people out there who still associate traits and masculinity and femininity with size, and they try to project all of that onto us, when in reality, we should just be able to be whoever and whatever we want to be. Okay, And I know that it's going to take work. It takes time, it takes a lot of patience and so forth. But I firmly believe that if you're struggling with this, you can get there, and you can get to a place where you're absolutely in love with your height and you feel however you want to feel, whether you want to feel feminine or you want to feel masculine. And the tall girlies are here like this. For the audio listeners, I'm crossing my fingers because the tall girlies are locked in with each other. Okay, we're here for each other. So leave a comment, send a DM, any questions, anything you want to say. Let's chat about this topic. I'm gonna end the episode here. I really need to give my voice a break, Okay, I did. I was giving it a break. Okay. I was resting for like flat to ten minutes in between clips. I have been doing this for like a good three hours now, but we made it, and we made it work, and I'm happy and I think I'm ready to retire my voice for the night. So thank you so much for tuning into this episode. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you of course, as always, feel free to hit me up on my socials and let me know what you thought about this episode. This episode was really just like a response to a Reddit post of a tall girly saying that she doesn't feel feminine and kind of exploring why some tall women don't feel that way, and basically in summary, just saying that many people don't feew tall women as feminine because of our sives. But we may not feel feminine, not necessarily because of size, but so many of our lived experiences and so many things that are portrayed out there on the media and so forth, all of those collectively can lead us to not feel feminine. So I want to hear your thoughts on that point. Do you agree, do you disagree? Do you have any other thoughts on that? Do you have experience not feeling feminine and then eventually feeling feminine over time or have you always felt feminine? Or you just never feel feminine at all. Do you even want to feel feminine? Like, let's talk about it, let's have a chat about it, and yeah, until then, I will catch you all in the next one. Good night and goodbye.