Are Tall Women In Danger? | No One Talks About The Violence Against Tall Women...

Our height as tall women often brings up emotions in other people. Some people feel admiration towards us, often telling us how beautiful and elegant we are. Others feel jealousy, which I don't blame them because being tall is low key fire. But this jealousy can turn into insecurity, leading them to act weirdly towards us. And some people feel anger. Yeah, angry towards the tall girlies, angry, mad, pissed off. I'm sure you get the picture now for what reason. I'm sure we'll likely get into that later on in this episode. But this anger can lead to terrible behaviors, ranging from constant insults to literal physical altercations. Yes, physical altercations like putting their hands on tall women because of their height. We're gonna dive a bit deeper into this in today's episode and hopefully answer the question are tall women in danger? So, without further ado, let's get into it. Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's standing in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast and Instagram, to TikTok in Pinterest so that you can stay up today on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave your review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to be linked in the description. Before starting this episode, I definitely want to acknowledge that it's not just tall women. All women are subject to aggressive and violent behaviors more so than men. Doesn't matter their height, doesn't matter, their weights, doesn't matter whatever, Just women in general. It's just a scary and crazy world out there. Please do your due diligence, stay safe, keep your head on the swivel. As my parents like to tell me. Today, I'm just exploring this from the lens of tall women because I'm a tall girlly myself. I'm a tall woman myself, and I can speak on my experiences and the experiences about the tall women, and honestly, being a tall woman can be scary because why are there so many stories of tall women being called slurs, being threatened, or even being punched in the face because somebody feels a certain way about their height. If you don't believe me, just listen to this video. A woman made a video on here, and she was basically talking about how she's a tall, plus sized woman, and basically she was at this kickback or something like that, and the man there was this man who was basically trying to fight her or trying to get her to fight because she was like tall and big and he felt intimidated by her, and he got up in her face and it basically ended in him punching her simply because she was a tall and big woman. So that prompted me to talk about this. I've never actually been attached by a man, but I've had several men like try to buck up on me, and one did try to fight me once simply because they felt some type of way about me being significantly taller than them. For context, i am five foot ten. So story time, I'm actually gonna tell a couple of story times, but this main one, which basically made me like start avoiding shorter men, was senior. Year of high school. So senior year of high school Towards the end of the year, we started having like more half days, So me, a couple of my friends, and a group of other seniors we decided to go. To the park after we got off of school. So we went to the park and there was this one specific guy we're gonna call him John. John was about five foot four, very insecure, one of those like football players who made that his identity. Now, my first interaction with John was like freshman year, and he was like, I ain't never seen no girl that tall? Are you really a girl? And you know, after that, I kind of left him alone. Every time he would see me, he would like make comments about my hype, and I would keep my distance from him. So anyways, senior, you know. Half day or whatever, we would go to a park, right and everybody's just talking playing, you know, doing high schools. And I remember I had this one friend, he was about six feet tall, but we were really close friends, and basically meet him and John. We were just like having a conversation. Now keep in mind John was ignoring me the whole conversation, but I kind of like just kept talking. So somehow it proceeds to basically. A group of us having like a roasting session, like people would have roasting sessions and see who would win. So John was in the roasting session and basically somebody else roasted him. The guy said a joke to John that was very funny, and we all started laughing. Tell me why. John stopped, looked at me and said, what the is funny? Bro? What the's funny? Mind you. There's a whole bunch of other people there that were all laughing. But he looks at me and he's like, what the is money? And I'm like the joke obviously, so that makes me even more mad. He starts bucking up at me and getting in my face basically saying. Nah, laugh now, laugh now, and I'm. Like, bro, chill, like this is literally a road session, and he was like so heated. He was like really trying to square up with me, to the point where my friend, you know, the taller guy, had to basically get in his face and say, yo, like what are you doing? This is a woman like chill, So he was like. I don't give up about no female, bro, I don't give about no female. She likes six feet tall anyway, and I'm just like so because I am a taller woman and larger and stature that gives you the right to be violent with me. So after that, you know, that kind of stuck with me because this is not the first interaction I've had like that. Now, These aggressive, hyper masculine behaviors can vary. Some are smaller, like this tall girl is sharing how there are men who she doesn't really know that well, and oftentimes when like first meeting them, or like the first few times meeting them, they try to dap her up. Some tall women also share that what are supposed to be more friendly touches. I guess you can say, like let's say you're joking around with a friend, and they may like grab you while they're laughing, or like lightly hate you when they're like, you know, friend, stuff like that. Sometimes people do that. However, those tend to be a little rougher with like rougher shoving, like maybe shoving a little bit too hard or grabbing a little bit too hard, even something as ridiculous as pretending to dunk on us, especially when strangers do that, like don't touch, don't don't come too close to me, don't touch me, I don't know you, you know, all the way up to literal violent behaviors. One person on Reddy share that a tall female friend of his, whenever she goes out and wears heels, men try to fight her. Another person shares how a tall woman he dated used to share stories with him of the horrible things men would say to her in public again when she also wore heels, and the aggression she's experienced when she was on the taller side, I guess, like when wearing heels or just being a tall girly in general. And then a tall girly on Reddit also shared in her college days, men would be aggressive towards her, even smacked food out of her hand, and a security guard pepper sprayed her taller friends once. I mean, obviously, you can never truly know somebody's intentions. However, if a pattern is there, a pattern is there which for example, just like when we saw, like in like one of the one or two of those Reddit posts, the tall woman was wearing heels and she experienced aggressive behaviors, or even the type of person, the type of people who consistently do those things. But we're gonna get into those in a sec I just want to say that if you're a tall girly, and you have experienced any of these, any of these aggressive or violent behaviors surrounding your height because of your height whatever, you are not alone. Now when going through these stories that I just shared, there is a bit of a pattern of who is partaking in who's doing these who's being more aggressive and violent towards tall women? Yes, and it seems like for the most part, it's men who are shorter than or around the same height as that tall woman. And this reminds me of that TikTok video that I literally did like an episode on where she was talking about how most of the people who like nag her. I don't even know what. That term really means. I should probably look that up, but there was this tall girl. I think she was like six one six two something along those lines. The people who mainly nag her are the men who are around her height or are just below that, so being like a five ten, five eleven, maybe six feet tall. And it seems like that's pretty common with tall women for them to be nagged or even for them to experience that aggression from men who are shorter than them or around their height. But I definitely recommend checking out that episode to learn more about that. But I did read some of the comments from the video that I played earlier, and one girly said, the only men who have ever tried to harm her, be violent towards her or cruel to her are short men. Most can't stand tall women. And then something very interesting is that a tall man, a tall man said, as a tall man, I used to have problems with shorter men. They not all are usually the first ones to start fights or throw the first punch, Like even tall men experience this. Why like, why why do tall women and tall men experience this? I'm sure you're questioning that as well. So let's listen to this next clip. Men who are five to nine show aggression towards tall men and tall women more than every other demographic. I don't care what anybody says, like tall men making mean comments about us and the comment text on YouTube, or short women, you know, smirking at us or being passive aggressive towards us. That is not the same as short men getting in our face like they want to fight us, purposely walking past us just a hurl insult at us. Them running after me, just a hurl insult at me. They're the ones who walk past me and say, I'll knock that done, I'll knock her out, I'll slap it out of her. Look at those tallis. I'm not scared of those tall I'm not worried about those talks they they I've had them walk past me and call me manly and transgender. Oh I thought that was a man, me too, I thought that was a transgender me too. Now, different demographics do this, but men who are five to nine show aggression towards tall women and also tall men, more than any other demographic. And I'm not going to let anybody get away with pushing a different narrative because a different narrative is not the truth. Men under five to nine are the second most houstyle demographic towards tall women. They look at us like if I had her height, then my life would be a lot better, And so that's why they lash outed us. And some of them fantasize about us being attracted to them, especially like a thin, pretty tall woman who resembles a model. They fantasize about us being attracted to them, and most of us are not, and so the lash out at us. There are definitely a lot of thoughts as to why this type of behavior happens from shorter men, and a big one and again, not all shorter men, has the guy in one of the comments said, But there's a lot of speculation as to why they do this, and a big reason is because of intimidation and insecurity. Some of these men want to be part of the six foot club. You know, it's like a big thing in society where you know what what was that It was like a TikTok trend. I'm looking for a man in finance trust fund six five blue eyes. It's kind of like this standard that a man has to be tall, and even with a lot of social media, social media is great, but social media can also be terrible because a lot of things that we see on social media is that a lot of women want to date a man who's over six feet, who's over six four and so forth, which honestly is not a majority of the population. And it's just like those standards that are imposed on them. Now, that doesn't mean that they have every right to go and act the way they do, because they nobody should be acting that way. Nobody should be violent and aggressive towards other people because they are insecure or because they are intimidated. That's not how it works. However, because of I guess those standards that are placed on them, they feel some type of way, especially when they're just barely under six feet when they're five to ten, five to eleven, And that's why a lot of them lie and say that they're six feet tall because secretly they want to be that tall. However they actually aren't. And when they get around people who have that height, who have what they want, some people who have obviously not gone to therapy just don't know how to act at all towards that person. They get jealous, they get insecure, they get angry, and feel as though, especially a woman should be smaller because again standards, men are supposed to be taller, women are supposed to be shorter. Women are supposed to be smaller. That's just how it is, and feel the need to, oh, put them in their place or prove to others that they're still masculine, because oh, she's not more masculine than me because she's taller, so I have to prove that I'm the more masculine one. And that leads to them doing those aggressive behaviors, which is sick in my personal opinion, you have to prove that. Okay, yeah, I have to make up for the fact that I'm an inch or too shorter than her. So let me go yell at her and punch her in the face because I'm still a man, I'm still masculine, and her height is kind of disproving. Is that the word her height is kind of threatening my masculinity. So let me go prove to others by getting up in her face and yelling at her and so forth. And so on. That's so weird. That is so weird, and that's something insecure people do, feeling like they have to overdo it in another area to make up for their quote unquote lack to them, the lack to them from tall Gurly to tall Gurly. I just want to tell you that it's not your fault. If someone is intimidated by your height, You're not doing anything wrong. It's not personal. Has everything to do with that other person and their insecurities. And they actually going off of that, back to the previous point that I said that, oh, it seems like that taller woman is more masculine than that shorter guy, and so he has to prove his masculinity by being aggressive and being violent or whatever. That just goes to show that, yes, tall women are masculinized because of their height, and because we are masculinized sometimes because of our height, people think that we are able to handle this aggressive or violent behaviors. If that makes sense, that we're tougher, that we're stronger, and because we seem tougher and stronger because we're taller, it's it's almost like, oh, it's not as bad to do it to them because they can handle it. Does that make sense? And then on top of people thinking that, oh, we're able to just accept it and handle it because we seem tough and strong because of our height, people also think that we are less likely to be attacked or have those behaviors occur to us. Because I mean, listen, we say often say a lot of times that one of the benefits of being a tall woman is that people are less likely to mess with us because they're maybe intimidated by us I think twice before doing anything to us. But that doesn't mean that it's just never gonna happen. Being tall still does not erase the fact that we are still woman. Even though some people don't necessarily see us that way, but honestly, nobody should ever have to go through such cruel behavior either way, let's listen to this really quickly. I myself am as survivor of domestic violence and essay, and I have had people question me because of my height, like, oh, you're tall, how could something like that happen you? Oh you're tall. I know nothing like that could happen you. You know, I mean personally, I am tall, but I'm also small, like I don't weigh that much, I'm not heavy. But either way, it's just really up to like, invalidate somebody's story, invalidate the truth to somebody's story because of their height, Like anything can happen to anybody. A woman could be seven foot tall, and that doesn't discriminate her from experiencing certain types of abuse. Just because a woman is tall, that doesn't mean that she's less likely to experience abuse DV or even essay. Yeah, when tall women share these experiences, there are people who invalidate these experiences or question them or expect us to handle it because to that person, height equal strengths. Yes, right off the bat, it seems like we're intimidating or I guess we're strong or whatever, And it seems as though people are less likely to attack us or be aggressive towards us because we're intimidating to some people. That doesn't mean that people won't try. People can still be intimidated and still act out and still lash out towards us. There's like this whole other side. I feel like it's kind of like extremes in a way. Intimidated, so they don't do anything at all, don't even come up to us, say anything to us or whatever, or intimidated and feel as though they have to yell or try to fight or be aggressive towards us. It's very weird. So my take is, yes, our height often can make people think twice before messing with us. However, in some ways, our height also makes us more of a target, more of a target for different reasons, our visibility, our deviation from femininism norms, or societal norms being hard to ignore even and then on top of that add confidence to the mix. This can invite confrontation from people who we previously wouldn't expect to be confrontational towards us because of our height, meaning we are at a higher risk. I guess you could say of being in situations where this can occur because we wouldn't expect such a thing to happen to us, if that makes sense, Because we're not just talking about a stranger on the streets. Okay, we're all I'm pretty I would hope, so we're all pretty aware of stranger danger. But this can come from a guy that we meet at a bar who seems nice at first, then starts acting aggressive or violent towards us. This can come from an insecure friend who we think is a friend but for some reason is acting terribly towards us, or calling us these rude names, but disguising it as how is a joke or friends right. It could even be a coworker. There are a many tall women who also talk about the aggressive behaviors that they experience at their jobs. Male coworkers may be shaking their hands a little too rough or being very dismissive or rude towards them. So to the question, our tall women in danger, low key yes, Because our height affects some people more than we think. These people sometimes don't say anything right away. These people may be acting nicely towards us at first and may start to switch up later on. Some of these people we may trust or we may have to be around, and we don't expect them to act a certain way towards us, yet they do because of whatever, because of their insecurities or their views towards tall women in masculinization, or you could just be a tall, confident woman and people some people just hate that, and that also is largely because they are insecure within themselves because that person can be the opposite. They could be shorter and may want your height, and then on top of that they also want to have your confidence. And some people get very mad about that and again have not gone to therapy, so they lash out and act out. I just want to say, don't be afraid to leave uncomfortable situations, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself, because this can also play a role in us having to minimize ourselves or feeling like we need to minimize ourselves to compensate for the fact that we're tall. I'll probably do an episode more so on that as well. The world is a crazy place. Just try your best to stay safe, keep your head on the swivel, and if you have a bad feeling about something, Trust your gut, trust your intuition, because for the most part, it does not lead you to any wrong at all. So yeah, that's just my take on that. Thank you so much for tuning in to this episode. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you of course, as always. Feel free to hit me up with my socials at a Tell Gross podcast and let me know what you thought about this episode. Do you think the tall women are in danger? Do you think that our height makes says more of a target to some people. Do you think it's mainly shorter men committing these aggressive behaviors towards us? Do you have, like any stories that you would like to share. Let me know in the comments, let me know in the dms. My dms are always open, though I don't always respond right away because you girls in grad school and we're trying our best. But yeah, let's have a conversation around this, because it's so important to bring awareness to this, to not only let the talk relies know that they're not alone in these experiences, but also to at some point create more awareness and more change for people to start realizing that this is not a good thing to be doing towards us for other people to start calling out other people's behaviors and hopefully create a change. It's important to have conversations around this, so yeah, definitely hit me up, let me know, follow me on my social subscribe to my newsletter. I really need to get something out because I didn't get anything out in January. I'm probably gonna work on that today. And yeah, have a good reci of your day, week, life, year, month, whatever it is for you, and I will catch you in the next one. Good night and goodbye.