Are Tall Women ACTUALLY Insecure Or Are We Just ‘Playing the Victim’? | Why No One Takes Us Seriously

Good morning everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who's sitting in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say, make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast, on Instagram, TikTok, and pincher so that you can stay up to date on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my every day life. Also, feel free toly my review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter you should definitely subscribe to that everything is gonna be linked in the description Happy February, y'all. Oh my gosh. Finally it feels like January was so okay. January was like about five weeks long, but still it just felt like January lasted a whole year. I feel like I lived a whole year in that one month. You know. I found this TikTok video of this girl saying that it's been January since two three Januaries ago. I'm gonna see if I buy that video again and put it. In I woke up and it's still January. It's been January for years now, How is that possible? I need scientists to get involved into step in, like someone called Bill nine, because how is it still January? I literally relate to that so hard, like January just took so long for it to be over. It's so interesting to me. I don't know, I think just because so much happened in the past month. It feels like we practically lived through half the year, if not a whole year. But nonetheless, happy February everybody. Now. This episode is actually inspired by a couple of comments that I've gotten on my social media's for social media's, social media platforms whatever, on my social media over the past few weeks, and these comments were typically found underneath either podcast clips or more commentary style videos, but specifically for like Instagram, TikTok, and so forth. In these types of videos, I typically talk about the struggles of being a tall woman and usually just try to relate that to the episode of the week. But there were two comments in particular that stood out to me. One was under a TikTok video about how tall women like hyper feminized themselves, and one person was like oh, petite women are more feminine. End of story. You can reason your way out of it. Don't try to convince men who don't like tall women to like them something like that. And that comment to me was pretty intense because I was like, if you listened to the entire video, I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything except I'm trying to convince tall women that tall women can be feminine. I'm not trying to convince men of anything. So I don't know where he or she or they got that from. And then the second comment that stood out to me was under a podcast clip over on Instagram. The clip was essentially about how we may act overly feminine so that people don't perceive us as masculine, and someone in the comments essentially put up a picture of a credit card or something. It was a fake credit card, of course, and it had victim card on top of it. How lovely, Just inspiring, motivational and supportive comments in my comment section. Love that, But I mean it's pretty evident that they don't really understand the struggle in a way. I mean, you don't even have to relate or understand, but just I don't know, have some type of respect of other people's struggles and insecurities, and it's like, just because it's unique to them and you don't get it, doesn't mean that you have to downplay it in a way. And it's interesting to me that people who don't necessarily understand, who don't really relate, downplay the insecurities that other people are talking about. And in this instance, it's regarding being tall as a woman. And it's not just comments like that that in a way kind of downplay our insecurities. There's also all other responses that are masked as compliments. I guess you could say so like, you're so lucky to be tall. I wish I had your height. You should just embrace it. Blah blah blah. These are common responses. That's all women get when they express an insecurity about their height, as if we're just gonna magically, in an instant love everything about being tall. Spoiler alert, that's not how it works. I mean, I don't get me wrong. Our height is definitely an asset. It's definitely a plus. It's definitely something that's amazing to have. But you know, there are flip sides to everything, and you know, not everything about being tall is amazing. So sometimes when you just express a struggle, express an insecurity, or just complain about it a little bit, getting responses like that is kind of awkward because it's like, you don't live in this height every single well most likely I'm not saying that everybody who says that is gonna be shorter than you, but for the most part, you don't. You're not living in this height every single day. Like, so some saying something like that, it's just like awkward, Like what what do you say to that? Like, yeah, okay for sure, But listen, this episode is not to convince anyone of anything, just to let tall women know, like, well, I guess convince someone, but convince tall women dad. Hey, Like, your insecurities are valid, your feelings about your height are valid, your experiences and so forth are valid. So when people try to downplay it, it's like it's just wrong, you know, But first, are tall women's insecurity is real? Well, when you consider not being able to find clothes that properly fit, getting rude comments relating to our height, or even just the pressures that come with being a tall woman, then yes, they're pretty real. I did want to pull over on Instagram, asking the Tall girlies, have you ever had insecurities about your height? Eighty two percent said yep, for a long long time, especially when I was younger, and eighteen percent said no, I've always loved my height. Okay, the eighteen percent of y'all. I need to know y'all's secrets, y'all's tricks, y'all's tips and tricks, y'all's hacks, because how literally, especially when you're younger, I feel like most of the insecurities come up when you're younger, and then you're older, it kind of like disappears in a way, like, yeah, there are times where were just like, ough, this really sucks because of my height. But for the most part, you're loving it. So but when you're like twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen, sixteen, and all your friends are like shorter than you, All of the guys that you have a crush on or want a date or whatever are shorter than you. Clothes just aren't fitting. You have adults making comments about your body about your height. How did you just say, yeah, I love being tall. I want to know, especially because a lot of the things that we've experienced occur at a very young age. It started at a very young age, when we're most vulnerable, when we are still mentally developing, when we're still so impressionable. Let's hear a little bit more about this from a tall creator. Okay, So I feel like we need to talk about the experiences of a young lady growing up tall. When you are a young lady and you're tall, especially if you got some weight on your dog, like, that was not the best experience to go through, like in any aspect of life, whether if it was love, clothes, life, live love life. Although that was just like what like you'll be mannio business walking down the hallway, somebody walk past, Dang, you'll be what am I fat? Thick or tall? Because you couldn't find any other words to use for me the only sports you could play or people just assumed you played basketball or track straight off the dome, like don't even know you play basketball? No, I just like school, I just go to school, get good grades. You should play back. Why should I play basketball? I don't know how to dribble, I don't know how to shoot. I don't not do it on that and for the uniforms, like it was so hard for me to wear like skirts and dresses and stuff because I was tall. So like they you know, the fingertip meth that never worked for me because my stuff was still short even now, Like I can't even wear like dresses that's supposed to be regular because they many skirts, many dresses on me. Like, I feel like this is a discussion that needs to be had, maybe not to the world, but just something that needs to be acknowledged, the tall girl thing that needs to be talked about, because it's a lot of women who are tall that's insecure because of their experiences as a chap Like in some of the stuff, like some of the stuff y'all was saying back then was crazy for us to be kids. That's tall women growing up, we often deal with insecurity surrounding clothing and dating and societal perceptions and so forth. And because we deal with these struggles often sometimes it can feel like being tall sucks. We feel out of place often, or we feel like we take too much space and so forth. And then to top it off, those feelings, those securities, those struggles often get dismissed. And that's the thing. It seems like people don't believe in height insecurities. Wait, I take that back. If it's a short guy, then it's understandable, But if it's a tall woman, then it's stupid and she's just seeking validation and attention. What's with that? I did run a poll over on my Instagram and just gonna do a little quick plug here. If you want to participate in these polls and have your opinions heard on these podcast episodes, make sure you follow me over on Instagram at a Tall Girls podcast. But I did run a poll asking you guys, do you think tall women's insecurities are taken seriously? Four percent said yes, they are eighty four a whopping eighty four percent of you guys said not really, and twelve percent said hmm, depends on the insecurity. I I don't want to say I'm flabbergasted that the second choice not really got eighty four percent. I don't want to say I'm surprised, because I honestly feel like, yeah, it's really not taking that seriously. But I don't know, I feel like I felt like some a lot of people, A lot more people were gonna say it depends on the insecurity, but I agree, I don't really think that tall women's insecurities are taken that seriously, not trying to say that, oh it's anything crazy or anything, but you know, we do have our unique struggles and sometimes I really think to myself, how does that even work? Like we're voicing our struggles and stuff, and you think that we're just seeking validation and attention, especially when there's people like this who exists in the world. I'm gonna play this right now. All girls are super insecure on dating apps and in real life. If you tall, if yo, if there's a girl and you joke that she's like six foot or more, oh, bro, biggest, that's like calling a guy short, calling a girl tall, because basically what you're saying is, hey, you are in a limited pool of dating. Not everybody's gonna like you. In fact, you're at a disadvantage dating. I'm telling you, I've been itching to find a way to incorporate this little clip, that video clip that you just heard. I've been trying to find a way to incorporate it in one of my episodes, and I finally did. And I just feel like my goal is accomplished. Like that video has been around for so long, like years now, and I believe the original creator, like the guy who originally posted it. I believe he took it down from his page, but it has been circulating because so many tall women have been doing stitches to this, so I feel accomplished including that in this. But anyways, something very interesting that he said was well along the lines of being tall as a girl, being tall as a woman is kind of like being short as a guy as a man. It's just interesting how he has to compare our insecurities to the insecurities of a short guy in order to get that point across. Moving on, why don't people take tall women's insecurities seriously? Two reasons. Number one, people downplay what they don't understand, and number two, interestingly, enough people see us as tough and strong and that we're able to and should handle it and not make a big deal out of it. The first reason is probably the most common. It tends to come from people who just don't relate, who just don't understand the struggle. But most of the comments saying, yeah, you're just playing the victim, you're making this so deep, or even just getting angry at me somebody they don't know for just talking about the struggles of being a tall woman. Most of them are men. Whatever. But not once has any of those comments come from a tall woman. Okay, yes, once, But it wasn't more of like, oh, you're playing the victim. Stop acting like that, stops seeking attention and all this validation and so forth type of way. It was more so like a hey, girley, we're too cute to be stressing right now, like let's stop stressing. And I'm like, yeah, period, Okay. Relax, we got it. We're good. We're too cute to be stressed, you know, too cute. But I don't know if I want to call this a little secret, but we'll say a little secret. A part of me thinks that some of these people are downplaying our insecurities because they secretly want our height. They're secretly jealous, and they're trying to they're kind of jealous in a way, and they're trying to say like more less of a oh, you're seeking attention validation type of thing, even though they're autred saying that, and more of a oh, like I would absolutely love to have what you have, like why you complaining about it? Type of thing. I believe that most of them absolutely want our height, and even in one comment, this was like on a YouTube on my YouTube, like way back when, not way back when, it was like a couple of months ago, Like somebody outright said that, like he would absolutely love to be tall. So I guess part of it is out of a thing of why you complaining because I absolutely want your height, And it's not really a thing of us saying we don't want to be Okay, some of us do say we don't want to be tall, but it's more of a thing of yes, like our height is NASA, it's a great thing, but there are also a lot of struggles that come from being tall. So yes, they don't relate, they don't understand, But then they're also downplaying it in a way because it's something that they wish they had, and it's kind of like, oh, why are you complaining about something that I wish I had? Like Okay, I mean you didn't have to yell at me in the comments, but whatever. And then the second one about you know, tall women being tough and being strong, this is a very interesting one. I actually found it on a Reddit thread and you know me, I love me a good Reddit thread and the post was titled why do people think that just because we're tall, we can't be insecure. And one response I found that really stood out to me and kind of brought up this point. One response was like, people assume that she's tough and strong because of her height, then treat her work than the average height woman because they think that she can handle it, which actually brings me to a video. I remember that, Okay, it's a tall woman. She is six foot unicorn. I believe that's her user name on Instagram and tiktak. I remember in like one of her videos. I think I'm trying to think that she tagged me in it, but I don't remember for sure, But if I can find it, i can. I'm gonna include it in this episode. But she was basically saying that just because I'm tall as a woman does not give you permission to treat me like one of your guy friends, or treat me like a guy, or treat me horribly or harshly. You still should be treating me like a woman. I'm gonna see if I can find that clip because that was such an interesting point that she made, Like, Hey, like, just because I'm tall, you should still be treating me as a woman, Like don't treat me harsher or worse just because I'm taller than the average hype woman. And the other thing, if we are tall, that we do play sports, We're not one of your boys. Don't speak to us or touch us aggressively as if we are not gentle women. We are still women. Y'all be losing y'all minds. This just really goes to show that people think that, oh, because we have our height, we can handle the insecurities better, or maybe they perceive us as stronger, tougher, more masculine because of our height. They're thinking, Oh, those comments shouldn't phase you. Oh those struggles shouldn't phase you. Why are you complaining? Shut up? You'll be fine. You can handle it. Like no, some of these things can actually take a toll on our self esteem and our confidence. It's just very strange to me. But no matter the reason that people are downplaying your insecurities, if you're a toll girl listening right now, you deserve to be treated with the utmost respect. And it's understandable that the struggles that you deal with as a tall woman in your day to day life can bring up some insecurities, can cause some insecurities. It's understandable. It's natural tall girls, your insecurities are valid. It's okay to feel frustrated with your height at times. Talking about your unique struggles as a tall woman is not playing the victim. It's just being real. If people can't relate to, if they can't understand, then that shouldn't mean that they should downplay your insecurities. They shouldn't downplay your experiences, they should downplay your feelings. Let's listen to this clip really quickly to get that little that little confidence boos, that little selflesstee moose, that that little pizazz. If you know what I. Mean for my relies, let me just say that you are beautiful. You are elegant and graceful. Yeah, the mad trip and fall, but we we're gonna prevail, okay, being five ten and beyond. Like literally, when you walk into a room, you turn heads like people gravitate towards you because of the confidence that it takes to be a tall woman. Like, yeah, the struggle is real because finding you means finding certain things that fit you. Know, our link is a struggle. Behay like embrace it, like literally, you're perfect. And while we're on the topic of insecurities, what was the biggest thing that made you feel insecure about your height? For me, it was group photos with my friends because when I was younger, I remember looking back at them and thinking to myself, why am I literally twice the height of everybody else. It wasn't a good feeling. But yeah, I'm gonna end the episode here. Thank you so much for tuning in. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you as always. Feel free to hit me up on my social side. A Tall Girls podcasts are all going to be linked below, And yeah, let's talk about our insecurities as a tall woman. You know, have you ever felt like people downplayed your insecurities as a tall woman? They just disregarded it. They thought that you were seeking validation or attention or do you feel the opposite. Do you feel differently about it? Let me know, hit me up, or just put it in the comments and let me know. And until then or until next time time, until the next episode. Yeah, I think I'll just catch you in the next one. Good night and goodbye.