Are Tall Women Actually Bullied Because of Their Height? | Online Harassment Towards Tall Women

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For today's episode, we were talking about online harassment and online bullying and how serious it is in terms of it occurring to tall women. And you're probably thinking online harassment bullying, what, Yes, Yes, this is something very important to talk about because with the rise of social media, with the rise of the Internet, it has now been easier than ever to be able to contact connect with random people who could be on the other side of the planet, right at your fingertips on your phone or really any device, phone, laptop, tablet, desktop, you name it. It's been so easy to just message anyone, comment under their posts, see their posts, anything. And while some of these opportunities for messaging and commenting and stuff, some of these can be private. Some of them are also public, especially when you're making these comments under public posts for people to see, or even posts of people who have like private settings, like you know how they have. When you have to request to follow somebody, their followers can still see your comments, unless you know they hide them and delete them and stuff. But other people can still see what other people, random strangers even area and this gives way to people cyber bullying and harassing people on social media and on the internet, especially women. I will say, now, what is online bullying and online harassment? According to the Durham University Report, it's the use of information and communication technologies by an individual or group to repeatedly cause harm to another person. So what does this look like? It includes offensive name calling, purposeful embarrassment, stalking, physical threats, harassment over a sustained period of time, sexual harassment, which is all very scary, and the use of online tools just makes doing any of that so much easier, and it makes it It also makes it easier for people to do it anonymously because let's say, if somebody is doing it to you face to face, they're going to have to you know, at least put like a mask on or disguise themselves or something like that. But still there are other opportunities to identify the person, like their voice or their eye color or DNA or anything like that. But with online tools, people can make anonymous profiles, pictureless profiles, and just go and basically say and do whatever they want on the internet for the most part. And the worst part is it's not even like you can fight them off or call the police unless it's something super super serious, because there's no face to face anything or anything to identify that person. All you have is a profile that they can delete any at any time and then just start a new one. So honestly, it's easy for anybody to get harassed online, including tall women, which is what I'm going to speak on today, because it really does affect our self confidence over time and honestly even our online safety. And I really want to stress the seriousness of this because it irritates me when people don't recognize that tall women actually get bullied, like they make it seem like the comments and the names just aren't a big deal. Literly do they know that these small comments cause tall women several years of insecurities in trauma. So what does online bullying and harassment towards tall women look like derogatory comments like you're too tall to be attractive, unsolicited advice like you shouldn't be wearing that dress because you look like a man. Body shaming like making online posts, messages and comments criticizing a tall woman's body, even sustained harassment where the same person will do these things over and over again over an extended period of time, which is a big one, and it honestly even happens to the best of us. I want to run this video really quickly of a creator talking about something. It involves Michelle Obama actually and how she was making a speech in a video and there were a lot of comments, a lot of rude comments towards her, I think transphobic comments towards her. And I will say that Michelle Obama is part of the lovely tellgirl community. She is five eleven, and something that I do want to bring up about this is that it is a little bit more than just her height. Is also the fact that she is a tall black woman. And I spoke about this in my previous episode with tall girl stereotypes and how people could potentially be more likely to call tall black women intimidating or trans or a man. But first let's run this clip from the creator. So I watched Michelle Obama's speech on YouTube yesterday and I saw this one clip and of course, amazing speech, amazing speaker, her and Obama amazing. But you know, I don't know what prompted me to check the comments of that video. I saw so many disgusting comments about her, so many transphobic comments, so many racist comments. It really breaks my heart that we are still in the space of mine of like being transphobic and general, you know, being so mean to tall, dark skinned black women. And she never even commented I think on the whole things about people talking about how she's a man or whatever. And honestly, I used to also follow suit. I need to follow suit. Those commentaries really hurt me because I'd be like, damn, you know, like to me, if you're seeing a girl that's like a man, then you're saying she's not pretty, and that would really hurt me as someone that's been you know, bullied a lot as a younger girl, like that would really really hurt me. Like growing up as a tall, plus sized black girl, a lot of trauma, a lot of trauma. She really really really does a good job of You know, while her whole spiel isn't why she doesn't do like tall girl preaching like I do, but but her not speaking in some way to me is still solidarity with not paying attention to those comments. And even though Michelle Obama did not see these comments, that doesn't mean that other people didn't. Like think about the fact that there are other tall, dark skinned women who are also looking at these comments as well. What do you think they're going to think about themselves? Because if they're calling Michelle Obama like the Muchelle Obama of all people, all of these rude names and saying disgusting things about her, what do you think they're gonna think about themselves? Something just a thought, just something to bring up. I don't know. It's just very interesting to me that a tall woman can just try to exist online in an online space or even build a community, grow a community, minding her own business, and there's just somebody there that will have something to say about her or have a problem with the fact that she's tall. And if you're watching the video version of this, I'm going to try to include some screenshots right now of just different posts and comment sections from tall women that I follow, tall women that I don't follow, but have seen some interesting things going on in their comment section, just to show you how prevalent it is that you know, tall women are harassed and people have just very interesting things to say about us online. And some of these screenshots aren't even gonna be the comments section. It's also gonna be captions from tall women talking about their experiences relating to them being harassed online. And I don't know if it's gonna be too fast for you guys, but I will say, just try to pause if you're watching the video version to read all of these through, because you know, sometimes they do post it on their stories with those disappear, they get messages, not everybody's gonna be able to see them, so they do talk about it in their captions, So definitely pause to read through these. Like I said before, tall women will just try to exist on the internet and someone keep in mind, it only takes one person. Someone will have something very inappropriate to say. You know what, let's do something right now, tall women, have you received negative remarks or bullying a harassment online because of your height? Let me know in the comments. In the meantime, I'll share Here are some messages and comments I've received online since proclaiming to the Internet, then I'm a tall girl. How much do you weigh? Please send a video of you in shorts. Please send a video of you in shorts. Please send a video of you in very short shorts. This was all from the same person. By the way, here we have another tall monkey. I really wish I had screenshots of these. I think that the comments and messages and online harassment has gotten so bad for tall women that some are now starting to say that they won't be talking about their height or even disclosing it on social media or online. And I probably should have said this at the beginning of the episode. But harassing someone online, bullying someone online, just because you can hide behind a screen or whatever or a faceless profile, it is not okay. It's never okay to do that to anyone, no matter who they are, because you don't know how that's going to affect them, affect their mental health, especially if they're a young and developing mind. Okay, there are six seven, eight years, there's children, there's children on social media. You don't know how you're gonna affect their mental state as they're growing up. So online harassment, online bullying is a no no here, okay. And if you're someone who is struggling with online bullying and online harassment, you are not alone, okay. You have options. There are resources out there on the Internet. And of course, if you have a loved one or a trusted one, especially an adult, definitely bring this issue to them. And there are so many ways now to deal with this online. I'm so glad that social media has definitely stepped out their game in this. I think that they could do more, obviously, but at least we're heading in the right direction. There are so many features now that were not previously available when I was, like in my teenage years or younger. Now they have I mean, obviously you have the option to report and block, but now you also have the option to restrict. You have the option to hide comments, you could always delete comments and so forth and so on. Make sure you're reporting those comments, make sure you're reporting those profiles, and make sure you're bringing this to other people's attention, because if it gets super serious at one point and you have to call the police or get the police involved, you have something there especially if it gets to the point of people stalking you. You have proof, you have something, you have witnesses. Do not keep this to yourself by all means. So the main point of this episode is because I just wanted to bring awareness to this that you know, tall women actually get bullied online. Tall women actually get harassed online. I mean, it does happen in real life too, but online is just gotten so bad nowadays, and you know, sometimes I really do feel like people just don't realize that tall women actually get bullied. I actually saw this post, I think it was a Reddit post a couple days ago, of someone saying that, you know, like, can people just admit that tell women actually get bullied And people just don't see it that way because many of them just find it social acceptable and they don't face repercussions for it. And I'm not saying, oh, like they get fought or get the police called on. But there are certain groups. If like people are bullied online or harassment line for like a specific feature like skin color or race, religion, whatever it is, there are some people within the community who clap back. It's not as prevalent or widespread that tall women clap back if that makes sense, and some people just feel like they can still do it because oh, like they don't find it that deep. Other people are doing it and you know, like people are not making a big deal out of it, so I could still do it because that's so cool a hahaha, too tall or I don't know, it's just so embarrassing for them, like why especially over height, Like why are you doing stuff like this? But some people have no lives, So that's all I'm gonna say to that. But I just wanted to bring awareness to this because I don't know, I think that Reddit post kind of inspired me a little bit when it's like, yeah, like people genuinely like don't face serious repercussions for the fact that they bully tell women and they find this, find this socially acceptable. That's just crazy to me. And going into twenty twenty five, at some point, I hope that we can make some changes to this. Anyways, that's the end of this episode. Thank you so much for doing it, and I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you as always. Feel free to hit me up on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast. All of that stuff is going to be linked in the description. You can let me know what you thought about this episode, let me know if you've been harassed, negative remarks or anything. We could talk about it. And like I said before, if this is something very serious and very bad that's happening to you, get help, do something about it. Don't just sit and watch and let it happen. You have the power to do something about it. Anyways, thank you so so so much again for making it up to this point of the episode. And if you're going to that Tall Size event, or if you've been to a Tall Size event, hit me up talk about it. And until then I'll catch in the next one. Good night and goodbye.