Are Tall Girls Unattractive?

Good morning everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who is tuning in today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say, make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast, on Instagram, TikTok, and Pinterest, so that you can stay up to date on all of the latest podcast episodes can catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave me review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. Everything is going to be linked to the description below. Quick question, Do y'all know that song that's like I can't feel my face way now I'm with you? That's exactly how I feel right now. Okay, not the entire not the entire lyric. Okay, I'm not saying that I can't feel my face when I'm with you, per se and quite frankly, if I can't feel my face, I should really be at the hospital right now instead of recording this episode. Okay, this is a figure of speech's figure just take it figuratively and not literally. I can't feel my face trying to study for these finals. How would that fit in the song I can't feel my face when I'm studying for midterms. Okay, it doesn't ring well, it doesn't ring well, but you get the point. I'm pretty sure you're tired of me talking about midterms, complaining about midterms, just like how I'm super tired of studying for these midterms, doing all these projects for these midterms. I am so over it. But by the time this episode is up, I will have only one one thing left for this midterm season and it's over. So I just have to get through the first half of this coming week and just go from there. And that last project that I have do, it's not even that bad, is just making a video and editing it. It's like I already do that, like on a daily basis. So okay, let me stop. I'm saying it's not that bad. But then for some reason, somehow, someway, something is gonna make it more difficult than it needs to be. I don't know. This project is from like a class that had like a two part, no, a three, two and a half part I'll just say a two and a half part. We have the first project and I was like, yes, Like, after I turn this in, I don't have to worry about anything else. No, immediately after we turned in, and he wanted us to provide feedback to other projects. And then we have to do a follow up for the first project, which I have to do, which is the video getting somebody else to provide feedback on our first project, and we have to record them speaking about it and then edit it into a video and post it online. It's almost over. That's That's what I'm gonna keep telling myself. After I turn into this project, I'm free. I have another question, do you think tall girls are unattractive? If you answered yes to that question, do all of us a favor and just click off this podcast. Thanks. Anyways, you're probably wondering, like, what the heck is this girl on she asking this question? But this was actually based off of a request that I got from one of you guys. Someone lets a comment under one of my videos talking about, you know, feeling undesirable, feeling unattractive as a tall woman. And I thought this was very interesting because this is something I haven't really spoken about on this podcast, and I've had this for like two and a half years, and I haven't really spoken about that topic in general. I mean, there were like a few snippets or a few moments where I would talk about tall women and femininity, or people would think that the taller you are, the less feminine you are, or you feel more masculine because you're taller than a lot of the other women out there, and you feel like this big monster and YadA, YadA yad, but not really unattractiveness or undesirability itself, you know what I mean. It is strange that I've never spoken about it like that, because there were times that I felt very unattractive or very undesirable because of my height, especially in my teenage years. You know that time period where you would have your growth spurt, and yes, you're coming to the end of that grossperd, but there are other people that hate grossburds much later in life, especially the boys, and you're just towering over everyone, and it's just hard to feel as though people would see you as beautiful because to them, you're just this big person. And because my limbs were longer and my hands were bigger, and my frame was just bigger than a lot of my peers, I just felt like I stuck out, but not in a good way, kind of like Bigfoot. That's like a bad thing to compare myself to, but that's like genuinely what I thought of myself as, like the less hairy because Bigfoot, I'm pretty sure is extremely hairy, the less hairy version of Bigfoot. So I felt like I was scary to others, intimidating to others, and that necessarily is not attractive because there'd be people in your ears saying, oh, if a woman is very taller, if a woman is taller than a guy, then she's unattractive, and that's not the case, never was, and never will be. I feel like that statement in and of itself is really based off of like very traditional societal standards because way back in the day, I guess, it was believed that the men should always be taller than the women, or men should be taller than their partner in the relationship because it indicates like power, dominance and those features should be associated with men, and that that's just very eighteen hundreds, nineteen hundreds. I'm sorry if you were born in that time. Okay, if you were born in the eighteen hundreds, how are you still alive? But in the nineteen hundreds, like I'm not coming for you. Okay, everybody is entitled to their own opinion, to their own viewpoint. But it's twenty twenty three. We're better than this. We're more accepting nowadays. And the fact that we're still thinking about prehistoric standards from hundreds of years ago, it's just a little bit concerning to me, Like, just because you're the taller one in the relationship, and this can go for anything, to go man, woman, whatever it may be, just because you're the taller one in a relationship, it doesn't make you any less attractive, or it doesn't mean that you are tied down to particular personality traits. Like if y'all love each other, the height, it just doesn't matter at all. So I can definitely under stand the feeling a little bit, because it's not that you yourself makes yourself feel unattractive, if that makes sense. It's just other people kind of like trying to confine you in some type of box that makes you feel that other people see you that way. And if other people see you that way, then you start to feel bad about yourself. I start questioning, especially if your self esteem is just on the rocks. It's on a very rocky road, because that was definitely me and my teenagers. If your self esteem is on a rocky road and people are just like basically making you feel like you're ugly, then you start to actually question, oh my gosh, am I actually ugly? Am I actually this big free? Yeah? I was called a big figure. I it was called a giant freak. I was called a lot of things that made me feel like this huge monster. And I would see the way people would look at me, And yes, there were times where older people have said, how are you ever going to find a man being that tall? And I'm like, what is wrong with you? Like I'm sorry that you're five to one, but like that's like what does that have to do with me? Like I was. I came out the womb and my jeens was like my genetics were like, Okay, this girl is gonna be tall. There's nothing I can do about that at all. I Am not going to surgically make myself shorter because I could use that money to buy food. So I'm just gonna live with it. I'm going to embrace it, and there's no problem in doing that, Okay. I like to say to myself that the greatest things come in the biggest packages. Okay, when you get those Amazon orders at your door and you see the bigger boxes, you're gonna want to open those first because you know that those are gonna be better than the smaller ones. I'm just saying, don't come for me, don't come for me. That I'm just saying, let me stop. No tea, no shade, no hate to the shorter folks out there, but I'm just saying so I'm just gonna say it, plain and simple. People have their own personal preferences. You're gonna be too tall for one person, too short for the next, and just write for somebody else. The whole attractive thing is it's it's completely subjective, and not to mention there are a lot of factors that go into actually being considered attractive, Like physical is just part of it. And think about it this way. It's like physical is probably a good thirty percent and personality wise is a good seventy percent. And of the thirty percent of the physical traits, height is a very very very tiny percentage in that as well, because there's a lot that goes into physical as well. It's it's your face shape, it's your smile, it's your hair, it's it's just a lot of even the clothes that you wear. It's just a lot of things that go into somebody would consider physically attractive and quite literally, quite frankly, not like nobody has everything that a person wants physically in a person and another person in their partner or whoever, you're not going to have everything that your partner or anybody else wants. Just says they're not going to have everything that you want. And then on top of that, you're completely disregarding the other seventy percent of like the personality. I'm pretty sure you have a great personality, like sense of humor, and your intelligence, your hobbies, your passions, your interests, the things that you have in common with these people. There's just there's a lot that goes into it. And it's like height, like it's if you think about it, it's so minute that it really shouldn't even be that much of a consideration. And then to add on to that even more confidence, I believe personally, in my opinion, not everybody's the same, but I feel like this can go for a lot of people as well. Confidence does play a big role in being considered attractive. So if you are a tall woman or a tall girl who's like hunched over, trying to make yourself small, not making eye contact with people because you don't want to feel as though you stick out or stand out from the crowd too much, and you're just hiding in a corner that doesn't display confidence. And in that case, it's not necessarily your height that's making you unattractive quote unquote, it's the lack of confidence that is making you unattractive quote unquote, because there's just something about somebody that just walks into a room as if they own it, but not in a very arrogant way, like they walk in knowing that they're that person, they're that girly, they're baddie or whatever. Walk in with their backstraight, shoulders back, head held high, make it eye contact with people, smiling, Please smile, please smile. A lot of us have those like scary resting faces. Me included, I argue us a defense mechanism living in New York City that you got to have a scary, resting face so that people don't mess with you. But smile, lighten up, release all of the tension that's in your shoulders, your neck, and your jaw and just be free and be happy, you know, look happy, look like you want to be there, and look like you actually want to talk to people. I know that's hard at times, because there are definitely moments where I don't want to talk to people, But you know, in the times that you do actually and that's okay, okay, and the times that you do actually want to talk to people actually look like it, you know what I mean. So there's just like a lot of things besides height that goes into what is considered attractive. So the correct answer to the question that I previously at answer is no, talkers are not unattractive. If they find you ugly, they're ugly, period, point blank, full stop. What makes a person ugly is if they treat people nasty, if they talk horribly behind people's backs without any justification, and if they just do very terrible things to other people and find pleasure in that or find humor in that. That's what makes it person ugly, not their height or not really their physical traits unless they stink. I don't even think that's a physical trait. But if they stink, please wash yourself. But I'm just saying that height, does it really make you unattractive? It's just really based off of personal preferences. That's it, and that's something that I, along with many other people, have had to come to terms with. It's not the yes, you feel unattractive, you feel undesirable because that person you don't fall within that person's preferences. But that doesn't mean that you're going to be unattracted to everybody else. There's billions, billions of people on this planet. Just because you don't fit into one or two, or three, or five or seven or ten or a thousand people's preferences in terms of hide or physical traits, there's still like those other hundreds of millions and billions of people that are out there in the world. You just got to find the right person and you will one day. Everything takes time. All good things take time. And don't hide yourself or try to make yourself smaller for the sake of not feeling quote unquote attractive. Like it's just it. Everybody is attractive in their own way, and you shouldn't have to hide yourself because then at that point you'll actually be hiding your attractiveness because is what you may or may not find what you may find attractive about yourself somebody could think differently, And what you may find unattractive about yourself, somebody else can find it differently. It's everything is different. So if you're tall and you don't like standing out from the crowd, get used to it. There's no getting out of this one, and I will leave you with that. Okay, you're beautiful, you are attractive. What's more important. What's most important is that you find yourself beautiful. You find yourself awesome, you find yourself funny, you find yourself intelligent, you find yourself amazing. You find yourself ambitious, driven, determined, you view yourself as a go getter. What is most important is that you view yourself as those things, and soon enough other people will see you that way because it just radiates from you. It's just important to look within yourself and make sure that you're taking care of yourself and you're talking nicely to yourself, and you will be fine. Okay, you're not unattracted. You're probably one of the most attractive people I've ever met on this planet period. Okay, and it is time that you start saying that to yourself, that you are one of the most attractive people that you have ever met. Period. And that's what we're telling ourselves this week, all week, all day, all week, a month, all year, the rest of our lives. Period. Okay, I'm gonna stop saying period. I said like twenty times and you're probably annoyed by that. Thank you so so much for tuning into this episode. I really appreciate and I appreciate you as always. Feel free to hit me up on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast on Instagram, TikTok, and Pinterest and just let's just talk. Let me know, how's life, how's everything going, what's the vibe? Has anybody called you ugly? Who are we fighting? Because that is so not allowed in this podcast at all. And yeah, if you want to talk about me, if you're going through mid terms two, hit me up because we're all in this together. I'm singing way too much in this podcast. I am not a singer. Let me stop. Also, don't forget to leave me a review. Everything is going to be linked in the description and I will catch you in the next one. Good night and goodbye.