Wear The Short Shorts | How To Build The Confidence To Wear Whatever You Want

Good morning everybody. You are currently listening to a Tall Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I hope everyone who is listening today is doing super fantastic. Before I get into this episode, I do want to say make sure you're following me on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast, on Instagram, TikTok, and Pinterest, so that you could stay up to date on all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also, feel free to leave me a review and let me know how tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. Everything is going to be linked in the description. Fun fact, today's episode is inspired by one of my reels that I posted over on my Instagram. It went something along the lines of where what you want to wear, no matter how tall you are or how sure you are, just where whatever it is that you want to wear or whatever you feel comfortable in it, or whatever you think looks good on you, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. And I feel like it really resonated with you guys. That got a lot of comments, a lot of comments, and a lot of shares and a lot of story reposts because people were posing it on their stories as well, and I just thought to myself, why not turn it into a full episode. And it's summer, even though it's practically halfway over, actually more than halfway over, yes, more than halfway over, but it's still summer, suns out, buns out, and I think that it's probably one of the best times of the year to just be confident and just put yourself out there. You're more energized, there's more daylight outside. You want to use that to your advantage and just try to be your best self before you go. Not to say that you can't do that in the fall. In the winter time, it's just a little bit harder, especially when it's colder. I mean, I don't really recommend you wear shorts in the fuller winter. And that's so funny because when I went to high school, there was this one I took French. Okay, I took French for four years. Everybody was in that class, the same exact class all four years, and there was this one person in my French class that would always wear shorts. First of all, he would wear the same exact alpha every day, a blue shirt, a blue T shirt with a blue zip up hoodie with red shorts, and he would wear that every day. I don't know if he had different pairs or multiple pairs of the same thing, or if he watched it every day, or if he just never washed it in the first place, but he would always wear shorts, even in the winter time, and he would commute. Yes, he would take the bus in shorts in twenty degree weather. Well, there was one time where he wore a pair of jeans, but besides that, he would wear shorts. So I don't I don't recommend being like him and wearing shorts or anything that is too exposing in the winter unless we want to get cold, unless it's your ride, that's on you. But summertime, we out here, we outside. So I just figured why not do an entire episode on gaining confidence, on wearing what you want to wear and looking your best and feeling your best, especially if you have some insecurities about your body, which we all probably do. I happen to be one of those people who had the insecurities growing up. Well, I'm not gonna lie. I still have my insecurities, but they are not as intense as they were when I was younger. Growing up, I did not have the funnest time with clothes. I could wear a pair of shorts and immediately get dress coated. At school, I could wear the same pair of shorts and I would have family members tell me that I need to cover up more. Or I could wear a skirt and I would walk around in public trying to keep it down as much as possible out of fear of flashing somebody. Those are one of my best moments to feel so shameful of my long legs, and the name calling didn't help at all. I was literally called Mommy long legs throughout middle school. I don't understand how eleven year olds could be that brutal. And then I had to make friends with the women's section at JC Penny. We've been through this. We've been through this several times. I've said in my earlier episodes that I would have to shop in the women's section at JC Penny because nothing was ever long enough for me in the kids section or in the section for people my age at that time. And I'm not gonna lie to you, I did not like the clothes at all. I thought that they were ugly. I thought that they were only meant for like moms or women on the older side, which is a lie because I actually have a lot of my LEVI jeans. I'd get that from J. C. Penny. So Jac Penny has the goods. I just didn't know how to find them when I was younger, because I mean I was eleven. What what was I doing? I didn't know what I was doing. It was just extremely frustrating because I could not find clothing that were long enough to fit my length or long enough to the point where I was comfortable wearing it out in public and people were not talking crap to my face and behind my back. This would lead me to feel so self conscious. I did not feel confident in what I was wearing because A I didn't even like it, and B I was scared that people were also going to make more common so what I was wearing besides the fact that I was tall, so a lot of the kids that were around my age we were always like, oh my gosh, where did you get that from? Or oh my gosh, that's so ugly. Do you remember the what are those era? Do you even remember that era? I would always get that. So I went to a Catholic school from third to eighth grade, so part of elementary school and middle school or is it elementary and middles whatever. Elementary and middle school went to a Catholic school. We would wear uniforms, but we would always have dress down days where we would have to pay a dollar I guess as a donation to the church. In a way, we would have to pay a dollar to be able to just wear what we want or just dress down. Obviously not wear everything that we want, because we had to be respectful. We had to cover up the YadA YadA ya. But you were allowed to wear shorts, you were allowed to wear dresses. You were allowed to wear skirts and stuff like that, as long as they were at a certain length. And I couldn't really wear the shorts. I couldn't really wear the skirts. I couldn't really wear the dresses because I would literally get dress coded. So I would wear the stuff that I would get from the women's section at JC Penny, and everybody would make fun of me for it. They're like, what are those? Or where'd you get that from? That's so ugly and all that stuff. It just it was not a good feeling. It was not a good feeling growing up, especially it happening to me for so many years. So it's either where what I wanted to wear, but then get the stairs and the comments and the dirty looks, or wear what was considered appropriate, but then be made fun of that because I'm an eleven year old in pants that looked like they should be on their forty year old moms. I don't know what to tell you. It was a lose lose situation at that point. And keep in mind this was done to me, or this all happened when I was a child and I took that fear of being stared at or having those comments come for my life, or I took those insecurities into my adulthood. And I'm not the only tall girl out there. I was. I'm not the only one who is tall as a child. I'm not the only one that's tall now. So imagine the number of tall girls that experiences growing up and taking these fears, in these insecurities to their adulthood. That's not okay. We should not be afraid to wear what we want. We shouldn't be afraid to show our legs in public, or wear shorts, or wear skirts, or wear dresses. Because people just don't know how to keep their mouth shut. Yes, everybody has their opinions on what people wear. It is what it is. But you don't need to go up to an eleven year old child, a ten year old child and say that because you don't know how that's going to affect them, not just now but also in the future. And going off of that, if a grown folk is making a child keyword here, child, not even just a child, anyone in general. If a grown folk is making a child or anyone in general feel bad about what they're wearing, or feeling to care about what they're wearing, or making them feel scared to wear what they want to wear, and all that stuff. Ay, they're strange, they're weird, like, don't you have a job, don't you have something to do with your life besides worry about what other people are wearing. But they are projecting their insecurities onto that person, especially if it's a child, because I feel like when adults are not really allowed to do the things that they wanted to do because their parents may have been strict or be helicopter parents, or they just may come from a very interesting household. Seeing a child live out the life or live out the way that they wanted to live when they were a child can evoke some negative emotion within them because they're like, they get to do it when they were a child, but I'm not allowed to do that, or I was not allowed to do that when I was a child. So they just take out that trauma, past trauma, or take out those insecurities onto that child or onto that person. And that's not okay because who in their right mind is going to go up to a stranger who happens to be tall and be like, oh my gosh, your legs are too long for those pants, Like, don't let other people's unhealthy coping mechanisms make you feel bad about yourself. That's a dumb problem, not yours. And these type of people sniff out the people that are uncomfortable in what they're wearing or not confident in what they're wearing. What do I mean by that? So let's say you bought a blouse and it looks cute on the model or look cute on the mannequin, and you think they'll look cute on your body, so you purchase it and you get it, you try it on, and it's just not it's not working out. It's not hugging the right places. It's not fitting in the right places. It just looks strange, and that's completely normal, and that's okay because everybody's body is different. What works for you, it may not work for somebody else, and vice versa. But you still decide to wear that blouse out anyways to It could be an out in with friends or family, or go to the park, whatever it may be. But you have that image in your head of you just not looking correct or not looking good in that blouse, and you're going throughout the day just not feeling comfortable or not feeling confident because you think that you don't look great in that blouse. And it happens. It happens to everybody. But because you have that image in your head that you don't look great in that blouse, it can show. It shows to other people. That type of energy radiates to other people, they can tell when you're just not feeling it. In being confident in what you're wearing, it also means being comfortable in what you're wearing, wearing what works for you, Wearing what you feel good in, which you feel great in which you think you look good in. And that means experimenting with different things, experimenting with different fabrics, experimenting with different shapes, experimenting with different styles, experimenting with different colors. I can use myself as an example. I do not like bright colors for the life of me. I'm not gonna say that I hate it, because that's a very strong word, but I don't like wearing bright colors. However, I don't want to wear black all the time either, or gray all the time either, because I think that color would look good on me. So to kind of get the best of both worlds, I try to stray away from the neons and the bright yellows and bright pints and stuff like that, and try to go for darker colors. I go for darker green, darker red. I go for brown, navy blue, magenta, a darker purple, stuff like that. So I can wear what I want to wear, wear the colors that I want to wear, but also be comfortable in what I'm wearing or feel confident what I'm wearing because I prefer those colors versus the brighter colors. So try not to force yourself to wear stuff that you think that other people will think you would look good in. Or try not to force yourself to wear things that you think is trendy, this, that, and the other. You should be wearing stuff that you like and you feel confident and you feel comfortable, and that's the most important part, feeling comfortable in what you're wearing. Nowadays, now that I worked my way up to becoming less insecure about my height, I can wear a robber. I can wear a dress. I'm not gonna say a worsk or I'm not there yet, but I will get there soon once I find the right skirt for me. I can wear a robber, and I can wear a dress and it doesn't necessarily have to be black. It can be a dark blue or a dark green, and I can still feel comfortable in it. So finding comfort in what you're wearing is probably the best advice I can give you, because if you look good, you feel good, and if you feel good, you look good math. So if it's comfortable for you, where the dress, wear the shorts, where the skirt, No, your legs are not too long for those things. Your legs need to breathe, your legs need fresh air. Trust me, they're screaming right now. Summer is not the time to be covering them up. I understand how hard it can be, and with a little bit of courage and a dash of delusion, we will be brave enough to where whatever it is that we want to wear. Because you are so unique and you are you, are you, you are one you. There's only one you, and people will get jealous that you are brave enough to embrace yourself, embrace your features, embrace your personality, embrace whatever is unique for you. They will be so jealous that they will project their insecurities onto you and try to put you back in the little bubble that they are stuck in. And we can't let that happen, no way, Jose. So I hope that this idea resonated with you. I hope that this stuck with you in some shape or form, because I know that my legs are going to be out all summer. They need a tan. They're looking pale. They're looking so pale. I need to tan these legs. They're going to be out, especially while the sun is blaring. When the sun is blaring, these legs are out. These legs are getting tan, and it's okay. And I think we need to start being kinder to each other. We don't need to be insulting people or making them feel bad for what they're wearing, or how they look, or how they act, how they say things and their accents and stuff like that. Especially, we're things that they can't control. That's the biggest thing. A lot of people cannot control what they're born with. They cannot control how they were raised or how they've grown up. But the best thing to do is control how you act when other people are trying to bring you down or make you feel bad. I hope you take this idea with you into the rest of the summer, the rest of the month, the rest of the year, and the rest of your life. I'm gonna end up here. Thank you so so much for tuning into this episode. I really appreciate it, and I appreciate you as always. Feel free to hit me up on my socials at a Tall Girls podcast and let me know what you're wearing this summer. The one summer item that you need in your wardrobe, the one summer I don't that you're wearing every single day from your wardrobe mind is my favorite pair of Levi's shorts. I like how long they are. They're long enough to the point where I am comfortable to wear them out in public and will not try to attack me for wearing shorts. But they also show enough legs so I can get some sunlight on them, let them get some fresh air, you know what I mean. So hit me up on my socials on a Tall Girls podcast and let me know the one thing in your wardrobe that you are wearing every single day this summer. Also, feel free to leave me a review and let me know how tall you are. Everything is going to be linked in the description and I will catch you with the next one. Good night and goodbye.